Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - Dealing with Criticism

[Guest guest]

Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - " Dealing with Criticism "

Is it hard for you to deal with criticism? Does it make you feel worthless

or angry?

How you respond to other people's criticism depends to a great extent on how

critical you are of yourself. If you were raised by critical parents, who

caused you to believe that making mistakes was shameful, you probably have a

hard time when other people criticize you now that you're grown.

That's because you have internalized your parents' critical voices and have

developed a harsh critical voice of your own. When your self-esteem is low,

it's especially painful to be criticized by others because it activates all

your own feelings of worthlessness.

But now that you're a grown up, it's time to look at the beliefs you have

about yourself and get rid of the ones that are keeping you down and making

you feel unworthy. It is time to remind yourself, over and over again if

need be, that it's OK to make mistakes. Everybody does it once in a while.

In fact, trial and error is one of the most effective ways we learn.

Once you realize making mistakes is no big deal, you free yourself to look

at the criticism you're getting from others and ask yourself if it's

justified. If it's not, you can just shrug it off. If it is, you can learn

from it. You can apologize if you've behaved badly and state your intention

to do better next time without groveling, feeling humiliated or angry

retaliation.

You can take responsibility for your strengths and for your weaknesses

without making yourself a victim and without judging or blaming others or

yourself.

Lou Tice

The Pacific Institute

www.thepacificinstitute.com

" TPI teaches people how to manage change, set and achieve goals, lead more

effectively, and think in ways that create success. "

Blessings,

Charlene

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[Guest guest]

Yeeeaaahhhh... the winners circles are back. I truly love reading

these...

Darla

In AffirmationstoDe-Stress , Charlene

<just4affirmations@y...> wrote:

> Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - " Dealing with Criticism "

>

> Is it hard for you to deal with criticism? Does it make you feel

worthless

> or angry?

> How you respond to other people's criticism depends to a great

extent on how

> critical you are of yourself. If you were raised by critical

parents, who

> caused you to believe that making mistakes was shameful, you

probably have a

> hard time when other people criticize you now that you're grown.

>

> That's because you have internalized your parents' critical voices

and have

> developed a harsh critical voice of your own. When your self-esteem

is low,

> it's especially painful to be criticized by others because it

activates all

> your own feelings of worthlessness.

>

> But now that you're a grown up, it's time to look at the beliefs

you have

> about yourself and get rid of the ones that are keeping you down

and making

> you feel unworthy. It is time to remind yourself, over and over

again if

> need be, that it's OK to make mistakes. Everybody does it once in a

while.

> In fact, trial and error is one of the most effective ways we learn.

>

> Once you realize making mistakes is no big deal, you free yourself

to look

> at the criticism you're getting from others and ask yourself if it's

> justified. If it's not, you can just shrug it off. If it is, you

can learn

> from it. You can apologize if you've behaved badly and state your

intention

> to do better next time without groveling, feeling humiliated or

angry

> retaliation.

>

> You can take responsibility for your strengths and for your

weaknesses

> without making yourself a victim and without judging or blaming

others or

> yourself.

>

> Lou Tice

> The Pacific Institute

> www.thepacificinstitute.com

>

> " TPI teaches people how to manage change, set and achieve goals,

lead more

> effectively, and think in ways that create success. "

>

>

>

> Blessings,

>

> Charlene

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you Darla...I am glad that you appreciate me sharing them with the group.

I'm sorry that I have been scarce lately...I have been really hit hard with

every sickness going around for the past month. I have been sick every weekend

for the past four weeks up until this past weekend when I finally felt normal

again...well, at least 98%. As much as I love spring, it really does a number

on my allergies and asthma...then I catch the dreaded sinus infections. I had

two within the past month, along with bronchitis and laryngitis. We had a very

wet beginning of the year here in Arizona and that brought ALOT of wildflowers

and grasses...which were beautiful....we haven't seen the desert so green in

over 10 years. However, along with the allergies, we are preparing for an evil

wildfire season now that everything is drying up.

Anyhow, I will try to keep them coming....

Peace,

Charlene

Darla Majick wrote:

Yeeeaaahhhh... the winners circles are back. I truly love reading

these...

Darla

In AffirmationstoDe-Stress , Charlene

<just4affirmations@y...> wrote:

> Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice - " Dealing with Criticism "

>

> Is it hard for you to deal with criticism? Does it make you feel

worthless

> or angry?

> How you respond to other people's criticism depends to a great

extent on how

> critical you are of yourself. If you were raised by critical

parents, who

> caused you to believe that making mistakes was shameful, you

probably have a

> hard time when other people criticize you now that you're grown.

>

> That's because you have internalized your parents' critical voices

and have

> developed a harsh critical voice of your own. When your self-esteem

is low,

> it's especially painful to be criticized by others because it

activates all

> your own feelings of worthlessness.

>

> But now that you're a grown up, it's time to look at the beliefs

you have

> about yourself and get rid of the ones that are keeping you down

and making

> you feel unworthy. It is time to remind yourself, over and over

again if

> need be, that it's OK to make mistakes. Everybody does it once in a

while.

> In fact, trial and error is one of the most effective ways we learn.

>

> Once you realize making mistakes is no big deal, you free yourself

to look

> at the criticism you're getting from others and ask yourself if it's

> justified. If it's not, you can just shrug it off. If it is, you

can learn

> from it. You can apologize if you've behaved badly and state your

intention

> to do better next time without groveling, feeling humiliated or

angry

> retaliation.

>

> You can take responsibility for your strengths and for your

weaknesses

> without making yourself a victim and without judging or blaming

others or

> yourself.

>

> Lou Tice

> The Pacific Institute

> www.thepacificinstitute.com

>

> " TPI teaches people how to manage change, set and achieve goals,

lead more

> effectively, and think in ways that create success. "

>

>

>

> Blessings,

>

> Charlene

> __________________________________________________

>