- marriage

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Hi :

I too wanted " more " in my marriage once I began to figure out what

the problem was in my family and how it was screwing me up!

My husband and I saw a marriage therapist, and it really did help.

We went for YEARS and it was worth it.

I highly recommend it!

P.S. The book " Love is A Choice " (about Codependents Anon) got me

started. And the book " Getting the Love You Want " helped too.

Barb

He grew up in an alcoholic family and he doesn't like to make

committments. He prides himself on not needing or relying on

anybody. I knew it when I married him and at that time it was okay

with me because of my KO issues. It was perfectly fine that we had a

marriage where we each did our own thing all the time. It's probably

one thing that attracted me to him. But now since I've been in

therapy that's not what I want. I'm tired of each of us having

> our own TV and always watching TV separately. I want someone to go

to the

> bookstore with me and browse. I want to feel a connection to

someone. But

> even though he doesn't connect emotionally he does nice things.

For example

> after dinner tonight he went to the grocery store and bought me

some ice

> cream. Right now I'm having trouble assimulating the two. My

sloppy joes

> became the be all and end all. But anyway you now have me thinking

what can

> I add to the meal next time that my husband and one son would like.

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