Re: Re: How men and women feel while battling autism...

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"===>You're not saying, are you , that women don't have or use critical logic? "I expect that we are roughly equally well endowed in critical logic.  But when it becomes necessary to take care of someone in trouble we all have different thresholds about where we are prepared to give up prejudices in order to be successful.  Especially being able to be critical and caring and practical at the same time, apparently.This discussion could get as deep as we want...----- Original Message -----From:  Wade I wonder if all the critical logic we are immersed in makes it difficult for many men  to handle the contradictions involved in getting practical treatment and care to work?===>You're not saying, are you , that women don't have or use critical logic? There are people who have no trouble in doing something that works out in practice, however wrong it appears intellectually.   Others get hog tied in this situation.  The best way is to be able to think in several ways in parallel without getting one's pants knotted  around one's own ankles...  But who can do it/

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"===>You're not saying, are you , that women don't have or use critical logic? "I expect that we are roughly equally well endowed in critical logic.  But when it becomes necessary to take care of someone in trouble we all have different thresholds about where we are prepared to give up prejudices in order to be successful.  Especially being able to be critical and caring and practical at the same time, apparently.This discussion could get as deep as we want...----- Original Message -----From:  Wade I wonder if all the critical logic we are immersed in makes it difficult for many men  to handle the contradictions involved in getting practical treatment and care to work?===>You're not saying, are you , that women don't have or use critical logic? There are people who have no trouble in doing something that works out in practice, however wrong it appears intellectually.   Others get hog tied in this situation.  The best way is to be able to think in several ways in parallel without getting one's pants knotted  around one's own ankles...  But who can do it/

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Hi Kim -

I do something that was suggested to me after talking about a Special

Needs Trust. It's called a Letter of Intent and it carries weight

should something happen if you don't have other documents. I got it

from Mass Mutual Special Care person who came to talk about this stuff

with us. http://www.massmutual.com/mmfg/prepare/specialcare/index.html

They gave me a CD w/ a Letter of Intent strutured where you input the

information. It's very long and cumbersome the first time you do it

but updating isn't bad ie diagnosis, doctors, school information, where

you want child to live, parent info, siblings - so much more. The

suggestion is to update it every birthday - which I do and make sure

his grandparents get a copy as well.

If people are interested I can post a copy in the files section (it may

take me a little while to find the CD Rom).

Laureen Quoting karicreehan :

> Kim

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> I worry about the same thing...what if something were to happen to me?

> I have a biomed notebook that I think someone could follow. My

> husband at least knows what supplements we give, but he'd have no idea

> where to order them. Maybe he'd be smart enough to get on my e-mail

> and ask all of you what to do

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> We just started SCD and we almost fought over whether or not he should

> learn how to make 's " pancakes " . I was so frustrated. I got sick

> about two weeks ago and couldn't help but think...who's going to do

> this if I get any worse. I really need to write everything down.

> with lots of directions. for my friend to follow...I know my husband

> couldn't/wouldn't/probably shouldn't. My mom would be able to do it,

> but she lives 6 hours away. It's kind of scary. I wish there were a

> little more interest on my hubby's part for sure. It would give me

> some peace of mind.

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> Kari

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>> > > > - Stan

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