Guest guest Posted January 6, 2002 Report Share Posted January 6, 2002 Hi Chelle, Welcome to the group, and from coming out from " lurker " mode:-) Martie > Hi, I just wanted to introduce myself. I have been lurking here for a > while, and I read all the messages each day, but only now have a had a > chance to type. > > My name is Chelle, I am 26 and I live in Melbourne, Australia. I have been > doing BFL on and off since 1999, more off than on, but my husband and I > have now found a gym that opens at 5.00am, so we shouldn't be falling off > the wagon again. We signed up for 20 months. My sister-in-law is was in the > top 2000 for 2000, and she now competes in Body building contests. While I > don't want to compete I would love a body likes hers. > > Chelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 26, 2002 Report Share Posted July 26, 2002 In a message dated 7/26/02 11:55:57 AM Eastern Daylight Time, thanksforthisday@... writes: > . I > didn't get mad this time at all. That's new. I didn't obsess about > what she was trying to do. That's new. > Glad you are back and glad you have these " new " things in your favor! Hugs, Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 26, 2002 Report Share Posted July 26, 2002 Kathleen, Kathleen, Tell me if you get any roses anytime soon. I just finished my novena to St.Therese for you yesterday and that's the first time I've ever done a novena. I admit I also prayed for myself and my nada too. But I think it's really cool how you're experiencing this 'new' flavor of emotional reactions. It only reaffirms my intial belief that prayer does work. I think you had a couple of other people on here doing the novena for you to except to our lady of Gaudalupe? That's what prompted me to pray a novena by their suggestions. Not sure, but when a bunch of people ban together and pray for a person, it's almost like one can see this invisible halo going over the person. I know I've felt it at times, like I can feel when someone's praying really strongly for me and at other times I might see a picture or hear a song or something that triggers me about a friend or loved one and I think " I need to pray for them right now. " Later on I always am amazed to hear how accurate it was with how they were in a pickle or something and just needed that little extra boost. Happened for me a few times too the other way with friends praying for me. This prayer thing is always so amazing to me. peace be with you and glad you're back and on top of your game, *hugs* Kere > Hi everyone...... > > I'm back...but now double bound bec. I've been away from the list > for a few days. I'm just going to jump back in and try to go back > and read the posts as I can. > > Hope everyone is doing reasonably OK or venting. > > Nada is back trying to make email contact with my daughter. I > didn't get mad this time at all. That's new. I didn't obsess about > what she was trying to do. That's new. > > > kathleen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 26, 2002 Report Share Posted July 26, 2002 thanks Kere....that is a very generous thing to do for someone you know on a list. I REALLY appreciate it. I really do and I will be on the lookout for roses. I have felt a " lift " these days and the turnaround has been in a deepening of my relationship with my husband. It's been wonderful. Kathleen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 26, 2002 Report Share Posted July 26, 2002 Kathleen, I think it's like that cheese commercial except I'd say " It's the pwer of prayer " instead of the 'power of cheese'-lol. I got inspired by the other fellow KOs here to do the novena and I think everyone here is just wonderful, including you I did feel really bad for what you've been going through lately and it did seem like a lot was building up on your end. Sometimes no matter how much courage we can muster for that day, nothing is as strong as the hand of God in our lives. I know in many ways I'd never have made it this far in my life if it were not for all the prayers said for me growing up. I know I got more than my fair share just because my dad died when I was 8, but I seriously think more and more where I would be today if it weren't for the power of other very generous souls praying on my behalf. And so it's an easy thing on my part to say those prayers for someone else who really needs them just because my life for the most part is pretty prayerful anyway. I just never did the novena before and that was kind of neat. It's a bit shorter than the rosary and I am not so regimented with that one as it's one thing I can see that would become slightly OCD for me after a while- lol. Actually I go in spells, but I really liked the novena. Had my little calendar marked in my kitchen just to keep up with the date I started and such-lol. My hubby was like, 'what's these little 't's in circles this past week?'-lol. *hugs* Kere > thanks Kere....that is a very generous thing to do for someone > you know on a list. I REALLY appreciate it. I really do and I will > be on the lookout for roses. > > I have felt a " lift " these days and the turnaround has been in a > deepening of my relationship with my husband. It's been > wonderful. > > > > Kathleen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 14, 2002 Report Share Posted August 14, 2002 , Welcome to Mod. I'm glad you're here as this place is very safe to express your stories of life as a KO, or so that's been my experience. I hope you find this place safe and can get some insight into your life's story through the sharing of other people's stories too. This place has surpassed years of therapy on helping me help myself to heal. And yes, teens are welcome too as far as I know of. I know we've got a couple around here- Rose and another young lady who are of absolute value to our website. So please do invite your kids along too for the journey out of OZ. Peace to you. Kere Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2002 Report Share Posted August 15, 2002 wrote: << Some of you may know me as a moderator of the WTO family of lists. Edith knows me <G>. >> Hi . << .... WTO main helped me see my X's pull on me, My healing since she left was helped by validating what I lived with in that marriage. I now have had time to look at myself and ponder why and how I got into that situation with her. GUESS WHAT??? I was taught flawed mechanisms for coping and boundary enforcement, from " You guessed it " (new term for me Nada and Fada) and yes I do call my still living mom " Mom " , but hate calling Him " Dad " , (he's deceased). Both are Alcoholic, and I haven't even tried to label any other DSM on them. I grew up one of six kids, suburbia home, self drug abused, and quite lonely. Married for 14 to my three kid's B-Mom who is MPD as well as a few other Dx's. (May I invite my Teens here? Edith) (I don't hide who and what I am or learning,from them, what they see me write I have prob already talked with them about) >> Everyone gets to have their own choices. If they're having problems from having been parented by a BP, they're certainly welcome to join and post just like the other KOs here. << I am remarried for 2+ yrs to Deborah who is also from a Dysfunctional family (Her Mom is Histrionic) We have what I had always dreamed of as a marriage should be, Fair/Honest/freely loving/supportive. This has given me the freedom and Non-hypervigalant energy, to really see myself. And I must say I felt all of the emotions flood back into me,,the ones I have been holding off while I lived a inappropriate boundaried life. I cannot express how similar your stories are to mine, I could not help crying with you and your pains, for they are mine also. Funny how I find ModO now, now when I can deal with my FOO without fear. Guess God (for me) deemed it so. >> I also was married to a BP. In resolving parent/spouse issues, I think KOs have to deal with one problem at a time. My biggest problem was my nada. Compared to her my hubby was BPD/NPD-lite. These Oasis lists were a lifesaver for me. Cheers, - Edith Its never too late to have a happy childhood. - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 Kitty purr, Sorry, I didn't get your name. You just wrote the story of my mom! Except the part about staying in bed. She would get up, sit on the couch and puff cig after cig, never moving her hand but a few inches from her face to get air. Even though I do not have a firm diagnosis from putting her in a Gero-Psyc Hospital for two weeks under evaluation last fall, other than dementia, I do believe it is LBD. I just now got her doctor to eliminate totally the meds she was prescribed then. One was risperidone (Risperdal, brand name) worsen her movement symptoms and she has never gotten rid of the auditory hallucinations. She is now on Exelon. We have an appointment with a neurologist in June to determine if this is the proper med for her. She has been more agitated so we may have to address that issue. Also going to question him about depression med as she was on Trazodone but was taken off at the same time as the Risperdal, in the hospital last week, as a result of a heart attack. There are many here on different meds as this disease is a very sly and cleaver monster. Just when you think you've got a hold on it, it changes. What a ride. Stick around, read what others have experienced. No two are alike. What we do share is the chaos of " living a life with Lewy. " Welcome. Make yourself at home. You can get MAIL in your own mail box, or go to LBDCaregiver's EGROUP, and read or respond at our place. The most recent MESSAGES will be on the HOME PAGE wall. If you want to see them all, check out the LIST (on the closet door) on the left side of our HOME PAGE wall. Click on MESSAGES to see them all and then, once there, you can really EXPAND your mind by clicking on the EXPAND MESSAGE at top, left of message list. Now you can just scroll through them all with ease. Browse the attic for stored messages with our SEARCH engine by topic, name, or ? Or put in a # of a certain post and go right to it. Type in a member email address for more on their experiences. Search the closets for LINKS to helpful websites, and the office for FILES on an information packet you can print out, recently presented at the Caring Counts! Conference in Sacramento, CA. Also check out the FILE on free meds. Tell us about yourself in our Member Profile FILE. Sit down, take a load off, and take a peak at our PHOTO album and then take an active part in community affairs in the recently initiated POLL site. I again welcome you as one of our family. Our HOME is your HOME. Love & Prayers, Betty PS - Don't forget to write down important dates on our CALENDAR so we can send you birthday hugs or share in the important days of your and your LO's life! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 22, 2003 Report Share Posted May 22, 2003 Betty, Thank you for the welcome and helpful info. Believe me, I will stick around. I have found useful info here already. And I've only been a member for 1 day,lol. :-) And BTW, my name is Beth. > Kitty purr, > > Sorry, I didn't get your name. You just wrote the story of my mom! Except > the part about staying in bed. She would get up, sit on the couch and puff cig > after cig, never moving her hand but a few inches from her face to get air. > Even though I do not have a firm diagnosis from putting her in a Gero-Psyc > Hospital for two weeks under evaluation last fall, other than dementia, I do > believe it is LBD. I just now got her doctor to eliminate totally the meds she was > prescribed then. One was risperidone (Risperdal, brand name) worsen her > movement symptoms and she has never gotten rid of the auditory hallucinations. > She is now on Exelon. We have an appointment with a neurologist in June to > determine if this is the proper med for her. She has been more agitated so we may > have to address that issue. Also going to question him about depression med > as she was on Trazodone but was taken off at the same time as the Risperdal, > in the hospital last week, as a result of a heart attack. > > There are many here on different meds as this disease is a very sly and > cleaver monster. Just when you think you've got a hold on it, it changes. What a > ride. Stick around, read what others have experienced. No two are alike. > What we do share is the chaos of " living a life with Lewy. " Welcome. Make > yourself at home. You can get MAIL in your own mail box, or go to LBDCaregiver's > EGROUP, and read or respond at our place. The most recent MESSAGES will be on > the HOME PAGE wall. If you want to see them all, check out the LIST (on the > closet door) on the left side of our HOME PAGE wall. Click on MESSAGES to see > them all and then, once there, you can really EXPAND your mind by clicking on > the EXPAND MESSAGE at top, left of message list. Now you can just scroll > through them all with ease. Browse the attic for stored messages with our SEARCH > engine by topic, name, or ? Or put in a # of a certain post and go right to > it. Type in a member email address for more on their experiences. Search the > closets for LINKS to helpful websites, and the office for FILES on an > information packet you can print out, recently presented at the Caring Counts! > Conference in Sacramento, CA. Also check out the FILE on free meds. Tell us about > yourself in our Member Profile FILE. Sit down, take a load off, and take a peak > at our PHOTO album and then take an active part in community affairs in the > recently initiated POLL site. I again welcome you as one of our family. Our > HOME is your HOME. > > Love & Prayers, > Betty > > PS - Don't forget to write down important dates on our CALENDAR so we can > send you birthday hugs or share in the important days of your and your LO's life! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2003 Report Share Posted May 23, 2003 Beth Welcome to the caregivers group. You had mentioned a neurologist and a psychologist...has your mom been back to see either of them? Is she still staying in bed except to use the restroom? I would make sure to monitor the meds. she is taking, and any reactions she has. With LBD, there can be sensitivities to meds., especially some of the drugs used to treat psychosis. I will add you to my prayers. Sandie Des Moines, IA - dad passed from LBD 9-20-02 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2003 Report Share Posted May 23, 2003 Beth L. Wow, I have a cousin named Beth with the last name Lambert (she married into the family, but is still my cousin, just the same). So, you will be easy to remember. Our other family/group member, Beth is in New York...just checking my memory. Yes, please do keep us informed as to how your mom is doing, and with the med. changes/additions. Plus, we love to know how you are handling everything. Take Care of yourself, and sending up prayers! Sandie the " IE " Sandy, not the " Y " Sandie LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2005 Report Share Posted September 20, 2005 Yep, reading you loud and clear! Hugs, PJ christina_mar6 wrote:just checking to see if my messages are going thru? christina http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/AffirmationstoDe-Stress A positive thinking, positive affirmations support group, discussing ways to cope with the stresses of daily life. Come aboard! PJ and Gang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2005 Report Share Posted September 22, 2005 thanks martha for your two cents because im just so glad to hear that somebody agrees with me and yes there are stalking laws around here and its his fault that he dont take action and he says he dont do anything about it to " protect his kids " ....maybe thats true but i feel sorry for his kids because they have witnessed this maddness for seven years and in my personal opionion those kids are just gonna end up in the exact kind of disfuctional relationship someday.....another thing i dont like about him is that he tells me how terrible she treats him but yet he sits in her house and asks her to make him a cup of coffee.....that just dont make any sence....just my opinion but if someone were stalking me and making my life miserable i wount not be sitting in there house drinking coffee but he tells me that everything he does has to do with his kids but what does drinking coffee with the X have to do with his kids??? anyway, im just tired of being in his business all the time ya know....i do deserve and want better....i just have to stop feeling sorry for him and think about me....right? thanks christina Re: hello Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2005 Report Share Posted September 22, 2005 Would you GO to someone's house who is stalking you? That doesn't make sense. Sounds like he is enjoying having the attention of two women -- one who is justifying him feeling awful, so the other one can comfort him. It's really easy to feel awful -- and it's fun to make things someone else's fault. It's hard to take control of a situation and demand self-respect. (That's what you need to do -- as well as what he needs to do if he truly wants to end the " stalking " .) What exactly has he done to get out of that situation? Has he gone to court to get visitation of his kids away from the stalker? So what kind of relationship would you like to have? And what are you willing to contribute to it? Martha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2005 Report Share Posted September 22, 2005 hi martha...i agree with you 100%...he is enjoying having two woman playing this game of his....seems he cant decide which one of us he really wants so i suppose the best thing for me would be to help him out and tell him that he can just have HER because i am done playing his games.....NO he has not gone to court at all and neither has she.....the whole thing is just stupid i want a man who can drive over to my house and pick me up and take me out and who dosnt have to hide from anyone! and i do have someone interested in me right now but i am SOOOOO AFRAID to take a chance!!!!!!!! also i have already lost so many other chances already but really, why should i be sitting at home alone while he is at her house drinking coffee???? christina Re: hello Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2005 Report Share Posted September 22, 2005 Its a pleasure darl, I know how you are feeling as I watched an Aunt go though the same thing. The trouble was he was telling his ex wife the same. he left my Aunt when she was pregnanat with my cousin Jayne. Then the father tried to kidnapp Jayne. I dont think she ever meet him. But as the whole 3 are in heaven now maybe theyve all meet up and found peace. I just think that some men have no scuples and lovely sweet people like you are bound for higher and brighter things. All the best hon and may light shine on you always. Love and light Lyn Re: hello http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/AffirmationstoDe-Stress A positive thinking, positive affirmations support group, discussing ways to cope with the stresses of daily life. Come aboard! PJ and Gang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2005 Report Share Posted September 22, 2005 thanks for sharing that story with me lyn :-) for now i think its best i avoid talking to this man because he always finds a way to make me feel so sorry for him....i felt pretty good today and every time i started to miss him i just would think of something else....also i try to remember all the bad things he did and said to me over the past 16 months.....its my fault for tolerating it as long as i did and he knew i would tolerate it so thats why he kept treating me so bad.....oh he is telling me now that i will never find a man as good as him or that will put up with me BUT there is nothing wrong with me and what am i losing by staying away from him????....thats why i think i should just avoid talking to him! thanks christina Re: hello Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2005 Report Share Posted September 22, 2005 Good for you ! It's your life -- put people who will love you, support you, and treat you with respect in it. It's not your fault for tolerating his stuff...you were just learning. We all learn how to judge people and pick the ones who we will love and who will love us. In a few years you'll thank him for teaching you what you don't want. Martha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 23, 2005 Report Share Posted September 23, 2005 thank martha and you are right because from him i sure did learn what i " dont " want! christina Re: hello Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 25, 2005 Report Share Posted September 25, 2005 If your relationship, causes more pain than happiness....then it is time to give that person the boot. Plus you are right, you'll never see M. Right if you hold on to this guy. But more so...you need to get yourself some self respect. AND take control of your life. Those two things are much more inportant than any guy in your life. Barbara --- frozen fire wrote: > well my boyfriend broke up with me again > tonight....its always about his X wife....they have > not been together for 7 years and right now he is > telling me that he cant see me at all because she is > stalking him and he again is telling me to be > patiant and wait this out.....i went off on him and > spoke my mind and even told him that he is a grown > man and needs to put a stop to this!!!.....we > exchanged words of about an hour...thing is i have > been waiting for him to settle this thing for 16 > months now and im really not feeling to confident > that it will ever be over between him and her so he > told me to just leave him alone and i guess i just > have no choice but to give him what he wants and to > just leave him alone huh? > > i am 36 years old and i dont want to end up alone > forever and im feeling as if my real Mr Right might > come and go if i keep hanging onto this little > string he has me hanging on.....i was honest and > told him that.....i dont know if that was the right > thing to do but if he is asking me to keep waiting > for him then he needs to know EVERYTHING that is on > my mind and how i feel and what i want.....i cant > see how that can be wrong? > > any opinions are welcome :-) > > thanks > christina > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 25, 2005 Report Share Posted September 25, 2005 Hi, If there is not understanding and mutual respect in a relationship, then it is time to part company. Mark NYC > > > well my boyfriend broke up with me again > > tonight....its always about his X wife....they have > > not been together for 7 years and right now he is > > telling me that he cant see me at all because she is > > stalking him and he again is telling me to be > > patiant and wait this out.....i went off on him and > > spoke my mind and even told him that he is a grown > > man and needs to put a stop to this!!!.....we > > exchanged words of about an hour...thing is i have > > been waiting for him to settle this thing for 16 > > months now and im really not feeling to confident > > that it will ever be over between him and her so he > > told me to just leave him alone and i guess i just > > have no choice but to give him what he wants and to > > just leave him alone huh? > > > > i am 36 years old and i dont want to end up alone > > forever and im feeling as if my real Mr Right might > > come and go if i keep hanging onto this little > > string he has me hanging on.....i was honest and > > told him that.....i dont know if that was the right > > thing to do but if he is asking me to keep waiting > > for him then he needs to know EVERYTHING that is on > > my mind and how i feel and what i want.....i cant > > see how that can be wrong? > > > > any opinions are welcome :-) > > > > thanks > > christina > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 25, 2005 Report Share Posted September 25, 2005 hi barbra...i really liked what you said about when the relationship causes more pain then its time to give that persont he boot!,,,,and yes i agree about all the other stuff you mentioned too and im gonna start working on that :-) christina Re: hello Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 25, 2005 Report Share Posted September 25, 2005 hi mark...that is good too!...i started writing all this stuff down so i can look at it all the time to get thru the days....i do so much want to change all this around and stop feeling so bad all the time christina Re: hello Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2005 Report Share Posted December 23, 2005 Hey Carl have a look through some of the archived emails it has valuable information in it everywhere. And feel free to ask any questions at all. Regards Hello > Thank you for letting me join your group. I have a friend who hs cancer > and they are all out of options. I hope with you and the the > information that you have on this site it will give them hope. > > Look forward to picking your heads lOL! > > Take care > > Carl > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2006 Report Share Posted May 16, 2006 You just need some bangers and mash! :-) _____ From: DS_Friends_Keshishian [mailto:DS_Friends_Keshishian ] On Behalf Of mjs93311 Sent: Tuesday, May 16, 2006 9:06 PM To: DS_Friends_Keshishian Subject: hello I still haven't slept but hope to tonight. Only six hours in the past three or four days. I didnt' think that was really possible. On the other hand, I don't sleep many hours to begin with. An old intern habit. Marta _____ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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