Guest guest Posted June 17, 2011 Report Share Posted June 17, 2011 hi everyone just wanted to ask if hospitalization has helped your kids in anyway...please answer.. love alida Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2011 Report Share Posted June 17, 2011 I'm sorry, but I can't say that it has. We've been to two different ones and it didn't help. Kids can be complicated and my son is - they just couldn't seem to figure it out in the time they had. Whay are you dealing with? Bonnie > > > hi everyone > > just wanted to ask if hospitalization has helped your kids in anyway...please answer.. > > love alida > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2011 Report Share Posted June 17, 2011 I think it depends on the symptoms and the particular hospitalization you are talking about. What are you considering? For my dd, her 60 day intensive hospitalization was both life changing and life saving. I don't believe this would have been the case for just a regular hospitalization which we desperately tried to avoid. I think if there are violent kids or anything like that it would not have been something my dd could handle. Stormy ________________________________ To: group < > Sent: Fri, June 17, 2011 6:07:47 AM Subject: help needed please hi everyone just wanted to ask if hospitalization has helped your kids in anyway...please answer.. love alida Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2011 Report Share Posted June 17, 2011 thanx bonnie my son has got severe ocd and he is 13, when he had an assesment sometimes ago they told me that he needs to hospitalized, but i refused and i let him live with my brother for sometime...while living there he hid it very well but he accepted that he was doing rituals on his own. while he is at home with me, he has involved me in his rituals too to get himself cleaned...but if i refuse to take part he gets angry and last time he hit me...so im just thinking now that he needs intensive therapy which he can get it only in hosptal, however he wont accept to go there on his will...and i dont know what to do...im just so confused and stressed out... love alida To: From: bhamelburg@... Date: Fri, 17 Jun 2011 12:08:47 +0000 Subject: Re: help needed please I'm sorry, but I can't say that it has. We've been to two different ones and it didn't help. Kids can be complicated and my son is - they just couldn't seem to figure it out in the time they had. Whay are you dealing with? Bonnie > > > hi everyone > > just wanted to ask if hospitalization has helped your kids in anyway...please answer.. > > love alida > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2011 Report Share Posted June 17, 2011 thanx stormy my son has got severe ocd and he is 13, when he had an assesment sometimes ago they told me that he needs to hospitalized, but i refused and i let him live with my brother for sometime...while living there he hid it very well but he accepted that he was doing rituals on his own. while he is at home with me, he has involved me in his rituals too to get himself cleaned...but if i refuse to take part he gets angry and last time he hit me...so im just thinking now that he needs intensive therapy which he can get it only in hosptal, however he wont accept to go there on his will...and i dont know what to do...im just so confused and stressed out... love alida To: From: stormyweather199120@... Date: Fri, 17 Jun 2011 08:28:18 -0700 Subject: Re: help needed please I think it depends on the symptoms and the particular hospitalization you are talking about. What are you considering? For my dd, her 60 day intensive hospitalization was both life changing and life saving. I don't believe this would have been the case for just a regular hospitalization which we desperately tried to avoid. I think if there are violent kids or anything like that it would not have been something my dd could handle. Stormy ________________________________ To: group < > Sent: Fri, June 17, 2011 6:07:47 AM Subject: help needed please hi everyone just wanted to ask if hospitalization has helped your kids in anyway...please answer.. love alida Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2011 Report Share Posted June 17, 2011 When you say he can only get intensive therapy in the hospital, is that because you are in London? Do they have day treatment where he would get the intensive therapy during the day but come home in the evenings? Stormy ________________________________ To: group < > Sent: Fri, June 17, 2011 12:32:09 PM Subject: RE: help needed please thanx stormy my son has got severe ocd and he is 13, when he had an assesment sometimes ago they told me that he needs to hospitalized, but i refused and i let him live with my brother for sometime...while living there he hid it very well but he accepted that he was doing rituals on his own. while he is at home with me, he has involved me in his rituals too to get himself cleaned...but if i refuse to take part he gets angry and last time he hit me...so im just thinking now that he needs intensive therapy which he can get it only in hosptal, however he wont accept to go there on his will...and i dont know what to do...im just so confused and stressed out... love alida ------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2011 Report Share Posted June 17, 2011 I recently sent my daughter to stay with my sister as her ocd was running the house. Is this why he is living with your brother? I had to either send her to another environment for a while to get a rest from her behaviour or hospitalize her. She refused to leave the house, wouldnt change her nightgown. wouldnt brush her hair watches over her hoard constanlty. while i know it may not be a permanant answer i had to do something to get her out of the current state she was in. At my sisters house there are kids to play with, and its in the country so she gets out every day. Was wondering if he functions at all while at home with you? lisa - help needed please hi everyone just wanted to ask if hospitalization has helped your kids in anyway...please answer.. love alida Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2011 Report Share Posted June 17, 2011 thats what they have given me as an option...yes live in london, but i dont know if there are day treatments where he can get intensive therapy...where do u live? in uk? thanx stormy To: From: stormyweather199120@... Date: Fri, 17 Jun 2011 10:45:29 -0700 Subject: Re: help needed please When you say he can only get intensive therapy in the hospital, is that because you are in London? Do they have day treatment where he would get the intensive therapy during the day but come home in the evenings? Stormy ________________________________ To: group < > Sent: Fri, June 17, 2011 12:32:09 PM Subject: RE: help needed please thanx stormy my son has got severe ocd and he is 13, when he had an assesment sometimes ago they told me that he needs to hospitalized, but i refused and i let him live with my brother for sometime...while living there he hid it very well but he accepted that he was doing rituals on his own. while he is at home with me, he has involved me in his rituals too to get himself cleaned...but if i refuse to take part he gets angry and last time he hit me...so im just thinking now that he needs intensive therapy which he can get it only in hosptal, however he wont accept to go there on his will...and i dont know what to do...im just so confused and stressed out... love alida ------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2011 Report Share Posted June 17, 2011 There are some places that offer intensive outpatient treatment (mayo clinic for one). Some universities and hospitals do it too. You might want to look at those as well as some residential treatment (provided the residential treatment is very specific) Good luck, Bonnie > > > > > > hi everyone > > > > just wanted to ask if hospitalization has helped your kids in anyway...please answer.. > > > > love alida > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2011 Report Share Posted June 17, 2011 Alida, I don't really have any advice, but I am wondering whether intensive in-home family services is an option. They work with families where a child is close to needing to be removed from the home for a while (it sounds like it might be the case with his extreme anxiety and hitting you). They come into the home 10-20 hours per week, sometimes more, so you can get all the support you need. It's like the last step before hospitalization. Of course, you'd need a therapist/case manager who is knowledgeable about OCD and will make sure he gets the right kind of help. I just thought it might be something worth looking into. Steph - 16 (OCD, Asperger's, NVLD, depression & anxiety) > > > thanx bonnie > > my son has got severe ocd and he is 13, when he had an assesment sometimes ago they told me that he needs to hospitalized, but i refused and i let him live with my brother for sometime...while living there he hid it very well but he accepted that he was doing rituals on his own. while he is at home with me, he has involved me in his rituals too to get himself cleaned...but if i refuse to take part he gets angry and last time he hit me...so im just thinking now that he needs intensive therapy which he can get it only in hosptal, > however he wont accept to go there on his will...and i dont know what to do...im just so confused and stressed out... > > love alida Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2011 Report Share Posted June 17, 2011 Whn I wrote this I didn't know you lived in the UK. I am not familiar with the options there. Sorry. > > > > > > thanx bonnie > > > > my son has got severe ocd and he is 13, when he had an assesment sometimes ago they told me that he needs to hospitalized, but i refused and i let him live with my brother for sometime...while living there he hid it very well but he accepted that he was doing rituals on his own. while he is at home with me, he has involved me in his rituals too to get himself cleaned...but if i refuse to take part he gets angry and last time he hit me...so im just thinking now that he needs intensive therapy which he can get it only in hosptal, > > however he wont accept to go there on his will...and i dont know what to do...im just so confused and stressed out... > > > > love alida > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2011 Report Share Posted June 17, 2011 hi lisa thanx for writting back to me...i had no other option either...either to hospitalize him or sent him to live with my brother but the problem is that while he was there he was hidding it (ocd) and whenever he could find a chance he would perform rituals on his own or he would find another way of doing his cumpulsions, that means that wherever they are, they suffer with it, so i regret now that i didnt sent him to hospital at least there he could get help (therapy)...while he was at my brother he functioned normally, with his behaviour too...but while he is at home with me, the most difficult thing is that he does rituals involving me too..if i refuse he gets really angry or may be hit me too...he has got a problem with clothes, eating, washing,..a bit of harding too....but i am pleased that your daughter is enjoying staying there but my one hasnt change a bit even he stayed there for nearly 2 months...i was hoping that staying away from me, may be he is going to realize that even if he doesnt do rituals with me, there is nothing wrong with it, but no, it didnt work...i hope it works with your one.. all the best alida To: From: mgy23@... Date: Fri, 17 Jun 2011 17:56:18 +0000 Subject: Re: RE: help needed please I recently sent my daughter to stay with my sister as her ocd was running the house. Is this why he is living with your brother? I had to either send her to another environment for a while to get a rest from her behaviour or hospitalize her. She refused to leave the house, wouldnt change her nightgown. wouldnt brush her hair watches over her hoard constanlty. while i know it may not be a permanant answer i had to do something to get her out of the current state she was in. At my sisters house there are kids to play with, and its in the country so she gets out every day. Was wondering if he functions at all while at home with you? lisa - help needed please hi everyone just wanted to ask if hospitalization has helped your kids in anyway...please answer.. love alida Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2011 Report Share Posted June 17, 2011 thanx steph..i will ask them if they do it in here where i live..(LONDON).. love alida To: From: momto3feistykids@... Date: Fri, 17 Jun 2011 18:40:55 +0000 Subject: Re: help needed please Alida, I don't really have any advice, but I am wondering whether intensive in-home family services is an option. They work with families where a child is close to needing to be removed from the home for a while (it sounds like it might be the case with his extreme anxiety and hitting you). They come into the home 10-20 hours per week, sometimes more, so you can get all the support you need. It's like the last step before hospitalization. Of course, you'd need a therapist/case manager who is knowledgeable about OCD and will make sure he gets the right kind of help. I just thought it might be something worth looking into. Steph - 16 (OCD, Asperger's, NVLD, depression & anxiety) > > > thanx bonnie > > my son has got severe ocd and he is 13, when he had an assesment sometimes ago they told me that he needs to hospitalized, but i refused and i let him live with my brother for sometime...while living there he hid it very well but he accepted that he was doing rituals on his own. while he is at home with me, he has involved me in his rituals too to get himself cleaned...but if i refuse to take part he gets angry and last time he hit me...so im just thinking now that he needs intensive therapy which he can get it only in hosptal, > however he wont accept to go there on his will...and i dont know what to do...im just so confused and stressed out... > > love alida Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2011 Report Share Posted June 17, 2011 where do u live bonnie? i have never heard of mayo clinic over here..anyhow thanx for ur advice.. love alida To: From: bhamelburg@... Date: Fri, 17 Jun 2011 18:32:00 +0000 Subject: Re: help needed please There are some places that offer intensive outpatient treatment (mayo clinic for one). Some universities and hospitals do it too. You might want to look at those as well as some residential treatment (provided the residential treatment is very specific) Good luck, Bonnie > > > > > > hi everyone > > > > just wanted to ask if hospitalization has helped your kids in anyway...please answer.. > > > > love alida > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2011 Report Share Posted June 17, 2011 its ok steph, thanx you To: From: momto3feistykids@... Date: Fri, 17 Jun 2011 18:44:56 +0000 Subject: Re: help needed please Whn I wrote this I didn't know you lived in the UK. I am not familiar with the options there. Sorry. > > > > > > thanx bonnie > > > > my son has got severe ocd and he is 13, when he had an assesment sometimes ago they told me that he needs to hospitalized, but i refused and i let him live with my brother for sometime...while living there he hid it very well but he accepted that he was doing rituals on his own. while he is at home with me, he has involved me in his rituals too to get himself cleaned...but if i refuse to take part he gets angry and last time he hit me...so im just thinking now that he needs intensive therapy which he can get it only in hosptal, > > however he wont accept to go there on his will...and i dont know what to do...im just so confused and stressed out... > > > > love alida > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2011 Report Share Posted June 18, 2011 Alida, Does your son have a therapist helping him now? If not, it seems the 1st step would be to find someone right away who can help with the OCD. It sounds like you have had him evaluated, but it doesn't sound like he's really had any treatment. This website of British CBT providers might help you find someone qualified to help, or at least serve as a starting place. http://www.cbtregisteruk.com/Default.aspx Does your son recognize his behavior is a problem? Does he want to feel better? Perhaps he would be willing to read some books about OCD to get him in the mood to improve and see how things can be different. There are lots of good books out there, and there's a book list on this website. Although I don't have hospitalization experience, I agree with the others that random hospitalization doesn't sound that helpful, except to handle an emergency situation. A hospital that knows how to treat OCD and uses the right therapy would be best. Good luck to you and your son. I hope you find some relief soon. Dot > > > hi everyone > > just wanted to ask if hospitalization has helped your kids in anyway...please answer.. > > love alida > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2011 Report Share Posted June 18, 2011 hi Dot yes he is assesed cos there was an emergency when he could not control it, they told me to hospitalize him but i refused..now we are waiting for an oppointment but it looks like it cant wait...im just so scared..im sorry im in tears love alida To: From: cactus_kids@... Date: Sat, 18 Jun 2011 17:06:32 +0000 Subject: Re: help needed please Alida, Does your son have a therapist helping him now? If not, it seems the 1st step would be to find someone right away who can help with the OCD. It sounds like you have had him evaluated, but it doesn't sound like he's really had any treatment. This website of British CBT providers might help you find someone qualified to help, or at least serve as a starting place. http://www.cbtregisteruk.com/Default.aspx Does your son recognize his behavior is a problem? Does he want to feel better? Perhaps he would be willing to read some books about OCD to get him in the mood to improve and see how things can be different. There are lots of good books out there, and there's a book list on this website. Although I don't have hospitalization experience, I agree with the others that random hospitalization doesn't sound that helpful, except to handle an emergency situation. A hospital that knows how to treat OCD and uses the right therapy would be best. Good luck to you and your son. I hope you find some relief soon. Dot > > > hi everyone > > just wanted to ask if hospitalization has helped your kids in anyway...please answer.. > > love alida > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2011 Report Share Posted June 18, 2011 Has your son actually received treatment or just been assessed ? Does he see a therapist and a psychiatrist regularly? Is he on meds? Stormy ________________________________ To: group < > Sent: Sat, June 18, 2011 12:53:40 PM Subject: RE: Re: help needed please hi Dot yes he is assesed cos there was an emergency when he could not control it, they told me to hospitalize him but i refused..now we are waiting for an oppointment but it looks like it cant wait...im just so scared..im sorry im in tears love alida Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2011 Report Share Posted June 18, 2011 no stormy, he has been refusing therapy and medication since he was assesed in september, but 1 months ago there was an emergency and they told me to hospitalize him( because he could not control his behaviour), they said to me that his case is severe, but i refused to hospitalize him, instead i let him live with my brother which first days seemed fine but he has been doing rituals and suffereing mentally there too...now he is back with me, i think i did a big mistake then...he involves me in his rituals and if i refuse to take part or if i do something wrong (occording to ocd), he gets really angry and hits me..thats what happened a month ago... To: From: stormyweather199120@... Date: Sat, 18 Jun 2011 11:03:11 -0700 Subject: Re: Re: help needed please Has your son actually received treatment or just been assessed ? Does he see a therapist and a psychiatrist regularly? Is he on meds? Stormy ________________________________ To: group < > Sent: Sat, June 18, 2011 12:53:40 PM Subject: RE: Re: help needed please hi Dot yes he is assesed cos there was an emergency when he could not control it, they told me to hospitalize him but i refused..now we are waiting for an oppointment but it looks like it cant wait...im just so scared..im sorry im in tears love alida Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2011 Report Share Posted June 18, 2011 If he is refusing all treatment, both meds and therapy, then you may really need to hospitalize him. If he is a danger to you than it probably doesn't need to be a hospital that specializes in OCD. You just need to get him somewhere where they can stabilize him. Is he still dangerous to you or was that an isolated incident a month ago? Good luck, Stormy ________________________________ To: group < > Sent: Sat, June 18, 2011 1:10:37 PM Subject: RE: Re: help needed please no stormy, he has been refusing therapy and medication since he was assesed in september, but 1 months ago there was an emergency and they told me to hospitalize him( because he could not control his behaviour), they said to me that his case is severe, but i refused to hospitalize him, instead i let him live with my brother which first days seemed fine but he has been doing rituals and suffereing mentally there too...now he is back with me, i think i did a big mistake then...he involves me in his rituals and if i refuse to take part or if i do something wrong (occording to ocd), he gets really angry and hits me..thats what happened a month ago... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2011 Report Share Posted June 18, 2011 he has got angryness, anxeity, and outburst because og the ocd only...they said that they will put him in a hospital which is specialized for ocd, cos thats what causes it...however he is a very clever and bright kid...yes he gets very angry when he wants his rituals to be performed or when something triggers the ocd..and in everything i am part of it, he iether involves me or blames me..thanx stormy To: From: stormyweather199120@... Date: Sat, 18 Jun 2011 11:54:32 -0700 Subject: Re: Re: help needed please If he is refusing all treatment, both meds and therapy, then you may really need to hospitalize him. If he is a danger to you than it probably doesn't need to be a hospital that specializes in OCD. You just need to get him somewhere where they can stabilize him. Is he still dangerous to you or was that an isolated incident a month ago? Good luck, Stormy ________________________________ To: group < > Sent: Sat, June 18, 2011 1:10:37 PM Subject: RE: Re: help needed please no stormy, he has been refusing therapy and medication since he was assesed in september, but 1 months ago there was an emergency and they told me to hospitalize him( because he could not control his behaviour), they said to me that his case is severe, but i refused to hospitalize him, instead i let him live with my brother which first days seemed fine but he has been doing rituals and suffereing mentally there too...now he is back with me, i think i did a big mistake then...he involves me in his rituals and if i refuse to take part or if i do something wrong (occording to ocd), he gets really angry and hits me..thats what happened a month ago... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2011 Report Share Posted June 18, 2011 Honestly, if I were you at this point I wouldn't hesitate to hospitalize especially if they specialize in OCD. Hospitalization, in the right program, is what made such a difference for my dd. I wish we would have done it sooner for her. It would have saved her and our entire family a lot of suffering. Stormy ________________________________ To: group < > Sent: Sat, June 18, 2011 5:17:38 PM Subject: RE: Re: help needed please he has got angryness, anxeity, and outburst because og the ocd only...they said that they will put him in a hospital which is specialized for ocd, cos thats what causes it...however he is a very clever and bright kid...yes he gets very angry when he wants his rituals to be performed or when something triggers the ocd..and in everything i am part of it, he iether involves me or blames me..thanx stormy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2011 Report Share Posted June 19, 2011 thank you stormy xxx To: From: stormyweather199120@... Date: Sat, 18 Jun 2011 15:24:09 -0700 Subject: Re: Re: help needed please Honestly, if I were you at this point I wouldn't hesitate to hospitalize especially if they specialize in OCD. Hospitalization, in the right program, is what made such a difference for my dd. I wish we would have done it sooner for her. It would have saved her and our entire family a lot of suffering. Stormy ________________________________ To: group < > Sent: Sat, June 18, 2011 5:17:38 PM Subject: RE: Re: help needed please he has got angryness, anxeity, and outburst because og the ocd only...they said that they will put him in a hospital which is specialized for ocd, cos thats what causes it...however he is a very clever and bright kid...yes he gets very angry when he wants his rituals to be performed or when something triggers the ocd..and in everything i am part of it, he iether involves me or blames me..thanx stormy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2011 Report Share Posted June 19, 2011 Hi Alida, I agree with Stormy. From what you're saying, at this point sounds like you should hospitalize him. There are other parents who've been members of this group over the years, that had to involuntarily hospitalize their children for various reasons, you wouldn't be the first (or the last). And if they are familiar with OCD, that's a big PLUS for getting him there. They can work through the medications much faster there to find something that is helping and hopefully get him to begin therapy, and have a Plan for him to continue it after he comes back home. Keep us updated. We do get protective over our kids, but you need to be protective about yourself too!! ((hugs)) > > Honestly, if I were you at this point I wouldn't hesitate to hospitalize > especially if they specialize in OCD. Hospitalization, in the right program, is > what made such a difference for my dd. I wish we would have done it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2011 Report Share Posted June 19, 2011 Alida, I agree with the others. He is refusing treatment, so outpatient treatment won't help him. If there is a hospital there that specializes in OCD, I think it will be a tremendous blessing. Keeping you in my thoughts, > > Hi Alida, I agree with Stormy. From what you're saying, at this point sounds like you should hospitalize him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.