Re: can someone advice me please

[Guest guest]

Alida, I have no experience with any of those options, but my guess is that the

OCD will not be helped by military/boarding school discipline alone. In my

child's case, some school practices set off her OCD and made it worse. Our best

results came from therapy with a psychologist trained to treat OCD in

children/adolescents. I would recommend trying the usual treatment for OCD

(CBT/ERP)and if that's not working try medicine and/or a residential treatment

program for OCD. Is your son's OCD severe enough to require residential

treatment? Maybe a therapist can discuss that with you.

Good luck. I know how frustrating it can be to figure out the best way to help

your child.

Dot

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> hi everybody

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> i have my son(13 years old) whos has ocd...and as a result he has extremely

behaviour probles specially with me (mom)...and dont want him to choose the

hospital option...is it a good idea to place him in a boarding or military

school where he can learn discipline and may be he can get help with his ocd

too...has anyone thought of this or experinced this before? i live in uk ..does

anyone have any information about this idea...military school? boarding school?

or residential theraupetic centres? what do you suggest....?

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> love

> alida

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[Guest guest]

Since his behavior is related to an illness I think the only logical place is a

residential treatment center. The others assume that he is making willful

decisions and this is likely not the case.

Best wishes,

Bonnie

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> hi everybody

>

> i have my son(13 years old) whos has ocd...and as a result he has extremely

behaviour probles specially with me (mom)...and dont want him to choose the

hospital option...is it a good idea to place him in a boarding or military

school where he can learn discipline and may be he can get help with his ocd

too...has anyone thought of this or experinced this before? i live in uk ..does

anyone have any information about this idea...military school? boarding school?

or residential theraupetic centres? what do you suggest....?

>

> love

> alida

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>

[Guest guest]

hi dot

first of all thanx for replying...yes his ocd is severe...3 weeks ago he hit me

because of his rituals... and he ended up in the police station...his uncle took

him out and now he is under his care...when ma son is there with the uncle he

doesnt show any ocd signs..but im sure that he might do it hidenly...there is a

court case coming up of because what happened..and im preety sure that i cant go

and testyfy against my son....im just worried sick and im drained and desperate

for advice...im stressed and i dont know what to do...while he was in the police

station i gave a statement of what happened....they assessed him and they said

that his ocd is severe however they let him go with his uncle...my son acceptted

to go with his uncle even though he thought that his uncle was contaminated...i

really dont know what to do...im so stressed....any advice...

love alida

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From: cactus_kids@...

Date: Fri, 20 May 2011 17:49:28 +0000

Subject: Re: can someone advice me please

Alida, I have no experience with any of those options, but my guess is that the

OCD will not be helped by military/boarding school discipline alone. In my

child's case, some school practices set off her OCD and made it worse. Our best

results came from therapy with a psychologist trained to treat OCD in

children/adolescents. I would recommend trying the usual treatment for OCD

(CBT/ERP)and if that's not working try medicine and/or a residential treatment

program for OCD. Is your son's OCD severe enough to require residential

treatment? Maybe a therapist can discuss that with you.

Good luck. I know how frustrating it can be to figure out the best way to help

your child.

Dot

>

>

> hi everybody

>

> i have my son(13 years old) whos has ocd...and as a result he has extremely

behaviour probles specially with me (mom)...and dont want him to choose the

hospital option...is it a good idea to place him in a boarding or military

school where he can learn discipline and may be he can get help with his ocd

too...has anyone thought of this or experinced this before? i live in uk ..does

anyone have any information about this idea...military school? boarding school?

or residential theraupetic centres? what do you suggest....?

>

> love

> alida

>

>

[Guest guest]

thanx bonnie

To:

From: bhamelburg@...

Date: Fri, 20 May 2011 18:07:48 +0000

Subject: Re: can someone advice me please

Since his behavior is related to an illness I think the only logical place is a

residential treatment center. The others assume that he is making willful

decisions and this is likely not the case.

Best wishes,

Bonnie

>

>

> hi everybody

>

> i have my son(13 years old) whos has ocd...and as a result he has extremely

behaviour probles specially with me (mom)...and dont want him to choose the

hospital option...is it a good idea to place him in a boarding or military

school where he can learn discipline and may be he can get help with his ocd

too...has anyone thought of this or experinced this before? i live in uk ..does

anyone have any information about this idea...military school? boarding school?

or residential theraupetic centres? what do you suggest....?

>

> love

> alida

>

>

[Guest guest]

Bonnie, you phrased that so nicely. I still have to remind myself (more often

than I'd like) that my daughter's OCD behaviors are not a deliberate/willful

choice. Dot

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> > hi everybody

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> > i have my son(13 years old) whos has ocd...and as a result he has extremely

behaviour probles specially with me (mom)...and dont want him to choose the

hospital option...is it a good idea to place him in a boarding or military

school where he can learn discipline and may be he can get help with his ocd

too...has anyone thought of this or experinced this before? i live in uk ..does

anyone have any information about this idea...military school? boarding school?

or residential theraupetic centres? what do you suggest....?

> >

> > love

> > alida

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Hi Alida, so sorry that incident happened with your son! But at least he sees

the seriousness of this side of OCD and his reactions now.

Military or similar type school won't help his OCD. Now - if you can find a

" therapeutic " school or center, one that offers therapy for kids with different

" issues " (OCD, bipolar, just any severe illness and need treatment outside home)

then that would work much better. Even staying home (or with uncle) and seeing

a therapist for frequent visits to treat it now may help - assume he's not

seeing a therapist yet??

So - that residential therapeutic center you mentioned sounds the best choice.

If he stays with his " contaminated " uncle long enough, he won't be able to keep

holding OCD back, it'll start to show in little ways. It's always the immediate

family and home that they just " let go " with their OC behavior.

Keep us updated,

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> hi everybody

>

> i have my son(13 years old) whos has ocd...and as a result he has extremely

behaviour probles specially with me (mom)...and dont want him to choose the

hospital option...is it a good idea to place him in a boarding or military

school where he can learn discipline and may be he can get help with his ocd

too...has anyone thought of this or experinced this before? i live in uk ..does

anyone have any information about this idea...military school? boarding school?

or residential theraupetic centres? what do you suggest....?

>

> love

> alida

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