transitions, fixations and anger

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I am hoping someone has an idea. I feel hopeless. My 13 year old Asperger

daughter also has a diagnosis of anxiety. Since toddlerhood

she has had outbursts on transitioning. At age 7 the

nuerologist called it OCD. Then it was DX as AS with anxiety.

When she fixates on something if I stop her she hits me. The worst

is that she is obessed with going to the store to buy things, yet

when she gets there she can't decide and it takes hours.

If I say " no " to shopping, she really punches me until she

wears herself out or she pulls on my purse and tries to

get me back in the store.

This happens in the summer too, if we go to the zoo or

a musuem she is much more interested in looking at

things in the store. I better not take her to the

zoo if I do not intend to buy her something there

is a scene even if we agree ahead of time not to get something.

She is too impulsive once we get there.

She is on 75mg of zoloft. We have a behaviorist yet

nothing has improved in this area in the last year.

At the psychiatrist office she denies she hits me in

shame, but hits me for saying she hits. It makes

no sense. She has no self awareness when it comes

to family members.

What can help improve emotional regulation? What else

can reduce anger? I am sure this is biological since

as a baby if you took her out of a swing she would

have a major meltdown, it has never gotten better.

It just changed to buying things to cope with leaving

places. In spite of consistency she continues to outburst

and hit. She can control herself in school. She had to

be placed in a special needs school though because

she was way too stressed in public school and refused

to go.

I appreciate any ideas.

Pam