Guest guest Posted February 20, 2011 Report Share Posted February 20, 2011 I agree. After dealing with it all day long I am tired and just want to sleep. I try to remember that she is even more tired of dealing with OCD than I am. We found that bedtime went easier if we could keep dd distracted from thinking while she fell asleep. We used Jim Weiss tapes (Sweet Dreams was the best because there was no plot, just visualization stories). http://www.amazon.com/Sweet-Dreams/dp/B003G0COHS/ref=pd_sim_dmusic_a_1 Our library has it on CD so you might want to see if yours does too. > > Does anyone else struggle with keeping it together at bedtime?? I find I am pretty good at dealing with the issues throughout the day, but once bedtime comes I don't have any more patience to deal with things. I just want my daughter to go to bed and go to sleep. This is when she wants to talk about all her worries, or anything she can think of at that moment. It is at this time when I feel like I am not very supportive. I know that no matter what I say to her, it won't be the right thing because she is just looking for a way to avoid going to sleep. > > Your thoughts?! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2011 Report Share Posted February 20, 2011 Oh man. It is the worst time of day. > Does anyone else struggle with keeping it together at bedtime?? I find I am pretty good at dealing with the issues throughout the day, but once bedtime comes I don't have any more patience to deal with things. I just want my daughter to go to bed and go to sleep. This is when she wants to talk about all her worries, or anything she can think of at that moment. It is at this time when I feel like I am not very supportive. I know that no matter what I say to her, it won't be the right thing because she is just looking for a way to avoid going to sleep. > > Your thoughts?! > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2011 Report Share Posted February 20, 2011 I used a fan in 's room to help, so it wouldn't be so quiet. I have one myself due to tinnuitis (sp?). I once even put a TV/VCR in there and would pop in a movie - one he'd seen 100x - to give him something to distract him. Can you discuss having a set amount of time to tell you her worries? 15min, 30min, start bedtime that amount earlier or something. So you plan a " worry time. " Quick thoughts, > > Does anyone else struggle with keeping it together at bedtime?? I find I am pretty good at dealing with the issues throughout the day, but once bedtime comes I don't have any more patience to deal with things. I just want my daughter to go to bed and go to sleep. This is when she wants to talk about all her worries, or anything she can think of at that moment. It is at this time when I feel like I am not very supportive. I know that no matter what I say to her, it won't be the right thing because she is just looking for a way to avoid going to sleep. > > Your thoughts?! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2011 Report Share Posted February 20, 2011 We have her bed as a worry free zone. When she gets in bed she can't talk about worries, only positive things. The problem is I try to get her to talk throughout the day about her worries and she refuses because she does not want it to ruin her day. No amount of talking will help her talk about it. She waits until bedtime and then it all comes out. She procrastinates just going through the process - brushing teeth, shower, snack etc. We have had the same bedtime routine for years. So nothing has changed that will upset her. She used to listen to music. Now she turns it off. I let her read, but she gets bored of that.  Its just so very frustrating. Subject: Re: More bedtime issues To: Received: Monday, February 21, 2011, 2:34 AM  I used a fan in 's room to help, so it wouldn't be so quiet. I have one myself due to tinnuitis (sp?). I once even put a TV/VCR in there and would pop in a movie - one he'd seen 100x - to give him something to distract him. Can you discuss having a set amount of time to tell you her worries? 15min, 30min, start bedtime that amount earlier or something. So you plan a " worry time. " Quick thoughts, > > Does anyone else struggle with keeping it together at bedtime?? I find I am pretty good at dealing with the issues throughout the day, but once bedtime comes I don't have any more patience to deal with things. I just want my daughter to go to bed and go to sleep. This is when she wants to talk about all her worries, or anything she can think of at that moment. It is at this time when I feel like I am not very supportive. I know that no matter what I say to her, it won't be the right thing because she is just looking for a way to avoid going to sleep. > > Your thoughts?! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2011 Report Share Posted February 21, 2011 Bedtime is downtime and it is less prone to the stimuli that, in other hours, distract you from your anxiety. The more anxious you are, the tougher the sleep. I have to use melatonin for my son. I give it an hour before sleep and then he listens to a little music before falling asleep. Without this, he wouldn't sleep. It's also important to wind down the evening and provide routines that allow your child to adjust incrementally toward sleep. The better the falling asleep experience the less the avoidance. Hope you get some rest soon Bonnie > > Does anyone else struggle with keeping it together at bedtime?? I find I am pretty good at dealing with the issues throughout the day, but once bedtime comes I don't have any more patience to deal with things. I just want my daughter to go to bed and go to sleep. This is when she wants to talk about all her worries, or anything she can think of at that moment. It is at this time when I feel like I am not very supportive. I know that no matter what I say to her, it won't be the right thing because she is just looking for a way to avoid going to sleep. > > Your thoughts?! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2011 Report Share Posted February 21, 2011 We have the exact same issues with my daughter. My daughter has always taken a long time to relax and fall asleep. Mayo Clinic recommends up to 3mg melatonin for kids with developmental disorders, I can't believe how much it helped. We used 2mg and it helped. 1 mg was not enough. With typical kids they don't need more than 1/2mg. It is the sort of thing that either works or doesn't. The other thing that really helped me, was that I take a very low dose of an anti-depressant and it really took the edge off my evening impatience. I have arthritis and I am fatigued at night. Now I am still tired but I don't feel annoyed. We have to take care of ourselves too. I feel so much healthier. Pam -- In , " dandv0823 " wrote: > > Does anyone else struggle with keeping it together at bedtime?? I find I am pretty good at dealing with the issues throughout the day, but once bedtime comes I don't have any more patience to deal with things. I just want my daughter to go to bed and go to sleep. This is when she wants to talk about all her worries, or anything she can think of at that moment. It is at this time when I feel like I am not very supportive. I know that no matter what I say to her, it won't be the right thing because she is just looking for a way to avoid going to sleep. > > Your thoughts?! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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