Guest guest Posted February 17, 2011 Report Share Posted February 17, 2011 I am reading the book, " The Explosive Child " right now. I'll let you know if I read any good tips. Have you read it? Dina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2011 Report Share Posted February 17, 2011 I read it and found it very helpful. One thing to keep in mind is that kids tantrum and rage because they don't have other skills. Problem solving (as per Ross Greene) is one way to deal with issues so that explosiveness is not necessary, but this is a process and so at first your child might up the ante (be more explosive). You might think that the method doesn't work, but don't give up. Staying calm during the storm is one of the hardest things to do. Practice in your head what you'll do when your child's behavior gets out of control so that you can remain in control. Anticipate potentially explosive situations and plan with your child what to do ahead of time enlisting their suggestions as much as possible. Reward ever bit of good behavior, don't harp on the bad behavior too much. You won't see results overnight, but the methodology can be a help. Bonnie > > I am reading the book, " The Explosive Child " right now. I'll let you > know if I read any good tips. Have you read it? > > Dina > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2011 Report Share Posted February 17, 2011 It sounds like you're on the right track, so far as anticipating and letting him know ahead of time. My twins (now 22) also had speech problems and difficult to understand when young. If I knew the topic they were talking about, I could generally pick up on what they were saying, but if I didn't then I could be at a loss. I guess he's getting speech therapy at school? Does he have difficulty while at school with changes in routine? And if so, is that addressed in the IEP? > > My almost 7 yr old son was officially diagnosed with OCD last spring. I had noticed the tendencies by the time he was 2, but held off on getting a diagnosis until after he started kindergarten. For the most part, he has a fairly structured day & as long as we stick close to what he thinks his schedule is we're good. If something comes up, like my husband having to be at work early & someone else having to take him to school, or not having the right thing for his Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2011 Report Share Posted February 21, 2011 He has an IEP, but only for speech. I spoke with his teacher the first day of school and a few other times in September to make sure she understood & let me know of any problems or habits she noticed. I also emphasized getting him on her schedule. He doesn't tell time yet, so it's more having an order to days & activities. During his speech IEP meeting we also discussed his OCD & overall progress at school, but they weren't included on the actual IEP. His teacher this year has been great with him. I don't have a lot of interaction with her on a daily basis because my husband drops him off every day & my aunt pick him up 4 days a week. But I've only heard of a few 'off' days & 1 meltdown at school. The meltdown was just last week because he didn't have his lunch box on a 1/2 day. I'm not sure how his teacher dealt with it, but nobody was called to pick him up & he was fine when my aunt picked him up. We always get through the issues & meltdowns but it gets frustrating at times. Especially when dealing with work & 3 other kids at the same time. Knowing other people have been through it helps! Thanks, Dani > > > > My almost 7 yr old son was officially diagnosed with OCD last spring. I had noticed the tendencies by the time he was 2, but held off on getting a diagnosis until after he started kindergarten. For the most part, he has a fairly structured day & as long as we stick close to what he thinks his schedule is we're good. If something comes up, like my husband having to be at work early & someone else having to take him to school, or not having the right thing for his > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2011 Report Share Posted February 21, 2011 An IEP is the way to ANY services. Many schools think that the classification drives services, but this is not the law. If you have an IEP, you have access to whatever services your child needs. An Individual Educational Plan is just that....INDIVIDUAL (unique to your child). My own swchool district was under the same misunderstanding. Please speak with the highest school authority over special education in your district. Best wishes, Bonnie > > > > > > My almost 7 yr old son was officially diagnosed with OCD last spring. I had noticed the tendencies by the time he was 2, but held off on getting a diagnosis until after he started kindergarten. For the most part, he has a fairly structured day & as long as we stick close to what he thinks his schedule is we're good. If something comes up, like my husband having to be at work early & someone else having to take him to school, or not having the right thing for his > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2011 Report Share Posted February 21, 2011 For many kids (more than half) anti-depressants reduce irritability and meltdowns in kids with anxiety issues. Usually they say that autistic spectrum kids don't cope with change well at all, due to deficits in cognitive flexibility. My daughter is like your son, but she does have a developmental disorder. Recently I made a meat loaf and I didn't realize that she had helped the previous time I made it, she had a horrible meltdown that she had to help and she insisted we couldn't eat the dinner since I made it without her. My 14 year old niece has OCD but she copes with change very well. She has issues with fear of germs. She is constantly washing her hands and fearful of touching doors. She will wait at a store for someone to open the door rather than touch the door. My niece keeps up with transitions, my daughter doesn't and is more overwhelmed the more she has to run around doing things. Pam ing , " danik0123 " wrote: > > My almost 7 yr old son was officially diagnosed with OCD last spring. I had noticed the tendencies by the time he was 2, but held off on getting a diagnosis until after he started kindergarten. For the most part, he has a fairly structured day & as long as we stick close to what he thinks his schedule is we're good. If something comes up, like my husband having to be at work early & someone else having to take him to school, or not having the right thing for his snack because we ran out, it's a toss up what will happen. Sometimes, we can calmly explain to him that something's going to be different & give him a choice of alternatives that will work for us and he will pick what he wants & that's it. Other times, usually if he notices & starts thinking about what's different before we get to explain, he will go into complete meltdown mode. Once he's in meltdown mode, he's very hard to deal with. He won't listen to our explanations, he's 100% focused on whatever is not right. Also, he has a speech disorder, so when he goes into meltdown mode, he is extremely difficult to understand, if he can speak at all. I need some advice on how to handle a meltdown so our entire world doesn't come to a grinding halt. > > He is the 3rd of my 4 children, the other 3 are 10, 8 & 2. Between 4 kids, work, 2 different schools, a variety of afterschool activities, and a large extended family, we are always running. We always take the time we need to get him to calm down so we can move on, but sometimes I wonder if there is a better way to handle the situation. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2011 Report Share Posted February 21, 2011 Dani, I echo Bonnie's reply about the IEP. If there is anything you want added to it due to his needs (whatever the cause), get it on there. At a future meeting, I would ask this year's teacher what she is doing that helps him, she may be making accommodations for him or have ways she does things that work specifically for him, etc., and getting it in the IEP now will have it there for next year's teacher to see. So it's like setting up a guide for later. 's IEP in elementary school was just for speech. But around 3rd grade, 4th, teacher noticed he could use some accommodations for state tests and other, due to his writing (large) and...heck, something else, he's 22 yrs now, can't recall. But they told me we could add *anything* to his IEP that he needed, even though it originally was set up just due to speech. So we set there and added all we could think of for him. He had just graduated from speech in 6th grade when his OCD began and so then we just set up a 504 Plan for him (similar to IEP, put accommodations, modifications on it due to a disability but no special ed services). If he'd still been in speech, we'd have just added it all to his IEP. Speaking of speech problems, when twins were in first years of elementary school and daycare, people thought they were from another country, speaking some foreign language and that I'd adopted them since I spoke English. Would never believe it to hear them now. I wish I spoke/articulated as well as does now, there are still a couple sounds that *I* can't do. > > He has an IEP, but only for speech. I spoke with his teacher the first day of school and a few other times in September to make sure she understood & let me know of any problems or habits she noticed. I also emphasized getting him on her schedule. He doesn't tell time yet, so it's more having an order to days & activities. During his speech IEP meeting we also discussed his OCD & overall progress at school, but they weren't included on the actual IEP. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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