Guest guest Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 I have a 6 yr old son with OCD, we just began therapy actually this week. But he has had these symptoms for at least a year, probably more. However, since Christmas it has gotten A LOT worse. I never thought about the weather being a factor but could be! My son sounds a lot like yours, he is a pleaser as well and gets very upset if he gets in trouble. I;m curious, you said he got better, is he doing behavioral therapy? Jeannie in GA Here we go again...  Hello all, I have not written in almost a year now, but have still been reading the posts. My soon to be 6-year old has been doing so wonderfullly the last nine months I thought maybe this OCD was gone for good. Well what we call the " worry bug " is rearing his ugly head again. I do feel so blessed that I have not had to see my little boy deal with these awful thoughts for the last 9 months, but am so broken hearted again that this seems to be starting all over. Two weeks ago at school a little girl pushed him and he called her a " chicken. " The teacher gave my son a time out for calling her names. My son is one who gets very broken hearted if he gets into trouble. he is definitely a pleaser and it devistated him. Mind you, I don't want him calling someone names, but think the reaction was a bit much. Well he cried in front of the class when he was put into time out. Now he told me he has been worried that he is going to call someone a name in class. Today he told me he thought he " accidently hit another student with his jacket when he was putting it on. " He then proceeded to tell the teacher on himself. I have never told the teacher that he had been diagnosed with OCD because the issue really hasn't come up. I am afraid he is going to get into trouble telling the teacher on himself for things he may or may not have done. I realized the last time he had a " bout " with OCD it was this time of year. Adults can be inflicted with SAD in the winter months. Have any of you noticed your child's OCD being worse in the winter? Thanks, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 Hi Jeannie, I am sorry to hear your son has gotten worse since Christmas. It is so, so hard to see your child suffer like this. My son is not doing behavioral therapy...well not technically. I have my Masters Degree in counseling and although I am not extremely familiar with CTB I bought some books and researched it and have doing it myself with him. He is also taking Omega 3's which is suppossed to help with worry. I pray the CBT helps with your son, and hope my son's will get better soon too! To: From: gooseban@... Date: Wed, 2 Feb 2011 20:31:29 +0000 Subject: Re: Here we go again... I have a 6 yr old son with OCD, we just began therapy actually this week. But he has had these symptoms for at least a year, probably more. However, since Christmas it has gotten A LOT worse. I never thought about the weather being a factor but could be! My son sounds a lot like yours, he is a pleaser as well and gets very upset if he gets in trouble. I;m curious, you said he got better, is he doing behavioral therapy? Jeannie in GA Here we go again... Hello all, I have not written in almost a year now, but have still been reading the posts. My soon to be 6-year old has been doing so wonderfullly the last nine months I thought maybe this OCD was gone for good. Well what we call the " worry bug " is rearing his ugly head again. I do feel so blessed that I have not had to see my little boy deal with these awful thoughts for the last 9 months, but am so broken hearted again that this seems to be starting all over. Two weeks ago at school a little girl pushed him and he called her a " chicken. " The teacher gave my son a time out for calling her names. My son is one who gets very broken hearted if he gets into trouble. he is definitely a pleaser and it devistated him. Mind you, I don't want him calling someone names, but think the reaction was a bit much. Well he cried in front of the class when he was put into time out. Now he told me he has been worried that he is going to call someone a name in class. Today he told me he thought he " accidently hit another student with his jacket when he was putting it on. " He then proceeded to tell the teacher on himself. I have never told the teacher that he had been diagnosed with OCD because the issue really hasn't come up. I am afraid he is going to get into trouble telling the teacher on himself for things he may or may not have done. I realized the last time he had a " bout " with OCD it was this time of year. Adults can be inflicted with SAD in the winter months. Have any of you noticed your child's OCD being worse in the winter? Thanks, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 Our son experienced SAD, when he was younger. And I would notice an uptick of his OCD at the same time. We found that OCD would often react to other things he experienced. You might need to talk to the teacher about his OCD so he doesn't get punished for something he didn't do. Then work on his confessing and doubts, to get them under control. Is he working with a therapist, or taking any medication? BJ > > > Hello all, > > I have not written in almost a year now, but have still been reading the posts. My soon to be 6-year old has been doing so wonderfullly the last nine months I thought maybe this OCD was gone for good. Well what we call the " worry bug " is rearing his ugly head again. I do feel so blessed that I have not had to see my little boy deal with these awful thoughts for the last 9 months, but am so broken hearted again that this seems to be starting all over. > > Two weeks ago at school a little girl pushed him and he called her a " chicken. " The teacher gave my son a time out for calling her names. My son is one who gets very broken hearted if he gets into trouble. he is definitely a pleaser and it devistated him. Mind you, I don't want him calling someone names, but think the reaction was a bit much. Well he cried in front of the class when he was put into time out. Now he told me he has been worried that he is going to call someone a name in class. Today he told me he thought he " accidently hit another student with his jacket when he was putting it on. " He then proceeded to tell the teacher on himself. I have never told the teacher that he had been diagnosed with OCD because the issue really hasn't come up. I am afraid he is going to get into trouble telling the teacher on himself for things he may or may not have done. > > I realized the last time he had a " bout " with OCD it was this time of year. Adults can be inflicted with SAD in the winter months. Have any of you noticed your child's OCD being worse in the winter? Thanks, > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 Hi, . I'm curious. . .Which books did you decide to use? And how is it going for you and your son? ) BJ > > > Hi Jeannie, > > I am sorry to hear your son has gotten worse since Christmas. It is so, so hard to see your child suffer like this. My son is not doing behavioral therapy...well not technically. I have my Masters Degree in counseling and although I am not extremely familiar with CTB I bought some books and researched it and have doing it myself with him. He is also taking Omega 3's which is suppossed to help with worry. I pray the CBT helps with your son, and hope my son's will get better soon too! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 I haven't heard about the Omega 3's helping(I'm very new to the OCD world) I'll have to try that with my son. It is very hard to see them suffer, they are way too young to have these worries. I also have a 8yr old son and he looks happy, relaxed & content when he goes to sleep but my poor 6 yr old just looks so worried. His OCD is bad at bed time. I wish I could fix it:-( Jeannie Here we go again... Â Â Hello all, I have not written in almost a year now, but have still been reading the posts. My soon to be 6-year old has been doing so wonderfullly the last nine months I thought maybe this OCD was gone for good. Well what we call the " worry bug " is rearing his ugly head again. I do feel so blessed that I have not had to see my little boy deal with these awful thoughts for the last 9 months, but am so broken hearted again that this seems to be starting all over. Two weeks ago at school a little girl pushed him and he called her a " chicken. " The teacher gave my son a time out for calling her names. My son is one who gets very broken hearted if he gets into trouble. he is definitely a pleaser and it devistated him. Mind you, I don't want him calling someone names, but think the reaction was a bit much. Well he cried in front of the class when he was put into time out. Now he told me he has been worried that he is going to call someone a name in class. Today he told me he thought he " accidently hit another student with his jacket when he was putting it on. " He then proceeded to tell the teacher on himself. I have never told the teacher that he had been diagnosed with OCD because the issue really hasn't come up. I am afraid he is going to get into trouble telling the teacher on himself for things he may or may not have done. I realized the last time he had a " bout " with OCD it was this time of year. Adults can be inflicted with SAD in the winter months. Have any of you noticed your child's OCD being worse in the winter? Thanks, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 Hi Jeannie, I know how you feel. I have a younger son who is so happy go lucky. I try not to worry about how he will be when he is older, being so young and suffering with it now. Nordic Naturals makes Omega 3, DHA for ages 5 and up. I asked my ped. about them and he said they were totally safe. He didn't necessairly think they were going to be a cure all, but can't hurt to try. To: From: gooseban@... Date: Wed, 2 Feb 2011 20:52:23 +0000 Subject: Re: Here we go again... I haven't heard about the Omega 3's helping(I'm very new to the OCD world) I'll have to try that with my son. It is very hard to see them suffer, they are way too young to have these worries. I also have a 8yr old son and he looks happy, relaxed & content when he goes to sleep but my poor 6 yr old just looks so worried. His OCD is bad at bed time. I wish I could fix it:-( Jeannie Here we go again... Hello all, I have not written in almost a year now, but have still been reading the posts. My soon to be 6-year old has been doing so wonderfullly the last nine months I thought maybe this OCD was gone for good. Well what we call the " worry bug " is rearing his ugly head again. I do feel so blessed that I have not had to see my little boy deal with these awful thoughts for the last 9 months, but am so broken hearted again that this seems to be starting all over. Two weeks ago at school a little girl pushed him and he called her a " chicken. " The teacher gave my son a time out for calling her names. My son is one who gets very broken hearted if he gets into trouble. he is definitely a pleaser and it devistated him. Mind you, I don't want him calling someone names, but think the reaction was a bit much. Well he cried in front of the class when he was put into time out. Now he told me he has been worried that he is going to call someone a name in class. Today he told me he thought he " accidently hit another student with his jacket when he was putting it on. " He then proceeded to tell the teacher on himself. I have never told the teacher that he had been diagnosed with OCD because the issue really hasn't come up. I am afraid he is going to get into trouble telling the teacher on himself for things he may or may not have done. I realized the last time he had a " bout " with OCD it was this time of year. Adults can be inflicted with SAD in the winter months. Have any of you noticed your child's OCD being worse in the winter? Thanks, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 Hi BJ, The book I used is The Everything Parents Guide to Children with OCD by . My background in counseling has helped too. I had him evaluated by UPMC hospital that has a program specifically for children with OCD. This was done last year. They said that what I was doing at home was what he needed at this point. So it has been awhile since the OCD has made an appearence. Will try the behavioral techniques again and if it doesn't work, will take him to a profesional in that area. If this continues at school I will talk to the teacher. I have tried to avoid bringing it up at school because I don't want him labeled, but if it ends up having to be that way then I will. I also believe that prayer helped him a lot the last time and gave us the period of 9 months that he was fine :-) To: From: svdbyhislove@... Date: Wed, 2 Feb 2011 20:48:39 +0000 Subject: Re: Here we go again... Hi, . I'm curious. . .Which books did you decide to use? And how is it going for you and your son? ) BJ > > > Hi Jeannie, > > I am sorry to hear your son has gotten worse since Christmas. It is so, so hard to see your child suffer like this. My son is not doing behavioral therapy...well not technically. I have my Masters Degree in counseling and although I am not extremely familiar with CTB I bought some books and researched it and have doing it myself with him. He is also taking Omega 3's which is suppossed to help with worry. I pray the CBT helps with your son, and hope my son's will get better soon too! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 Jeannie, our son's OCD was always really bad at bed time too. I suspect it is because they don't have anything to distract themselves with and the OCD is at work in their mind. We found using something to help aid sleep, was useful. Children's Benadryl can help make them sleepy. We used that for years before it stopped working. Then we switched to Melatonin. I also used to work with our son to have him try to visualize something in his mind, to help keep his mind occupied until sleep came. Sometimes he would choose to play through a video game, in his mind. Another thing we tried is CDs designed to help relax and sleep. Or even relaxation CDs, that talked him through relaxation. Some in here have even allowed their kids to sleep with the TV on. I don't think that would have worked for our son. . .Probably would have kept him awake, but it works for some. It's horrible when they don't sleep. BJ > > > > I haven't heard about the Omega 3's helping(I'm very new to the OCD world) I'll have to try that with my son. It is very hard to see them suffer, they are way too young to have these worries. I also have a 8yr old son and he looks happy, relaxed & content when he goes to sleep but my poor 6 yr old just looks so worried. His OCD is bad at bed time. I wish I could fix it:-( > > Jeannie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 I understand about now wanting them labeled. It's so hard. That is great that you have a background in counseling. ) I'm a big believer in the power of prayer too. Glad it helped. I hope you see some improvement soon. BJ > > > Hi BJ, > > The book I used is The Everything Parents Guide to Children with OCD by . My background in counseling has helped too. I had him evaluated by UPMC hospital that has a program specifically for children with OCD. This was done last year. They said that what I was doing at home was what he needed at this point. So it has been awhile since the OCD has made an appearence. Will try the behavioral techniques again and if it doesn't work, will take him to a profesional in that area. If this continues at school I will talk to the teacher. I have tried to avoid bringing it up at school because I don't want him labeled, but if it ends up having to be that way then I will. I also believe that prayer helped him a lot the last time and gave us the period of 9 months that he was fine :-) > > > > To: > From: svdbyhislove@... > Date: Wed, 2 Feb 2011 20:48:39 +0000 > Subject: Re: Here we go again... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 I am not sure I agree with all of this labeling. I have found with my son, that as soon as people knew about his ocd (and processing disorder, in his case), they became amazingly supportive. Teachers and staff have been really fabulous, and this is not just in one school. He has attended six different schools since his diagnosis. I work in a volunteer organization in charge of a large children's group. I really appreciate knowing of any issues/diagnosis, etc because it helps to explain a lot why the kids act they way they do. I sometimes think holding back the diagnosis, especially if you like the teacher, is not fair to both the child and the teacher. Most teachers are good teachers and good people. They chose their profession because they want to help. These days a diagnosis of some sort is extremely common. I think the only kids that are labeled in a negative way is when the parent and/or child tries to use a diagnosis to try and not take responsibility for their actions. I know others have had a different experience with this, but I just thought I'd throw in my 2 cents. in WA Subject: Re: Here we go again... To: Date: Wednesday, February 2, 2011, 11:25 PM  I understand about now wanting them labeled. It's so hard. That is great that you have a background in counseling. ) I'm a big believer in the power of prayer too. Glad it helped. I hope you see some improvement soon. BJ > > > Hi BJ, > > The book I used is The Everything Parents Guide to Children with OCD by . My background in counseling has helped too. I had him evaluated by UPMC hospital that has a program specifically for children with OCD. This was done last year. They said that what I was doing at home was what he needed at this point. So it has been awhile since the OCD has made an appearence. Will try the behavioral techniques again and if it doesn't work, will take him to a profesional in that area. If this continues at school I will talk to the teacher. I have tried to avoid bringing it up at school because I don't want him labeled, but if it ends up having to be that way then I will. I also believe that prayer helped him a lot the last time and gave us the period of 9 months that he was fine :-) > > > > To: > From: svdbyhislove@... > Date: Wed, 2 Feb 2011 20:48:39 +0000 > Subject: Re: Here we go again... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 > We've only had positive experiences also with telling our daughter's teachers. Elementary, middle and high school. They have been very accommodating. Telling friends, however, is a different story..... Dina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2011 Report Share Posted February 2, 2011 Dina- I understand what you mean by friends not " understanding! " But-even worse, is when family members don't even try to educate themselves- they just prefer to stay ignorant........................ Milissa W. Elliott Subject: Re: Re: Here we go again... To: Date: Thursday, February 3, 2011, 5:40 AM > We've only had positive experiences also with telling our daughter's teachers. Elementary, middle and high school. They have been very accommodating. Telling friends, however, is a different story..... Dina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 Hi , The major reason I have never told the teacher about my son is because he has not had any symptoms for the past 9 months and am not about to bring it up to a teacher, or anyone else for that matter when there are no symptoms present. I agree that if the symptoms become obvious at school then I will have to let the teacher know. I am very glad that you have had such good experiences telling your child's teachers about his OCD. Hopefully if it comes to that point mine will be supportive as well. I guess that I also don't want my son to be judged. I do think my childs teachers will be supportive, but there is such a stigma with any MH diagnosis. I have told very few people about my son's OCD and when I do most of them have no clue what that means. I will take each day as it comes and if it comes to the point the teacher needs to know, then they will know. I will do whatever it takes either way to protect my son and do what is in my sons best interest. Thanks, To: From: cward_ri@... Date: Wed, 2 Feb 2011 21:30:54 -0800 Subject: Re: Re: Here we go again... I am not sure I agree with all of this labeling. I have found with my son, that as soon as people knew about his ocd (and processing disorder, in his case), they became amazingly supportive. Teachers and staff have been really fabulous, and this is not just in one school. He has attended six different schools since his diagnosis. I work in a volunteer organization in charge of a large children's group. I really appreciate knowing of any issues/diagnosis, etc because it helps to explain a lot why the kids act they way they do. I sometimes think holding back the diagnosis, especially if you like the teacher, is not fair to both the child and the teacher. Most teachers are good teachers and good people. They chose their profession because they want to help. These days a diagnosis of some sort is extremely common. I think the only kids that are labeled in a negative way is when the parent and/or child tries to use a diagnosis to try and not take responsibility for their actions. I know others have had a different experience with this, but I just thought I'd throw in my 2 cents. in WA Subject: Re: Here we go again... To: Date: Wednesday, February 2, 2011, 11:25 PM I understand about now wanting them labeled. It's so hard. That is great that you have a background in counseling. ) I'm a big believer in the power of prayer too. Glad it helped. I hope you see some improvement soon. BJ > > > Hi BJ, > > The book I used is The Everything Parents Guide to Children with OCD by . My background in counseling has helped too. I had him evaluated by UPMC hospital that has a program specifically for children with OCD. This was done last year. They said that what I was doing at home was what he needed at this point. So it has been awhile since the OCD has made an appearence. Will try the behavioral techniques again and if it doesn't work, will take him to a profesional in that area. If this continues at school I will talk to the teacher. I have tried to avoid bringing it up at school because I don't want him labeled, but if it ends up having to be that way then I will. I also believe that prayer helped him a lot the last time and gave us the period of 9 months that he was fine :-) > > > > To: > From: svdbyhislove@... > Date: Wed, 2 Feb 2011 20:48:39 +0000 > Subject: Re: Here we go again... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 , I wasn't really talking about your specific case. I completely understand what you are saying ... of course why tell anything if there is no need! I think, just in general, things have come such a long way with mental health issues and the stigma. I am amazed when I tell people about my son. I had his 5th grade teacher say, well of course I know about that, I have ocd myself and I am on medication. His current high school counselor also has ocd. I have had many people say, oh yes, my best friend has that ... or my father suffers ... or I, myself, struggle with it. They say 1 in 4 people could have a diagnosis of ocd. I think that may be a little high, but maybe even if it is 1 in 10, there are alot of people out there who are in some way affected by it and have certainly some understanding. I hope your son's symptoms subside as quickly as they did last time. Kind Regards, Subject: Re: Here we go again... To: Date: Wednesday, February 2, 2011, 11:25 PM I understand about now wanting them labeled. It's so hard. That is great that you have a background in counseling. ) I'm a big believer in the power of prayer too. Glad it helped. I hope you see some improvement soon. BJ > > > Hi BJ, > > The book I used is The Everything Parents Guide to Children with OCD by . My background in counseling has helped too. I had him evaluated by UPMC hospital that has a program specifically for children with OCD. This was done last year. They said that what I was doing at home was what he needed at this point. So it has been awhile since the OCD has made an appearence. Will try the behavioral techniques again and if it doesn't work, will take him to a profesional in that area. If this continues at school I will talk to the teacher. I have tried to avoid bringing it up at school because I don't want him labeled, but if it ends up having to be that way then I will. I also believe that prayer helped him a lot the last time and gave us the period of 9 months that he was fine :-) > > > > To: > From: svdbyhislove@... > Date: Wed, 2 Feb 2011 20:48:39 +0000 > Subject: Re: Here we go again... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 That is so interesting, Dina. What experience have you had with friends? Subject: Re: Re: Here we go again... To: Date: Thursday, February 3, 2011, 12:40 AM  > We've only had positive experiences also with telling our daughter's teachers. Elementary, middle and high school. They have been very accommodating. Telling friends, however, is a different story..... Dina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 > > > That is so interesting, Dina. What experience have you had with friends? > We haven't told many. Some life long friends know and never treated her differently. However, we had a situation with a newer friend where she (and her mom) distanced themselves and then turned on her. It has been really sad. They said it was because Mikayla was being mean to their daughter, but the couple of lame examples they gave in no way sounded like her. We even tried to go over and talk to them at their home. Mikayla was crying and confused and the other girl was just smirky and her mom said there was really nothing to discuss. The sad part is that they live right around the corner and attend our church and her mom is her youth leader. So, Mikayla sees the girl everywhere and she always has her mom with her. Life is just not fair. Fortunately, even though I know she is still hurting from it, she has many other friends and is overall very happy, but not anxious to share her OCD issues with anyone. Based on this experience, I would be really hesitant to tell any of my friends that have kids that are in her peer group. Who knows what kids would say? Dina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 Hi , your experiences with your son are reassuring. I never really realized that many people are diagnosed with OCD. I am sure that makes him feel better too to know that other people in his school are going through/or have been through what he has. I guess I am still in that phase where it is hard to accept that something is " different " about my child. It hurts me to think of him that way and I don't want others to think he isn't " normal. " I love him so much I just wish this would go away... To: From: cward_ri@... Date: Thu, 3 Feb 2011 07:54:03 -0800 Subject: RE: Re: Here we go again... , I wasn't really talking about your specific case. I completely understand what you are saying ... of course why tell anything if there is no need! I think, just in general, things have come such a long way with mental health issues and the stigma. I am amazed when I tell people about my son. I had his 5th grade teacher say, well of course I know about that, I have ocd myself and I am on medication. His current high school counselor also has ocd. I have had many people say, oh yes, my best friend has that ... or my father suffers ... or I, myself, struggle with it. They say 1 in 4 people could have a diagnosis of ocd. I think that may be a little high, but maybe even if it is 1 in 10, there are alot of people out there who are in some way affected by it and have certainly some understanding. I hope your son's symptoms subside as quickly as they did last time. Kind Regards, Subject: Re: Here we go again... To: Date: Wednesday, February 2, 2011, 11:25 PM I understand about now wanting them labeled. It's so hard. That is great that you have a background in counseling. ) I'm a big believer in the power of prayer too. Glad it helped. I hope you see some improvement soon. BJ > > > Hi BJ, > > The book I used is The Everything Parents Guide to Children with OCD by . My background in counseling has helped too. I had him evaluated by UPMC hospital that has a program specifically for children with OCD. This was done last year. They said that what I was doing at home was what he needed at this point. So it has been awhile since the OCD has made an appearence. Will try the behavioral techniques again and if it doesn't work, will take him to a profesional in that area. If this continues at school I will talk to the teacher. I have tried to avoid bringing it up at school because I don't want him labeled, but if it ends up having to be that way then I will. I also believe that prayer helped him a lot the last time and gave us the period of 9 months that he was fine :-) > > > > To: > From: svdbyhislove@... > Date: Wed, 2 Feb 2011 20:48:39 +0000 > Subject: Re: Here we go again... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 > > > That is so interesting, Dina. What experience have you had with friends? > We haven't told many. Some life long friends know and never treated her differently. However, we had a situation with a newer friend where she (and her mom) distanced themselves and then turned on her. It has been really sad. They said it was because Mikayla was being mean to their daughter, but the couple of lame examples they gave in no way sounded like her. Just seems too coincidental after I told her mom about Mikayla's OCD and the medication she is on and how I think it has an impact on her memory, schoolwork, etc. (Same things I recently posted here because I'm concerned.) We even tried to go over and talk to them at their home. Mikayla was crying and confused and the other girl was just smirky and her mom said there was really nothing to discuss. The sad part is that they live right around the corner and attend our church and her mom is her youth leader. So, Mikayla sees the girl everywhere and she always has her mom with her. Life is just not fair. Fortunately, even though I know she is still hurting from it, she has many other friends and is overall very happy, but not anxious to share her OCD issues with anyone. Based on this experience, I would be really hesitant to tell any of my friends that have kids that are in her peer group. Who knows what kids would say? Dina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 I know where you're coming from being worried about the lables. My husband & I felt the same way, we didn't want our son labled or for him to think there is something wrong with him.(even though I'm sure he knows there is)  Just calling about the mental health portion of our coverage was upsetting. So far when I mention it people look at me with a concerned look, but they all think its hand washing only, which actually my son doesn't do that. I don't want peope to look at him like there is something wrong with him. BTW, I did pick up some Omega 3's today! We went and saw that play and it was a cute play. My son laughed, I think it was good for him to see other kids are worried too. Jeannie Re: Here we go again... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 Dina, That is so sad. My heart breaks for your daughter because I know that kids and even their parents can be so cruel. I feel like that unless my sons symptoms become so obvious that they need an explaination then it will go unsaid. I am really glad your daughter has made other friends because this girl and her mother do not sound like they would have made good friends to her. My family knows about my sons OCD, and only one friend from church. My best friend doesn't even know. Most of my sons problems are intrusive thoughts, so unless he starts saying things aloud then most people would not have a clue he has OCD. I had OCD and a child/adolescent and most people thought I was a worrier, but I had friends and was popular in high school. Unless I told someone specifically they had no idea the battles that went on in my mind. Take care, To: From: dina.n.jones@... Date: Thu, 3 Feb 2011 10:22:31 -0800 Subject: Re: Re: Here we go again... > > > That is so interesting, Dina. What experience have you had with friends? > We haven't told many. Some life long friends know and never treated her differently. However, we had a situation with a newer friend where she (and her mom) distanced themselves and then turned on her. It has been really sad. They said it was because Mikayla was being mean to their daughter, but the couple of lame examples they gave in no way sounded like her. Just seems too coincidental after I told her mom about Mikayla's OCD and the medication she is on and how I think it has an impact on her memory, schoolwork, etc. (Same things I recently posted here because I'm concerned.) We even tried to go over and talk to them at their home. Mikayla was crying and confused and the other girl was just smirky and her mom said there was really nothing to discuss. The sad part is that they live right around the corner and attend our church and her mom is her youth leader. So, Mikayla sees the girl everywhere and she always has her mom with her. Life is just not fair. Fortunately, even though I know she is still hurting from it, she has many other friends and is overall very happy, but not anxious to share her OCD issues with anyone. Based on this experience, I would be really hesitant to tell any of my friends that have kids that are in her peer group. Who knows what kids would say? Dina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 Yay! So glad the play went well, Jeannie. I was so hoping it would ) As far as labels. . We've never had a bad experience, but our son didn't want to be labeled. He felt it called attention to him, and he just wanted to be seen the same as everybody else. So, we've not made it a big issue unless necessary. It's a tough situation. BJ > > > > I know where you're coming from being worried about the lables. My husband & I felt the same way, we didn't want our son labled or for him to think there is something wrong with him.(even though I'm sure he knows there is)  Just calling about the mental health portion of our coverage was upsetting. So far when I mention it people look at me with a concerned look, but they all think its hand washing only, which actually my son doesn't do that. I don't want peope to look at him like there is something wrong with him. > > > > BTW, I did pick up some Omega 3's today! We went and saw that play and it was a cute play. My son laughed, I think it was good for him to see other kids are worried too. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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