Enabling?

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Good morning, everyone. So things are escalating with my son. He is now

writing down everything he does, and what time he does it at in his iPod Touch

notes feature. He has gotten to the point where he asks me to do it for him

because he recognizes it is interfering with the things he needs to get done.

He'll call out the time and ask me to write what he did, like " 7:30 got dressed

for school, 7:31 wrote this down " . I usually tell him to try to finish what he

is doing and see if the need to write it down lessens.

My husband told me that the iPod is enabling him and worsening his problems.

That it makes it easy for him to obsess over the time and his movements. I feel

that he would do it on paper if he didn't have an iPod.

Since the development of the symptoms everyone has been telling me in one way or

another that things are my fault. " Oh, you are separated from your husband

recently? Well, that's probably part of it " . " Oh, you allow him to write

everything down in his iPod? Well, that's probably part of it " . " Oh, you allow

him to save all his papers... " You get the point.

I'm the one who listens to my son sob to me for an hour at bedtime about how he

hates himself. I just don't know what to do anymore.

He gets worse every day. He's not sleeping much either. He's asleep at 10:00pm

and up by 5:30 am lately. I just want my poor baby to be happy again.

Am I enabling him? What should I do?