Re: 7 year old son has obsession with girl in his class

[Guest guest]

My daughter does some of the same things. She doesnt even realize the other

person doesnt want the attention

7 year old son has obsession with girl in his class

My 7 yr old son, ocd/anxiety, pdd-nos, and sensory intergration disorder, has a

growing obsession with this girl in his 2nd grade class. He talks about her

constantly( wants to marry her,pretends she is there with him). I found out at

school he is " harassing " her as well.He sat on her and tried to kiss her at

lunch ( apparently she cried over this), he is always makingn drawings for her

and bothering her. I realize a part of this is being almost 8 but it really has

taken on a life of it's own and if he were older one would call it stalking. The

school doesnt' tell me alot of what is going on and I have no clue what he does

there. I don't know how to make him stop without hurting his feelings ( have

tried the " sometimes people feel differently " routine). It is getting out of

hand. Is this OCd related? This is the first time it has been directed towards a

real person.

[Guest guest]

I think this is more autism spectrum disorder stuff. Probably

the school will have to physically seat them apart etc.

There was a boy in my daughter's class that hugged her

and defended her. It was sweet and I think he liked having

someone to feel close to but it was too much for her.

He had autism.

PDD or Asperger Syndrome kids have perseverative (sp?) thoughts,

they are repetative but do not produce anxiety to them,

but annoyance to others.

If it was OCD he would think stuff like I have to say her name

three times or something bad will happen and anxiety is

associated with these thoughts.

Pam

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> My 7 yr old son, ocd/anxiety, pdd-nos, and sensory intergration disorder, has

a growing obsession with this girl in his 2nd grade class. He talks about her

constantly( wants to marry her,pretends she is there with him). I found out at

school he is " harassing " her as well.He sat on her and tried to kiss her at

lunch ( apparently she cried over this), he is always makingn drawings for her

and bothering her. I realize a part of this is being almost 8 but it really has

taken on a life of it's own and if he were older one would call it stalking. The

school doesnt' tell me alot of what is going on and I have no clue what he does

there. I don't know how to make him stop without hurting his feelings ( have

tried the " sometimes people feel differently " routine). It is getting out of

hand. Is this OCd related? This is the first time it has been directed towards a

real person.

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[Guest guest]

Gosh, sounds like " first love " and he's obsessed and going about it all wrong!

But I don't think OCD.

Ugh, thinking what I would do. Try to talk to him, like you already have. And

if I felt the need to, I could be blunt about it. But first I'd just try to

talk to him, like you said, that sometimes people don't feel the same, that he's

actually pushing her away by paying TOO much attention...he needs to back off,

be nice, say " hi " each day, etc., but wait and see if she " makes a move " to let

her know she likes him, etc. And if not, then his bothering her could result in

her just plain not liking him because he talks to her too much.... LOL, no

telling what would come out of my own mouth once I started trying to find a way

to " reach " my son. I do know with (Aspergers) I did have to be blunt at

times, maybe make something more of an order from me to do this/that or stop

this/that after trying the nicer ways.

You might make a rule there is NO kissing in school, that the school doesn't

allow it. had a girl that used to kiss him way back in either K or 1st

grade.... Boy her dad was upset, lol. didn't want to hurt her feelings.

Sort of liked her but didn't like the constant kissing, plus she would take some

of his lunch, etc. He was afraid she wouldn't like him anymore (he wanted to

stay friends but not have her for a g'friend). I did talk to the teacher about

the lunch issue and why; she make it a rule kids couldn't trade/share their

lunches or something, handled it for me. SIGH!

Good luck with this! Wish I could be more help other than to say I don't think

it's OCD related, unless OCD just makes his " love " more obsessive than typical

while in this first phase of it, etc.

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> My 7 yr old son, ocd/anxiety, pdd-nos, and sensory intergration disorder, has

a growing obsession with this girl in his 2nd grade class. He talks about her

constantly( wants to marry her,pretends she is there with him). I found out at

school he is " harassing " her as