BJ_Re: Any success living on college campus?

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Thanks for the reply, BJ. You're right... it is very hard to turn off the worry

when we've spent so many years dealing with our children and their issues

(worrying, being their advocate, having to be an integral part of their

treatment decisions, etc.) That said, I have taught my daughter to be an

advocate for herself in many ways, so hopefully that will help her at college.

It's great that your son was able to make it at the computer programming

competition! It sounds like he handled the stress and did fine - I know you were

relieved! Like you, I am currently imagining every possible worse-case scenario,

but maybe, like your son, my daughter will handle things better than I think.

Thanks again,

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> > Hi everyone,

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> > My dd is graduating from high school this year and has always said she

wanted to commute to college - in fact, she only applied to college &

universities that were close to home.

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> > Saturday before last, we spent the day on campus (it's only 25 minutes away)

and she decided that she wanted to try living on campus IF she can get a private

bedroom and bathroom through Disability Services (she not only has OCD &

depression, but also gastrointestinal issues).

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> > I was so glad she was willing to try - it would be so wonderful if she could

live on campus and become more independent and really be a part of campus life -

but just today I started having second thoughts (I haven't told her how I'm

feeling). She had a bad day today, she's not sleeping well (because of meds) and

she was feeling very low. I'm really worried that she won't be able to handle

the pressure on-campus and that she won't be able to take care of herself

(remember to take her meds, etc.) I wouldn't be concerned if her medications

were working really well (consistently) and without so many side effects - but

that's not the case.

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> > Has anyone in the group sent your teen off to college when their meds

weren't just right? If so, how did it work out? Was it a good experience? Were

they successful living on campus or did they end up getting worse (and then have

to come back home?)

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> > Thanks in advance for sharing...

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> > (worried mom in NC)

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