Re:OCD now eating disorder/waging war!

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I found the book " Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control " to be very

helpful for me when my daughter and I were locked into a battle mode

with me pushing her and her resisting with all her might. It has an

emphasis on recognizing that her behaviors come from stress " fight,

flight or freeze " reactions and that the behaviors may be beyond the

child's control. It really helped me to accept where my daughter was

and not to push her until she was ready to do something (of course,

with the eating, there may be a point where you just have to take

action). Amazing that being quiet and just sitting near her and not

saying anything would establish some kind of connection and then we

were more able to talk about what was going on. Now I leave the room

if she starts a rage and she calms down quickly. Just thought it

might be a helpful tool...

Sandy