Guest guest Posted April 15, 2007 Report Share Posted April 15, 2007 Great job Sondra! You should be very proud of yourself! Pennie Abby's Mom ************************************** See what's free at http://www.aol.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2007 Report Share Posted April 15, 2007 Great job Sondra! You should be very proud of yourself! Pennie Abby's Mom ************************************** See what's free at http://www.aol.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2007 Report Share Posted April 15, 2007 Congratulation Kassi!! Congratulations Sondra!! Way to go! Sandi ************************************** See what's free at http://www.aol.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2007 Report Share Posted April 15, 2007 I'm better now, Sondra, thank you for asking. I would like to be friends with everyone here (at least everyone who is active) because there is a lot of love and good spirit here...this is probably my favorite group I belong to. I would have written sooner but I was out of town for a meet. May everyone be more energetic than I am right now! Kassiane, veryveryverytired --- sondra wrote: > Kassi are you of still much sad and angry? been > wondering of you this > day? the person sayed she is of sorry to you. and so > I to feel it was > of a true sorry so I to hope you two can be of > friends now. > Sondra > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2007 Report Share Posted April 15, 2007 happy to hear of this how did you meet go? as for me two good things to share one is was accepted to sit on a board under teh board of national ASA. it is of a selected group of autisics. I to lack how was nominated to serve of that board/panel but they contacted of me and asked of me to consider of it and fill out applications and such and the main board approved of me to be part of it. secondly got of my first ever trophy in all of life for completing of the creative movement and drama class at my therpaist office. I to be to worked ever so hard in that program and so the trophy to me is of much worked for. I to be of happy in getting one. I to ahve gotte3n awards in life for various things but in ture they mean nothing to me even my award from the governor of Ohio because I to not feel earned of them in same ways I to worked to earn of my trophy. the awards I to getted in past to me for just for being a part of something and was of my interest areas and so it was to mebecause of being with autism that got of them. But for this trophy I to had to work through my own autism issues to make gains in good ways and work toughmany difficult things for me to do and so it was of to me something I to worked to gain not just given to me. I to be of proud to that , that I to actually forced of self to push past safe zones to gain in this. my endowment fund is almost ready to begin of its work too for those with autism in Ohio and michigan I to so much want to try to give to those teens and adults who are at risk for social isolations of not given supports to help increase teh likliy hood of friendships and or connections to teh community. Sondra In Autism_in_Girls , Kassi wrote: > > I'm better now, Sondra, thank you for asking. I would > like to be friends with everyone here (at least > everyone who is active) because there is a lot of love > and good spirit here...this is probably my favorite > group I belong to. > > I would have written sooner but I was out of town for > a meet. May everyone be more energetic than I am right > now! > > Kassiane, > veryveryverytired > > --- sondra wrote: > > > Kassi are you of still much sad and angry? been > > wondering of you this > > day? the person sayed she is of sorry to you. and so > > I to feel it was > > of a true sorry so I to hope you two can be of > > friends now. > > Sondra > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2007 Report Share Posted April 15, 2007 happy to hear of this how did you meet go? as for me two good things to share one is was accepted to sit on a board under teh board of national ASA. it is of a selected group of autisics. I to lack how was nominated to serve of that board/panel but they contacted of me and asked of me to consider of it and fill out applications and such and the main board approved of me to be part of it. secondly got of my first ever trophy in all of life for completing of the creative movement and drama class at my therpaist office. I to be to worked ever so hard in that program and so the trophy to me is of much worked for. I to be of happy in getting one. I to ahve gotte3n awards in life for various things but in ture they mean nothing to me even my award from the governor of Ohio because I to not feel earned of them in same ways I to worked to earn of my trophy. the awards I to getted in past to me for just for being a part of something and was of my interest areas and so it was to mebecause of being with autism that got of them. But for this trophy I to had to work through my own autism issues to make gains in good ways and work toughmany difficult things for me to do and so it was of to me something I to worked to gain not just given to me. I to be of proud to that , that I to actually forced of self to push past safe zones to gain in this. my endowment fund is almost ready to begin of its work too for those with autism in Ohio and michigan I to so much want to try to give to those teens and adults who are at risk for social isolations of not given supports to help increase teh likliy hood of friendships and or connections to teh community. Sondra In Autism_in_Girls , Kassi wrote: > > I'm better now, Sondra, thank you for asking. I would > like to be friends with everyone here (at least > everyone who is active) because there is a lot of love > and good spirit here...this is probably my favorite > group I belong to. > > I would have written sooner but I was out of town for > a meet. May everyone be more energetic than I am right > now! > > Kassiane, > veryveryverytired > > --- sondra wrote: > > > Kassi are you of still much sad and angry? been > > wondering of you this > > day? the person sayed she is of sorry to you. and so > > I to feel it was > > of a true sorry so I to hope you two can be of > > friends now. > > Sondra > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2007 Report Share Posted April 15, 2007 I had TWO meets in one day (one with regular team, one with the adult team) and had been sick all the night before, so the one with regular team was kind of bad, I fell a lot on beam and once on bars but did well on floor and vault. Adult meet went REALLY well...I got a 9.7 out of a possible 10 on floor, and a 9.0 on vault, both of which were 1st places, and 2nd on beam and bars, 3rd in the total scores. It was a lot of fun because they gave silly awards, like one guy got an award for the longest eyelashes and a woman got one for the most uncontrollable fans (they tackled her when she was done with floor). I got one for falling on my back with grace in the first meet, and for being crazy enough to do a back roll on a balance beam in the 2nd meet. The whole thing was silly and all decorum was lost before warmups were over. I'm glad they chose you for the autistic board for ASA...I had hoped they would. And congratulations on the trophy & the endowment fund! You deserve to have your hard work rewarded. Put the trophy where everyone can see it! That's what they're for. Kassiane --- sondra wrote: > happy to hear of this how did you meet go? as for me > two good things > to share one is was accepted to sit on a board under > teh board of > national ASA. it is of a selected group of autisics. > I to lack how > was nominated to serve of that board/panel but they > contacted of me > and asked of me to consider of it and fill out > applications and such > and the main board approved of me to be part of it. > > secondly got of my first ever trophy in all of life > for completing of > the creative movement and drama class at my > therpaist office. I to be > to worked ever so hard in that program and so the > trophy to me is of > much worked for. I to be of happy in getting one. I > to ahve gotte3n > awards in life for various things but in ture they > mean nothing to me > even my award from the governor of Ohio because I to > not feel earned > of them in same ways I to worked to earn of my > trophy. the awards I > to getted in past to me for just for being a part of > something and > was of my interest areas and so it was to mebecause > of being with > autism that got of them. But for this trophy I to > had to work through > my own autism issues to make gains in good ways and > work toughmany > difficult things for me to do and so it was of to me > something I to > worked to gain not just given to me. I to be of > proud to that , that > I to actually forced of self to push past safe zones > to gain in this. > > my endowment fund is almost ready to begin of its > work too for those > with autism in Ohio and michigan I to so much want > to try to give to > those teens and adults who are at risk for social > isolations of not > given supports to help increase teh likliy hood of > friendships and or > connections to teh community. > Sondra > > > In Autism_in_Girls , Kassi > > wrote: > > > > I'm better now, Sondra, thank you for asking. I > would > > like to be friends with everyone here (at least > > everyone who is active) because there is a lot of > love > > and good spirit here...this is probably my > favorite > > group I belong to. > > > > I would have written sooner but I was out of town > for > > a meet. May everyone be more energetic than I am > right > > now! > > > > Kassiane, > > veryveryverytired > > > > --- sondra wrote: > > > > > Kassi are you of still much sad and angry? been > > > wondering of you this > > > day? the person sayed she is of sorry to you. > and so > > > I to feel it was > > > of a true sorry so I to hope you two can be of > > > friends now. > > > Sondra > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2007 Report Share Posted April 16, 2007 Congratulations Kassi for continuing with the meets even when not feeling well. Even better is that you did so well at the adults meet!!! Congratulations Sondra on working through your comfort level & getting something tangible that you can see for all your hard work. When I feel bad sometimes about my issues, which are nothing compared to what you guys go through, I think of people on the spectrum who has a much harder time dealing with life issues, & I try to get myself out of a slump. Keep up the good work, both of you & thank you for all you do. Marie > > I had TWO meets in one day (one with regular team, one > with the adult team) and had been sick all the night > before, so the one with regular team was kind of bad, > I fell a lot on beam and once on bars but did well on > floor and vault. > > Adult meet went REALLY well...I got a 9.7 out of a > possible 10 on floor, and a 9.0 on vault, both of > which were 1st places, and 2nd on beam and bars, 3rd > in the total scores. It was a lot of fun because they > gave silly awards, like one guy got an award for the > longest eyelashes and a woman got one for the most > uncontrollable fans (they tackled her when she was > done with floor). I got one for falling on my back > with grace in the first meet, and for being crazy > enough to do a back roll on a balance beam in the 2nd > meet. The whole thing was silly and all decorum was > lost before warmups were over. > > I'm glad they chose you for the autistic board for > ASA...I had hoped they would. And congratulations on > the trophy & the endowment fund! You deserve to have > your hard work rewarded. Put the trophy where everyone > can see it! That's what they're for. > > Kassiane > > --- sondra wrote: > > > happy to hear of this how did you meet go? as for me > > two good things > > to share one is was accepted to sit on a board under > > teh board of > > national ASA. it is of a selected group of autisics. > > I to lack how > > was nominated to serve of that board/panel but they > > contacted of me > > and asked of me to consider of it and fill out > > applications and such > > and the main board approved of me to be part of it. > > > > secondly got of my first ever trophy in all of life > > for completing of > > the creative movement and drama class at my > > therpaist office. I to be > > to worked ever so hard in that program and so the > > trophy to me is of > > much worked for. I to be of happy in getting one. I > > to ahve gotte3n > > awards in life for various things but in ture they > > mean nothing to me > > even my award from the governor of Ohio because I to > > not feel earned > > of them in same ways I to worked to earn of my > > trophy. the awards I > > to getted in past to me for just for being a part of > > something and > > was of my interest areas and so it was to mebecause > > of being with > > autism that got of them. But for this trophy I to > > had to work through > > my own autism issues to make gains in good ways and > > work toughmany > > difficult things for me to do and so it was of to me > > something I to > > worked to gain not just given to me. I to be of > > proud to that , that > > I to actually forced of self to push past safe zones > > to gain in this. > > > > my endowment fund is almost ready to begin of its > > work too for those > > with autism in Ohio and michigan I to so much want > > to try to give to > > those teens and adults who are at risk for social > > isolations of not > > given supports to help increase teh likliy hood of > > friendships and or > > connections to teh community. > > Sondra > > > > > > In Autism_in_Girls , Kassi > > > > wrote: > > > > > > I'm better now, Sondra, thank you for asking. I > > would > > > like to be friends with everyone here (at least > > > everyone who is active) because there is a lot of > > love > > > and good spirit here...this is probably my > > favorite > > > group I belong to. > > > > > > I would have written sooner but I was out of town > > for > > > a meet. May everyone be more energetic than I am > > right > > > now! > > > > > > Kassiane, > > > veryveryverytired > > > > > > --- sondra wrote: > > > > > > > Kassi are you of still much sad and angry? been > > > > wondering of you this > > > > day? the person sayed she is of sorry to you. > > and so > > > > I to feel it was > > > > of a true sorry so I to hope you two can be of > > > > friends now. > > > > Sondra > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2007 Report Share Posted April 16, 2007 Congratulations Kassi for continuing with the meets even when not feeling well. Even better is that you did so well at the adults meet!!! Congratulations Sondra on working through your comfort level & getting something tangible that you can see for all your hard work. When I feel bad sometimes about my issues, which are nothing compared to what you guys go through, I think of people on the spectrum who has a much harder time dealing with life issues, & I try to get myself out of a slump. Keep up the good work, both of you & thank you for all you do. Marie > > I had TWO meets in one day (one with regular team, one > with the adult team) and had been sick all the night > before, so the one with regular team was kind of bad, > I fell a lot on beam and once on bars but did well on > floor and vault. > > Adult meet went REALLY well...I got a 9.7 out of a > possible 10 on floor, and a 9.0 on vault, both of > which were 1st places, and 2nd on beam and bars, 3rd > in the total scores. It was a lot of fun because they > gave silly awards, like one guy got an award for the > longest eyelashes and a woman got one for the most > uncontrollable fans (they tackled her when she was > done with floor). I got one for falling on my back > with grace in the first meet, and for being crazy > enough to do a back roll on a balance beam in the 2nd > meet. The whole thing was silly and all decorum was > lost before warmups were over. > > I'm glad they chose you for the autistic board for > ASA...I had hoped they would. And congratulations on > the trophy & the endowment fund! You deserve to have > your hard work rewarded. Put the trophy where everyone > can see it! That's what they're for. > > Kassiane > > --- sondra wrote: > > > happy to hear of this how did you meet go? as for me > > two good things > > to share one is was accepted to sit on a board under > > teh board of > > national ASA. it is of a selected group of autisics. > > I to lack how > > was nominated to serve of that board/panel but they > > contacted of me > > and asked of me to consider of it and fill out > > applications and such > > and the main board approved of me to be part of it. > > > > secondly got of my first ever trophy in all of life > > for completing of > > the creative movement and drama class at my > > therpaist office. I to be > > to worked ever so hard in that program and so the > > trophy to me is of > > much worked for. I to be of happy in getting one. I > > to ahve gotte3n > > awards in life for various things but in ture they > > mean nothing to me > > even my award from the governor of Ohio because I to > > not feel earned > > of them in same ways I to worked to earn of my > > trophy. the awards I > > to getted in past to me for just for being a part of > > something and > > was of my interest areas and so it was to mebecause > > of being with > > autism that got of them. But for this trophy I to > > had to work through > > my own autism issues to make gains in good ways and > > work toughmany > > difficult things for me to do and so it was of to me > > something I to > > worked to gain not just given to me. I to be of > > proud to that , that > > I to actually forced of self to push past safe zones > > to gain in this. > > > > my endowment fund is almost ready to begin of its > > work too for those > > with autism in Ohio and michigan I to so much want > > to try to give to > > those teens and adults who are at risk for social > > isolations of not > > given supports to help increase teh likliy hood of > > friendships and or > > connections to teh community. > > Sondra > > > > > > In Autism_in_Girls , Kassi > > > > wrote: > > > > > > I'm better now, Sondra, thank you for asking. I > > would > > > like to be friends with everyone here (at least > > > everyone who is active) because there is a lot of > > love > > > and good spirit here...this is probably my > > favorite > > > group I belong to. > > > > > > I would have written sooner but I was out of town > > for > > > a meet. May everyone be more energetic than I am > > right > > > now! > > > > > > Kassiane, > > > veryveryverytired > > > > > > --- sondra wrote: > > > > > > > Kassi are you of still much sad and angry? been > > > > wondering of you this > > > > day? the person sayed she is of sorry to you. > > and so > > > > I to feel it was > > > > of a true sorry so I to hope you two can be of > > > > friends now. > > > > Sondra > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2007 Report Share Posted June 4, 2007 My stepdad, who was the abuser, blocked it...he was a psychologist and used hypnosis after every time he attacked me...the trigger to forget again was music from church. I still can't hear some songs without vomiting. I am VERY hypnotizable, it can even stop bleeding for me. People who prey on children make me sick, no matter how they cover their deeds.... Kassiane --- sondra wrote: > sorry to hear of you past as my own is of same sorts > of abuse > issues . I to ahve of a question though you shared > you had of no > memory of the abuse until october so did you get of > dx as having a > disascoitate disorder as well it is where one blocks > out and has of > no memory of it. I to read over this but lack how it > really words or > the real meanings of the words to it but wonder on > how you were of > able to block it all out and not endure the trauma > of it then > emotionally or did of you ? I to be of not want to > dismiss of you > pains but wanted to learn how you coped it in life. > > For me as a child did not see it as a sexaul assult > to me but a > physical attack to me and lacked awareness it was a > sexual violations > and was not developmentally aware of the " self " well > so could not > endure the trauma of it being sexual but it did > pronounce to me > severe trauma of not understood emotions in me. It > was later that my > pictures in my head became of a reality of the > attacks being of > sexual and then could feel some of the knwoings of > it being a > violations to me. > > I to have strong memory of the events and was not > able to do teh > blocking out things and so wonder on this and wish > could have been of > able to somehow blocked it from my thinking and > brain but it never > was to be. > > You are much smart to things and so wondered what > causes one to block > it and keep it blocked , what happens in the brain > to do this? just > wonder if you can explain the phenomonen? I to > heared of others but > they were of typical developing but shared they too > blocked of the > sexual abuse as childrens. it is just confusing and > yet intriguing to > me. > > I to be of so much into a overload state and and > cant seem to ahve > any energy to function much well at all today. I t > mostly colored in > my color books, watched of TV, played with my > bunnies some and > ocassionally comed here. Very little words this day, > not able to be > in words much and not have an interest to be in a > verbal back and > foth in the real of interacting. > > Isaiah my oldest to graduated yesterday and so had > of too much people > and noise and expectations. today I to actually > sleep much of 15 > hours which is a never things for me unless into > states of overlaod > that are of too much for me to cope. > > Sondra > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Get the Yahoo! toolbar and be alerted to new email wherever you're surfing. http://new.toolbar.yahoo.com/toolbar/features/mail/index.php Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2007 Report Share Posted June 4, 2007 My stepdad, who was the abuser, blocked it...he was a psychologist and used hypnosis after every time he attacked me...the trigger to forget again was music from church. I still can't hear some songs without vomiting. I am VERY hypnotizable, it can even stop bleeding for me. People who prey on children make me sick, no matter how they cover their deeds.... Kassiane --- sondra wrote: > sorry to hear of you past as my own is of same sorts > of abuse > issues . I to ahve of a question though you shared > you had of no > memory of the abuse until october so did you get of > dx as having a > disascoitate disorder as well it is where one blocks > out and has of > no memory of it. I to read over this but lack how it > really words or > the real meanings of the words to it but wonder on > how you were of > able to block it all out and not endure the trauma > of it then > emotionally or did of you ? I to be of not want to > dismiss of you > pains but wanted to learn how you coped it in life. > > For me as a child did not see it as a sexaul assult > to me but a > physical attack to me and lacked awareness it was a > sexual violations > and was not developmentally aware of the " self " well > so could not > endure the trauma of it being sexual but it did > pronounce to me > severe trauma of not understood emotions in me. It > was later that my > pictures in my head became of a reality of the > attacks being of > sexual and then could feel some of the knwoings of > it being a > violations to me. > > I to have strong memory of the events and was not > able to do teh > blocking out things and so wonder on this and wish > could have been of > able to somehow blocked it from my thinking and > brain but it never > was to be. > > You are much smart to things and so wondered what > causes one to block > it and keep it blocked , what happens in the brain > to do this? just > wonder if you can explain the phenomonen? I to > heared of others but > they were of typical developing but shared they too > blocked of the > sexual abuse as childrens. it is just confusing and > yet intriguing to > me. > > I to be of so much into a overload state and and > cant seem to ahve > any energy to function much well at all today. I t > mostly colored in > my color books, watched of TV, played with my > bunnies some and > ocassionally comed here. Very little words this day, > not able to be > in words much and not have an interest to be in a > verbal back and > foth in the real of interacting. > > Isaiah my oldest to graduated yesterday and so had > of too much people > and noise and expectations. today I to actually > sleep much of 15 > hours which is a never things for me unless into > states of overlaod > that are of too much for me to cope. > > Sondra > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Get the Yahoo! toolbar and be alerted to new email wherever you're surfing. http://new.toolbar.yahoo.com/toolbar/features/mail/index.php Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2007 Report Share Posted June 4, 2007 In a message dated 6/4/07 12:58:34 PM Eastern Daylight Time, kassihatestwistin@... writes: People who prey on children make me sick, no matter how they cover their deeds.... Kassiane people who do that should just be put down like you do a dog that attacks everyone cause its so messed up. i know a little harsh but they are sick and most people like that will tell you they will do it again if they can. eric abbys dad ************************************** See what's free at http://www.aol.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2007 Report Share Posted June 4, 2007 He was of psychologist who did of this to you and did of a hypnosis to make you not remember of it with church music? I to lack how that works but feel sad that this was to happen and yes no matter how or what it isof a cruel things to do to any ones. did he lose of hims lisence and or go to jail? In Ohio they are looking at death penalty for repeat offenders and I to hope soon they will have of a license plate to identify an offender on their cars. This way if they are ever see with a child in the car they can be pulled over for just reasons by police. In Ohio they have of that for drunk drivers they have of kraft macaroni and cheese color license plate that identifys of them. I to not understand of hypnosis or any such things , not understand of the mechanics of it so cant comment to it. I to be aware of the term but still lack how it works. Sondra In Autism_in_Girls , Kassi wrote: > > My stepdad, who was the abuser, blocked it...he was a > psychologist and used hypnosis after every time he > attacked me...the trigger to forget again was music > from church. I still can't hear some songs without > vomiting. I am VERY hypnotizable, it can even stop > bleeding for me. > > People who prey on children make me sick, no matter > how they cover their deeds.... > > Kassiane > --- sondra wrote: > > > sorry to hear of you past as my own is of same sorts > > of abuse > > issues . I to ahve of a question though you shared > > you had of no > > memory of the abuse until october so did you get of > > dx as having a > > disascoitate disorder as well it is where one blocks > > out and has of > > no memory of it. I to read over this but lack how it > > really words or > > the real meanings of the words to it but wonder on > > how you were of > > able to block it all out and not endure the trauma > > of it then > > emotionally or did of you ? I to be of not want to > > dismiss of you > > pains but wanted to learn how you coped it in life. > > > > For me as a child did not see it as a sexaul assult > > to me but a > > physical attack to me and lacked awareness it was a > > sexual violations > > and was not developmentally aware of the " self " well > > so could not > > endure the trauma of it being sexual but it did > > pronounce to me > > severe trauma of not understood emotions in me. It > > was later that my > > pictures in my head became of a reality of the > > attacks being of > > sexual and then could feel some of the knwoings of > > it being a > > violations to me. > > > > I to have strong memory of the events and was not > > able to do teh > > blocking out things and so wonder on this and wish > > could have been of > > able to somehow blocked it from my thinking and > > brain but it never > > was to be. > > > > You are much smart to things and so wondered what > > causes one to block > > it and keep it blocked , what happens in the brain > > to do this? just > > wonder if you can explain the phenomonen? I to > > heared of others but > > they were of typical developing but shared they too > > blocked of the > > sexual abuse as childrens. it is just confusing and > > yet intriguing to > > me. > > > > I to be of so much into a overload state and and > > cant seem to ahve > > any energy to function much well at all today. I t > > mostly colored in > > my color books, watched of TV, played with my > > bunnies some and > > ocassionally comed here. Very little words this day, > > not able to be > > in words much and not have an interest to be in a > > verbal back and > > foth in the real of interacting. > > > > Isaiah my oldest to graduated yesterday and so had > > of too much people > > and noise and expectations. today I to actually > > sleep much of 15 > > hours which is a never things for me unless into > > states of overlaod > > that are of too much for me to cope. > > > > Sondra > > > > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ ______________ > Get the Yahoo! toolbar and be alerted to new email wherever you're surfing. > http://new.toolbar.yahoo.com/toolbar/features/mail/index.php > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2007 Report Share Posted June 4, 2007 He was of psychologist who did of this to you and did of a hypnosis to make you not remember of it with church music? I to lack how that works but feel sad that this was to happen and yes no matter how or what it isof a cruel things to do to any ones. did he lose of hims lisence and or go to jail? In Ohio they are looking at death penalty for repeat offenders and I to hope soon they will have of a license plate to identify an offender on their cars. This way if they are ever see with a child in the car they can be pulled over for just reasons by police. In Ohio they have of that for drunk drivers they have of kraft macaroni and cheese color license plate that identifys of them. I to not understand of hypnosis or any such things , not understand of the mechanics of it so cant comment to it. I to be aware of the term but still lack how it works. Sondra In Autism_in_Girls , Kassi wrote: > > My stepdad, who was the abuser, blocked it...he was a > psychologist and used hypnosis after every time he > attacked me...the trigger to forget again was music > from church. I still can't hear some songs without > vomiting. I am VERY hypnotizable, it can even stop > bleeding for me. > > People who prey on children make me sick, no matter > how they cover their deeds.... > > Kassiane > --- sondra wrote: > > > sorry to hear of you past as my own is of same sorts > > of abuse > > issues . I to ahve of a question though you shared > > you had of no > > memory of the abuse until october so did you get of > > dx as having a > > disascoitate disorder as well it is where one blocks > > out and has of > > no memory of it. I to read over this but lack how it > > really words or > > the real meanings of the words to it but wonder on > > how you were of > > able to block it all out and not endure the trauma > > of it then > > emotionally or did of you ? I to be of not want to > > dismiss of you > > pains but wanted to learn how you coped it in life. > > > > For me as a child did not see it as a sexaul assult > > to me but a > > physical attack to me and lacked awareness it was a > > sexual violations > > and was not developmentally aware of the " self " well > > so could not > > endure the trauma of it being sexual but it did > > pronounce to me > > severe trauma of not understood emotions in me. It > > was later that my > > pictures in my head became of a reality of the > > attacks being of > > sexual and then could feel some of the knwoings of > > it being a > > violations to me. > > > > I to have strong memory of the events and was not > > able to do teh > > blocking out things and so wonder on this and wish > > could have been of > > able to somehow blocked it from my thinking and > > brain but it never > > was to be. > > > > You are much smart to things and so wondered what > > causes one to block > > it and keep it blocked , what happens in the brain > > to do this? just > > wonder if you can explain the phenomonen? I to > > heared of others but > > they were of typical developing but shared they too > > blocked of the > > sexual abuse as childrens. it is just confusing and > > yet intriguing to > > me. > > > > I to be of so much into a overload state and and > > cant seem to ahve > > any energy to function much well at all today. I t > > mostly colored in > > my color books, watched of TV, played with my > > bunnies some and > > ocassionally comed here. Very little words this day, > > not able to be > > in words much and not have an interest to be in a > > verbal back and > > foth in the real of interacting. > > > > Isaiah my oldest to graduated yesterday and so had > > of too much people > > and noise and expectations. today I to actually > > sleep much of 15 > > hours which is a never things for me unless into > > states of overlaod > > that are of too much for me to cope. > > > > Sondra > > > > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ ______________ > Get the Yahoo! toolbar and be alerted to new email wherever you're surfing. > http://new.toolbar.yahoo.com/toolbar/features/mail/index.php > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2007 Report Share Posted June 5, 2007 I agree. I think at bare minimum castration, don't know what the answer for women offenders is. It's amazing to me that civil rights groups will say they have a right to keep their parts knowing the chances of them harming children is so great. Debi > > people who do that should just be put down like you do a dog that attacks > everyone cause its so messed up. i know a little harsh but they are sick and > most people like that will tell you they will do it again if they can. > eric abbys dad > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2007 Report Share Posted June 6, 2007 I so agree about al this. Kassi, what happened to you was deplorable and I only wish that monster could face justice. Do you have any insights you can share with us to help us protect our vulnerable girls? It's my nightmare that someone, someday could prey on my daughter.... and I'm certainly not going to live forever to be able to protect her. Melinda ************************************** See what's free at http://www.aol.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2007 Report Share Posted June 6, 2007 Rape in itself is a trauma, but to have someone in your family betray you, someone who should be protecting you from harm, who causes that kind of harm is beyond despicable. Kassi, your stepdad is a monster, particularly b/c he is (should be was) a psychologist, someone who is in a trusted position, who used his skills to hide his demonic behavior. I really hope he is not able to abuse his " power " with other women & betray his profession! I worry about the potential for Kim being abused by someone b/c of her autism, b/c she is vulnerable. I hope that I will be able to protect her in that regard. -- Marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2007 Report Share Posted June 6, 2007 In a message dated 6/6/07 5:10:02 PM Eastern Daylight Time, kassihatestwistin@... writes: He is a monster. He abused power. It happens a lot in the differently brained game. May all your children be safe from this, and the other monsters out there. autism isnt a monster. the monsters live inside people who may look and act normal and helpful... Kassiane, fought many a monster, will never stop fighting, and will never forgive or forget you know kassie my cousin is in the navy. hes been though a lot he could claim he thought he was back in iraq, i think he could take care of the monster and get away with it. yeah i know but its still a nice thought. eric abbys protector and daddy ************************************** See what's free at http://www.aol.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2007 Report Share Posted June 6, 2007 In a message dated 6/6/07 5:30:11 PM Eastern Daylight Time, fightingautism@... writes: He witnessed his mother bringing men into the home to have intercourse with them, those men beating him, doing drugs, etc. A child can't be exposed to things like that without having horrible consequences, but it's certainly no excuse. my father hit me many times. i learned by his example how not to be. ive never hit anyone in my life. but sometimes i do want to hit some of these monsters that have hurt my friends here. eric abbys dad ************************************** See what's free at http://www.aol.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2007 Report Share Posted June 6, 2007 He's a SCHOOL psychologist. Heaven only knows how many kids he has done this to, especially recalcitrant ones (he wanted 'respect' and nothing like a 300 pound man raping a girl who topped out at around 90 when he was DONE for power...) once he realized how easily hypnotized some people are, or how rarely theyre believed. He is a monster. He abused power. It happens a lot in the differently brained game. May all your children be safe from this, and the other monsters out there. autism isnt a monster. the monsters live inside people who may look and act normal and helpful... Kassiane, fought many a monster, will never stop fighting, and will never forgive or forget --- Marie wrote: > Rape in itself is a trauma, but to have someone in > your family betray you, > someone who should be protecting you from harm, who > causes that kind of harm > is beyond despicable. Kassi, your stepdad is a > monster, particularly b/c he > is (should be was) a psychologist, someone who is in > a trusted position, who > used his skills to hide his demonic behavior. I > really hope he is not able > to abuse his " power " with other women & betray his > profession! > > I worry about the potential for Kim being abused by > someone b/c of her > autism, b/c she is vulnerable. I hope that I will > be able to protect her in > that regard. > > -- > Marie > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ It's here! Your new message! Get new email alerts with the free Yahoo! Toolbar. http://tools.search.yahoo.com/toolbar/features/mail/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2007 Report Share Posted June 6, 2007 To protect your daughter... Teach her that her body is her own. Give her the power of the word NO. Then respect it. No doesnt have to be verbal. Girls who can take self defense should. Self bathing is a good goal. The less chance staff will ever see a vulnerable person naked the better (Im trying to cover the spectrum here) Teach your children private areas, and to tell and tell and tell some more if someone makes them uncomfortable. Give them the means (pecs, typing, words, whatever). social stories if those help... BELIEVE HER. and keep your eyes open. I pray every night that no more girls will be victimized, that no more autistics will be hurt or killed or raped or mistreated. But our communities (autistics & autism families) need to work together to solve this one...we know what would help us learn, yall know how YOUR kids learn and how to implement it. Kassiane --- EbuyerMTC@... wrote: > I so agree about al this. Kassi, what happened to > you was deplorable and I > only wish that monster could face justice. Do you > have any insights you can > share with us to help us protect our vulnerable > girls? It's my nightmare that > someone, someday could prey on my daughter.... and > I'm certainly not going to > live forever to be able to protect her. > Melinda > > > > ************************************** See what's > free at http://www.aol.com. > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Moody friends. Drama queens. Your life? Nope! - their life, your story. Play Sims Stories at Yahoo! Games. http://sims.yahoo.com/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2007 Report Share Posted June 6, 2007 Unfortunately the perpetrators are often family members. With all the porn on the internet I wonder if it's making it much worse. When I see those dateline stories of seemingly typical men showing up to have sex with 12-13 yr old girls, it makes me wonder how many times they've actually done it in the past and never been caught. The person who molested me when I was a little girl ended up going to prison for molesting his step-daughter, who was also 7 like I was. He was in his late 20's by then, but only 13-14 when he did it to me. What he had witnessed in his only family life as a small child I really believe led to his behaviors. He witnessed his mother bringing men into the home to have intercourse with them, those men beating him, doing drugs, etc. A child can't be exposed to things like that without having horrible consequences, but it's certainly no excuse. There are also those who are witness such horrible situations who grow up to be upstanding people. Just sad to see it happen to so many families, and so many girls suffer in silence. Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2007 Report Share Posted June 6, 2007 These are all great goals, but for young children, under 10, especially those with autism, it's highly unlikely they will comprehend. Not because of autism necessarily, but NT or ASD it's hard for a little child to understand appropriate/inappropriate. After all, these are the little ones who don't think twice about burping, farting, nose-picking on stage, or many other social no-nos. My mother had taught me all these things about modesty, my body being mine, etc, but when I was 7 I didn't understand what to do, ESPECIALLY when it's a family member because you think in your innocence that this person is a safe person and they aren't doing anything wrong. After all, if you need your diaper changed when you're 5, 6, 7 yrs old and caregivers have to care for you there, it's a very fuzzy line in a child's mind, IMO. I think the other problem is that, unknowingly, we're using these views of self-empowerment concepts to mean a small child is able to keep herself safe as if the child can change what's happened if only she had behaved differently, like if she had just said no or had not gotten out of the tub naked, etc. The fact is, especially small children, can't keep themselves safe, that's why they need adults to care for them. Older kids may be able to self-advocate better, but these small kids are at greatest risk. Debi > > To protect your daughter... > > Teach her that her body is her own. > > Give her the power of the word NO. Then respect it. No > doesnt have to be verbal. > > Girls who can take self defense should. > > Self bathing is a good goal. The less chance staff > will ever see a vulnerable person naked the better (Im > trying to cover the spectrum here) > > Teach your children private areas, and to tell and > tell and tell some more if someone makes them > uncomfortable. Give them the means (pecs, typing, > words, whatever). social stories if those help... > > BELIEVE HER. and keep your eyes open. > > I pray every night that no more girls will be > victimized, that no more autistics will be hurt or > killed or raped or mistreated. But our communities > (autistics & autism families) need to work together to > solve this one...we know what would help us learn, > yall know how YOUR kids learn and how to implement it. > > > Kassiane > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2007 Report Share Posted June 6, 2007 My suggestions were, of course, for an older girl/young lady. A small child can't be expected to fight for herself yet. She can start learning the tools, but it is NORMAL for a parent to do the bath thing for quite a while, and there is the diaper thing, and so it IS harder. I believe that risks can be reduced but i don't yet know how. It isn't fair to ask adults of any configuration to offer suggestions if they were abused young and it is too raw, IMHO. I was a little older, just ridiculously small. And I think we all know where I stand on people blaming the victim. I think theyre almost as guilty as the abuser. That's why i didnt say a word on modest clothing (which is impossible to find anyway, I shop in the kids department and there's NOHTING but that isn't the point). Abusers are the guilty party, period. Abuse is neither a crutch nor the victim's fault. Ever. You've got young girls, Debi. Any suggestions for keeping younger girls safe? I'd love to know in case someone asks...all children deserve safety. Kassiane --- Debi wrote: > These are all great goals, but for young children, > under 10, > especially those with autism, it's highly unlikely > they will > comprehend. Not because of autism necessarily, but > NT or ASD it's hard > for a little child to understand > appropriate/inappropriate. After all, > these are the little ones who don't think twice > about burping, > farting, nose-picking on stage, or many other social > no-nos. My mother > had taught me all these things about modesty, my > body being mine, etc, > but when I was 7 I didn't understand what to do, > ESPECIALLY when it's > a family member because you think in your innocence > that this person > is a safe person and they aren't doing anything > wrong. After all, if > you need your diaper changed when you're 5, 6, 7 yrs > old and > caregivers have to care for you there, it's a very > fuzzy line in a > child's mind, IMO. > > I think the other problem is that, unknowingly, > we're using these > views of self-empowerment concepts to mean a small > child is able to > keep herself safe as if the child can change what's > happened if only > she had behaved differently, like if she had just > said no or had not > gotten out of the tub naked, etc. The fact is, > especially small > children, can't keep themselves safe, that's why > they need adults to > care for them. Older kids may be able to > self-advocate better, but > these small kids are at greatest risk. > > Debi > > > > > > To protect your daughter... > > > > Teach her that her body is her own. > > > > Give her the power of the word NO. Then respect > it. No > > doesnt have to be verbal. > > > > Girls who can take self defense should. > > > > Self bathing is a good goal. The less chance staff > > will ever see a vulnerable person naked the better > (Im > > trying to cover the spectrum here) > > > > Teach your children private areas, and to tell and > > tell and tell some more if someone makes them > > uncomfortable. Give them the means (pecs, typing, > > words, whatever). social stories if those help... > > > > BELIEVE HER. and keep your eyes open. > > > > I pray every night that no more girls will be > > victimized, that no more autistics will be hurt or > > killed or raped or mistreated. But our communities > > (autistics & autism families) need to work > together to > > solve this one...we know what would help us learn, > > yall know how YOUR kids learn and how to implement > it. > > > > > > Kassiane > > > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ TV dinner still cooling? Check out " Tonight's Picks " on Yahoo! TV. http://tv.yahoo.com/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2007 Report Share Posted June 6, 2007 > > He's a SCHOOL psychologist. Heaven only knows how many > kids he has done this to, especially recalcitrant ones > (he wanted 'respect' and nothing like a 300 pound man > raping a girl who topped out at around 90 when he was > DONE for power...) once he realized how easily > hypnotized some people are, or how rarely theyre > believed. That is so disgusting that he's a school psychologist. Did nothing happen to him? Was he never brought to justice for what he's done? Has he never been caught abusing anyone else? Being 300 lbs, he had to prey on girls who couldn't consent b/c he must have repulsed women who were able to have consensual sex. Is there something we as a community can do? Is there any way to look for other victims & get his butt into court? I'd hate for him to get away with it. Being in his position, he has vulnerable children that he has contact with, the troubled ones who are so susceptible. That is so scary to have someone like that around kids!!! Modesty is something I have to constantly remind Kim about. She'll still open the bathroom door after a shower to get my attention with a towel barely draped on her shoulders. She doesn't understand the concept of privacy & privates, & will keep working on that. I admire all of you that are survivors of sexual abuse! I agree with Kassi that it is never the victim's fault! Marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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