Re: Grandson may have autism

[Guest guest]

Has she had him evaluated about the speech delay at all? Alot of times it helps

to hear from a therapist or a pro that you should have your child tested, if you

are in denial about something. I was fine having my child tested. I think it

is negligent for them to let his speech continue to be delayed because he could

get the help to at least be able to communicate. If he has ASD the earlier he

is diagnosed and begins therapies the better chance he has at leading a normal

life. It really is hard though, because so many parents think, " not my child " ,

so it is also about parents putting that pride aside and doing what is best for

the child. He may just be speech delayed. I know that if you cannot

communicate what you are feeling you become frustrated, so maybe that is all

that is wrong, but he still needs early intervention. Is he recieving any

Early Intervention services at all?

Carol wrote: Hello everyone. Is anyone here

from Virginia? My stepdaughter's

youngest son, who will be three in March, is language delayed and

displays very rigid tendencies. I have not personally seen him in a

year and a half since I am in Michigan and my parents have not been

well enough for me to leave the state. My son-in-law, seems to think

he'll just grow out of it and my stepdaughter is reluctant to get any

testing done without her husband's support. I know that whatever

special needs he may have be it autism or something else time is

crucial. I know ASD runs in the family, of my ex-husbands 6 children

there are three on the spectrum including my daughter. Does anyone

have any advice?

The Future Mrs. Garner

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Has she had him evaluated about the speech delay at all? Alot of times it helps

to hear from a therapist or a pro that you should have your child tested, if you

are in denial about something. I was fine having my child tested. I think it

is negligent for them to let his speech continue to be delayed because he could

get the help to at least be able to communicate. If he has ASD the earlier he

is diagnosed and begins therapies the better chance he has at leading a normal

life. It really is hard though, because so many parents think, " not my child " ,

so it is also about parents putting that pride aside and doing what is best for

the child. He may just be speech delayed. I know that if you cannot

communicate what you are feeling you become frustrated, so maybe that is all

that is wrong, but he still needs early intervention. Is he recieving any

Early Intervention services at all?

Carol wrote: Hello everyone. Is anyone here

from Virginia? My stepdaughter's

youngest son, who will be three in March, is language delayed and

displays very rigid tendencies. I have not personally seen him in a

year and a half since I am in Michigan and my parents have not been

well enough for me to leave the state. My son-in-law, seems to think

he'll just grow out of it and my stepdaughter is reluctant to get any

testing done without her husband's support. I know that whatever

special needs he may have be it autism or something else time is

crucial. I know ASD runs in the family, of my ex-husbands 6 children

there are three on the spectrum including my daughter. Does anyone

have any advice?

The Future Mrs. Garner

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

He is recieving nothing because they haven't had him evaluated. I am trying to

communicate to my stepdaughter the importance of early intervention but she is

so overwhelmed with her situation, she and her husband are on shaky terms and

she is afraid to rock the boat. I am very concerned about my grandson.

kelly dawson wrote: Has she had him

evaluated about the speech delay at all? Alot of times it helps to hear from a

therapist or a pro that you should have your child tested, if you are in denial

about something. I was fine having my child tested. I think it is negligent for

them to let his speech continue to be delayed because he could get the help to

at least be able to communicate. If he has ASD the earlier he is diagnosed and

begins therapies the better chance he has at leading a normal life. It really is

hard though, because so many parents think, " not my child " , so it is also about

parents putting that pride aside and doing what is best for the child. He may

just be speech delayed. I know that if you cannot communicate what you are

feeling you become frustrated, so maybe that is all that is wrong, but he still

needs early intervention. Is he recieving any Early Intervention services at

all?

Carol wrote: Hello everyone. Is anyone here from

Virginia? My stepdaughter's

youngest son, who will be three in March, is language delayed and

displays very rigid tendencies. I have not personally seen him in a

year and a half since I am in Michigan and my parents have not been

well enough for me to leave the state. My son-in-law, seems to think

he'll just grow out of it and my stepdaughter is reluctant to get any

testing done without her husband's support. I know that whatever

special needs he may have be it autism or something else time is

crucial. I know ASD runs in the family, of my ex-husbands 6 children

there are three on the spectrum including my daughter. Does anyone

have any advice?

The Future Mrs. Garner

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

He is recieving nothing because they haven't had him evaluated. I am trying to

communicate to my stepdaughter the importance of early intervention but she is

so overwhelmed with her situation, she and her husband are on shaky terms and

she is afraid to rock the boat. I am very concerned about my grandson.

kelly dawson wrote: Has she had him

evaluated about the speech delay at all? Alot of times it helps to hear from a

therapist or a pro that you should have your child tested, if you are in denial

about something. I was fine having my child tested. I think it is negligent for

them to let his speech continue to be delayed because he could get the help to

at least be able to communicate. If he has ASD the earlier he is diagnosed and

begins therapies the better chance he has at leading a normal life. It really is

hard though, because so many parents think, " not my child " , so it is also about

parents putting that pride aside and doing what is best for the child. He may

just be speech delayed. I know that if you cannot communicate what you are

feeling you become frustrated, so maybe that is all that is wrong, but he still

needs early intervention. Is he recieving any Early Intervention services at

all?

Carol wrote: Hello everyone. Is anyone here from

Virginia? My stepdaughter's

youngest son, who will be three in March, is language delayed and

displays very rigid tendencies. I have not personally seen him in a

year and a half since I am in Michigan and my parents have not been

well enough for me to leave the state. My son-in-law, seems to think

he'll just grow out of it and my stepdaughter is reluctant to get any

testing done without her husband's support. I know that whatever

special needs he may have be it autism or something else time is

crucial. I know ASD runs in the family, of my ex-husbands 6 children

there are three on the spectrum including my daughter. Does anyone

have any advice?

The Future Mrs. Garner

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

ls he i preschool? Maybe you could write them a letter and suggest he

be tested?? Or what about his pediatrician????? It is very important

he gets the help he needs. I know you mentioned you can't go there

but what about one of her siblings???

>

>

>

>

>

>

> He is recieving nothing because they haven't had him evaluated. I am trying

> to communicate to my stepdaughter the importance of early intervention but

> she is so overwhelmed with her situation, she and her husband are on shaky

> terms and she is afraid to rock the boat. I am very concerned about my

> grandson.

>

> kelly dawson wrote: Has she had him evaluated

> about the speech delay at all? Alot of times it helps to hear from a

> therapist or a pro that you should have your child tested, if you are in

> denial about something. I was fine having my child tested. I think it is

> negligent for them to let his speech continue to be delayed because he could

> get the help to at least be able to communicate. If he has ASD the earlier

> he is diagnosed and begins therapies the better chance he has at leading a

> normal life. It really is hard though, because so many parents think, " not my

> child " , so it is also about parents putting that pride aside and doing what

> is best for the child. He may just be speech delayed. I know that if you

> cannot communicate what you are feeling you become frustrated, so maybe that

> is all that is wrong, but he still needs early intervention. Is he recieving

> any Early Intervention services at all?

>

> Carol wrote: Hello everyone. Is anyone here from

> Virginia? My stepdaughter's

> youngest son, who will be three in March, is language delayed and

> displays very rigid tendencies. I have not personally seen him in a

> year and a half since I am in Michigan and my parents have not been

> well enough for me to leave the state. My son-in-law, seems to think

> he'll just grow out of it and my stepdaughter is reluctant to get any

> testing done without her husband's support. I know that whatever

> special needs he may have be it autism or something else time is

> crucial. I know ASD runs in the family, of my ex-husbands 6 children

> there are three on the spectrum including my daughter. Does anyone

> have any advice?

>

> The Future Mrs. Garner

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

ls he i preschool? Maybe you could write them a letter and suggest he

be tested?? Or what about his pediatrician????? It is very important

he gets the help he needs. I know you mentioned you can't go there

but what about one of her siblings???

>

>

>

>

>

>

> He is recieving nothing because they haven't had him evaluated. I am trying

> to communicate to my stepdaughter the importance of early intervention but

> she is so overwhelmed with her situation, she and her husband are on shaky

> terms and she is afraid to rock the boat. I am very concerned about my

> grandson.

>

> kelly dawson wrote: Has she had him evaluated

> about the speech delay at all? Alot of times it helps to hear from a

> therapist or a pro that you should have your child tested, if you are in

> denial about something. I was fine having my child tested. I think it is

> negligent for them to let his speech continue to be delayed because he could

> get the help to at least be able to communicate. If he has ASD the earlier

> he is diagnosed and begins therapies the better chance he has at leading a

> normal life. It really is hard though, because so many parents think, " not my

> child " , so it is also about parents putting that pride aside and doing what

> is best for the child. He may just be speech delayed. I know that if you

> cannot communicate what you are feeling you become frustrated, so maybe that

> is all that is wrong, but he still needs early intervention. Is he recieving

> any Early Intervention services at all?

>

> Carol wrote: Hello everyone. Is anyone here from

> Virginia? My stepdaughter's

> youngest son, who will be three in March, is language delayed and

> displays very rigid tendencies. I have not personally seen him in a

> year and a half since I am in Michigan and my parents have not been

> well enough for me to leave the state. My son-in-law, seems to think

> he'll just grow out of it and my stepdaughter is reluctant to get any

> testing done without her husband's support. I know that whatever

> special needs he may have be it autism or something else time is

> crucial. I know ASD runs in the family, of my ex-husbands 6 children

> there are three on the spectrum including my daughter. Does anyone

> have any advice?

>

> The Future Mrs. Garner

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

He is not in preschool per se. Someone comes and babysits him while his parents

are at work. I asked what the pediatrician but there was no help there. This

is the same pediatrician who never took alarm when my stepson, now diagnosed

PDD-NOS and bipolar, didn't speak until age 3. Her other brother lives in NY

and his wife is pregnant with child number two and they are struggling

financially. The other sibs are half sibs from their father's 3rd marriage and

they are only ten. Her mom is trying to be supportive and is as worried as I am

about our grandson. She lives in the area and is more than willing to take him

for testing, it's getting the permission that is the problem.

taijij at work wrote: ls he i preschool? Maybe you

could write them a letter and suggest he

be tested?? Or what about his pediatrician????? It is very important

he gets the help he needs. I know you mentioned you can't go there

but what about one of her siblings???

>

>

>

>

>

>

> He is recieving nothing because they haven't had him evaluated. I am trying

> to communicate to my stepdaughter the importance of early intervention but

> she is so overwhelmed with her situation, she and her husband are on shaky

> terms and she is afraid to rock the boat. I am very concerned about my

> grandson.

>

> kelly dawson wrote: Has she had him evaluated

> about the speech delay at all? Alot of times it helps to hear from a

> therapist or a pro that you should have your child tested, if you are in

> denial about something. I was fine having my child tested. I think it is

> negligent for them to let his speech continue to be delayed because he could

> get the help to at least be able to communicate. If he has ASD the earlier

> he is diagnosed and begins therapies the better chance he has at leading a

> normal life. It really is hard though, because so many parents think, " not my

> child " , so it is also about parents putting that pride aside and doing what

> is best for the child. He may just be speech delayed. I know that if you

> cannot communicate what you are feeling you become frustrated, so maybe that

> is all that is wrong, but he still needs early intervention. Is he recieving

> any Early Intervention services at all?

>

> Carol wrote: Hello everyone. Is anyone here from

> Virginia? My stepdaughter's

> youngest son, who will be three in March, is language delayed and

> displays very rigid tendencies. I have not personally seen him in a

> year and a half since I am in Michigan and my parents have not been

> well enough for me to leave the state. My son-in-law, seems to think

> he'll just grow out of it and my stepdaughter is reluctant to get any

> testing done without her husband's support. I know that whatever

> special needs he may have be it autism or something else time is

> crucial. I know ASD runs in the family, of my ex-husbands 6 children

> there are three on the spectrum including my daughter. Does anyone

> have any advice?

>

> The Future Mrs. Garner

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

He is not in preschool per se. Someone comes and babysits him while his parents

are at work. I asked what the pediatrician but there was no help there. This

is the same pediatrician who never took alarm when my stepson, now diagnosed

PDD-NOS and bipolar, didn't speak until age 3. Her other brother lives in NY

and his wife is pregnant with child number two and they are struggling

financially. The other sibs are half sibs from their father's 3rd marriage and

they are only ten. Her mom is trying to be supportive and is as worried as I am

about our grandson. She lives in the area and is more than willing to take him

for testing, it's getting the permission that is the problem.

taijij at work wrote: ls he i preschool? Maybe you

could write them a letter and suggest he

be tested?? Or what about his pediatrician????? It is very important

he gets the help he needs. I know you mentioned you can't go there

but what about one of her siblings???

>

>

>

>

>

>

> He is recieving nothing because they haven't had him evaluated. I am trying

> to communicate to my stepdaughter the importance of early intervention but

> she is so overwhelmed with her situation, she and her husband are on shaky

> terms and she is afraid to rock the boat. I am very concerned about my

> grandson.

>

> kelly dawson wrote: Has she had him evaluated

> about the speech delay at all? Alot of times it helps to hear from a

> therapist or a pro that you should have your child tested, if you are in

> denial about something. I was fine having my child tested. I think it is

> negligent for them to let his speech continue to be delayed because he could

> get the help to at least be able to communicate. If he has ASD the earlier

> he is diagnosed and begins therapies the better chance he has at leading a

> normal life. It really is hard though, because so many parents think, " not my

> child " , so it is also about parents putting that pride aside and doing what

> is best for the child. He may just be speech delayed. I know that if you

> cannot communicate what you are feeling you become frustrated, so maybe that

> is all that is wrong, but he still needs early intervention. Is he recieving

> any Early Intervention services at all?

>

> Carol wrote: Hello everyone. Is anyone here from

> Virginia? My stepdaughter's

> youngest son, who will be three in March, is language delayed and

> displays very rigid tendencies. I have not personally seen him in a

> year and a half since I am in Michigan and my parents have not been

> well enough for me to leave the state. My son-in-law, seems to think

> he'll just grow out of it and my stepdaughter is reluctant to get any

> testing done without her husband's support. I know that whatever

> special needs he may have be it autism or something else time is

> crucial. I know ASD runs in the family, of my ex-husbands 6 children

> there are three on the spectrum including my daughter. Does anyone

> have any advice?

>

> The Future Mrs. Garner

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

I think some one needs to light a fire under her butt. Sorry, to be

so frank but there is a window and it's small. Maybe you can email

her some info on dr's in the area that test or give her the school

district name and contact number for the spec ed depart. If money is

part of the issue most school districts pay for the eval and then pay

for the child to go to a special preschool. maybe that could be the

motivator???

>

>

>

>

>

>

> He is not in preschool per se. Someone comes and babysits him while his

> parents are at work. I asked what the pediatrician but there was no help

> there. This is the same pediatrician who never took alarm when my stepson,

> now diagnosed PDD-NOS and bipolar, didn't speak until age 3. Her other

> brother lives in NY and his wife is pregnant with child number two and they

> are struggling financially. The other sibs are half sibs from their father's

> 3rd marriage and they are only ten. Her mom is trying to be supportive and

> is as worried as I am about our grandson. She lives in the area and is more

> than willing to take him for testing, it's getting the permission that is

> the problem.

>

> taijij at work wrote: ls he i preschool? Maybe you

> could write them a letter and suggest he

> be tested?? Or what about his pediatrician????? It is very important

> he gets the help he needs. I know you mentioned you can't go there

> but what about one of her siblings???

>

>

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > He is recieving nothing because they haven't had him evaluated. I am

> trying

> > to communicate to my stepdaughter the importance of early intervention

> but

> > she is so overwhelmed with her situation, she and her husband are on

> shaky

> > terms and she is afraid to rock the boat. I am very concerned about my

> > grandson.

> >

> > kelly dawson wrote: Has she had him evaluated

> > about the speech delay at all? Alot of times it helps to hear from a

> > therapist or a pro that you should have your child tested, if you are in

> > denial about something. I was fine having my child tested. I think it is

> > negligent for them to let his speech continue to be delayed because he

> could

> > get the help to at least be able to communicate. If he has ASD the

> earlier

> > he is diagnosed and begins therapies the better chance he has at leading

> a

> > normal life. It really is hard though, because so many parents think, " not

> my

> > child " , so it is also about parents putting that pride aside and doing

> what

> > is best for the child. He may just be speech delayed. I know that if you

> > cannot communicate what you are feeling you become frustrated, so maybe

> that

> > is all that is wrong, but he still needs early intervention. Is he

> recieving

> > any Early Intervention services at all?

> >

> > Carol wrote: Hello everyone. Is anyone here from

> > Virginia? My stepdaughter's

> > youngest son, who will be three in March, is language delayed and

> > displays very rigid tendencies. I have not personally seen him in a

> > year and a half since I am in Michigan and my parents have not been

> > well enough for me to leave the state. My son-in-law, seems to think

> > he'll just grow out of it and my stepdaughter is reluctant to get any

> > testing done without her husband's support. I know that whatever

> > special needs he may have be it autism or something else time is

> > crucial. I know ASD runs in the family, of my ex-husbands 6 children

> > there are three on the spectrum including my daughter. Does anyone

> > have any advice?

> >

> > The Future Mrs. Garner

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

I think some one needs to light a fire under her butt. Sorry, to be

so frank but there is a window and it's small. Maybe you can email

her some info on dr's in the area that test or give her the school

district name and contact number for the spec ed depart. If money is

part of the issue most school districts pay for the eval and then pay

for the child to go to a special preschool. maybe that could be the

motivator???

>

>

>

>

>

>

> He is not in preschool per se. Someone comes and babysits him while his

> parents are at work. I asked what the pediatrician but there was no help

> there. This is the same pediatrician who never took alarm when my stepson,

> now diagnosed PDD-NOS and bipolar, didn't speak until age 3. Her other

> brother lives in NY and his wife is pregnant with child number two and they

> are struggling financially. The other sibs are half sibs from their father's

> 3rd marriage and they are only ten. Her mom is trying to be supportive and

> is as worried as I am about our grandson. She lives in the area and is more

> than willing to take him for testing, it's getting the permission that is

> the problem.

>

> taijij at work wrote: ls he i preschool? Maybe you

> could write them a letter and suggest he

> be tested?? Or what about his pediatrician????? It is very important

> he gets the help he needs. I know you mentioned you can't go there

> but what about one of her siblings???

>

>

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > He is recieving nothing because they haven't had him evaluated. I am

> trying

> > to communicate to my stepdaughter the importance of early intervention

> but

> > she is so overwhelmed with her situation, she and her husband are on

> shaky

> > terms and she is afraid to rock the boat. I am very concerned about my

> > grandson.

> >

> > kelly dawson wrote: Has she had him evaluated

> > about the speech delay at all? Alot of times it helps to hear from a

> > therapist or a pro that you should have your child tested, if you are in

> > denial about something. I was fine having my child tested. I think it is

> > negligent for them to let his speech continue to be delayed because he

> could

> > get the help to at least be able to communicate. If he has ASD the

> earlier

> > he is diagnosed and begins therapies the better chance he has at leading

> a

> > normal life. It really is hard though, because so many parents think, " not

> my

> > child " , so it is also about parents putting that pride aside and doing

> what

> > is best for the child. He may just be speech delayed. I know that if you

> > cannot communicate what you are feeling you become frustrated, so maybe

> that

> > is all that is wrong, but he still needs early intervention. Is he

> recieving

> > any Early Intervention services at all?

> >

> > Carol wrote: Hello everyone. Is anyone here from

> > Virginia? My stepdaughter's

> > youngest son, who will be three in March, is language delayed and

> > displays very rigid tendencies. I have not personally seen him in a

> > year and a half since I am in Michigan and my parents have not been

> > well enough for me to leave the state. My son-in-law, seems to think

> > he'll just grow out of it and my stepdaughter is reluctant to get any

> > testing done without her husband's support. I know that whatever

> > special needs he may have be it autism or something else time is

> > crucial. I know ASD runs in the family, of my ex-husbands 6 children

> > there are three on the spectrum including my daughter. Does anyone

> > have any advice?

> >

> > The Future Mrs. Garner

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

Carol, the sad fact is, learing he has autism won't change the issues

in their marriage and denying it won't help it either. I'm sure it

must be scary fearing one's son has autism and fearing a divorce at

the same time. But, what's gonna happen with their marriage is gonna

happen -- it'll either get better, worse, or stay the same. However,

getting her son help could make a huge difference in his future. I'm

sure you already know what I just said, she probably does too deep

down. Maybe if someone in the family could lay it out for her she

might be able to get past her fear enough to help her son.

I would be willing to bet a lot of their marriage problems is rooted

in the fear of their worry for their son. I personally don't

understand the ignoring it part, but a lot, a lot of people do it.

Debi

>

> He is recieving nothing because they haven't had him evaluated. I

am trying to communicate to my stepdaughter the importance of early

intervention but she is so overwhelmed with her situation, she and her

husband are on shaky terms and she is afraid to rock the boat. I am

very concerned about my grandson.

[Guest guest]

Carol, the sad fact is, learing he has autism won't change the issues

in their marriage and denying it won't help it either. I'm sure it

must be scary fearing one's son has autism and fearing a divorce at

the same time. But, what's gonna happen with their marriage is gonna

happen -- it'll either get better, worse, or stay the same. However,

getting her son help could make a huge difference in his future. I'm

sure you already know what I just said, she probably does too deep

down. Maybe if someone in the family could lay it out for her she

might be able to get past her fear enough to help her son.

I would be willing to bet a lot of their marriage problems is rooted

in the fear of their worry for their son. I personally don't

understand the ignoring it part, but a lot, a lot of people do it.

Debi

>

> He is recieving nothing because they haven't had him evaluated. I

am trying to communicate to my stepdaughter the importance of early

intervention but she is so overwhelmed with her situation, she and her

husband are on shaky terms and she is afraid to rock the boat. I am

very concerned about my grandson.

[Guest guest]

It is a scary and hard thing often for parents to admit their child has

a problem. Since he's going to be 3, maybe you can encourage them by

lettting them know that starting at age 3 every state has to have a

program for kids with delays in language or other developmental

delays. The program must be both free and appropriate and any child is

entitled to a free assessment from the school to see if they are

eligible.

My school system's program (I live in Ohio) was a 4 day a week

preschool. It was free and they even bussed my daughter back and

forth. Especially for families who also have the worry in the back of

their mind, what if something is wrong, how will I pay, sometimes

knowing this option is available helps turn a difficult to accept

possibility into one in which they see that maybe there is something

that can be done that will be more help than a burden to what may

already be a tough situation they are dealing with.

Just a thought, and I wish you luck.

pat

>

> Hello everyone. Is anyone here from Virginia? My stepdaughter's

> youngest son, who will be three in March, is language delayed and

> displays very rigid tendencies. I have not personally seen him in a

> year and a half since I am in Michigan and my parents have not been

> well enough for me to leave the state. My son-in-law, seems to think

> he'll just grow out of it and my stepdaughter is reluctant to get any

> testing done without her husband's support. I know that whatever

> special needs he may have be it autism or something else time is

> crucial. I know ASD runs in the family, of my ex-husbands 6 children

> there are three on the spectrum including my daughter. Does anyone

> have any advice?

>

[Guest guest]

It is a scary and hard thing often for parents to admit their child has

a problem. Since he's going to be 3, maybe you can encourage them by

lettting them know that starting at age 3 every state has to have a

program for kids with delays in language or other developmental

delays. The program must be both free and appropriate and any child is

entitled to a free assessment from the school to see if they are

eligible.

My school system's program (I live in Ohio) was a 4 day a week

preschool. It was free and they even bussed my daughter back and

forth. Especially for families who also have the worry in the back of

their mind, what if something is wrong, how will I pay, sometimes

knowing this option is available helps turn a difficult to accept

possibility into one in which they see that maybe there is something

that can be done that will be more help than a burden to what may

already be a tough situation they are dealing with.

Just a thought, and I wish you luck.

pat

>

> Hello everyone. Is anyone here from Virginia? My stepdaughter's

> youngest son, who will be three in March, is language delayed and

> displays very rigid tendencies. I have not personally seen him in a

> year and a half since I am in Michigan and my parents have not been

> well enough for me to leave the state. My son-in-law, seems to think

> he'll just grow out of it and my stepdaughter is reluctant to get any

> testing done without her husband's support. I know that whatever

> special needs he may have be it autism or something else time is

> crucial. I know ASD runs in the family, of my ex-husbands 6 children

> there are three on the spectrum including my daughter. Does anyone

> have any advice?

>