Re: when obsessions come true

[Guest guest]

Sorry to hear about your accident and sudden hospital stay!

Is your hospital stay a result of the accident? It would obviously be

better if you knew more about why you were in the hospital. Definitely talk

to your daughter about the accident. Ask her about it.... ask her what was

the worst/scariest part for her.... remind her that even though there was

an accident, everyone walked away & all was OK (assuming it was). This can

help her face that fear and see that really it's no big deal.

Not knowing what your medical issue is (as I said... accident related?)

it's hard to say how to approach that with your daughter. Your attitude and

how you handle this will in front of her will be important. Reassure her

that you are not worried because you know the doctors are going to take care

of whatever the problem is, etc. This is major ERP for you girl. See

what the other responses are from the message board....

LT

In a message dated 8/15/2010 11:17:21 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

samigab@... writes:

My 8 year old, with OCD is obsessed with us getting in a car accident. She

wont eat before we get in the car, because she is afraid of an accidnet.

Well, friday, we were rear ended on the freeway. She seems to be OK, i

guess, but i dont know what she might be thinking.

Also, i have mentioned before, she has a huge fear of something happeneing

to me. Well, i was admitted to the hosptial last night, and i will be here

a day or 2 more. They dont know what is wrong with me. Hubby is going to

bring the kids by tomorrow so they can see i am ok, but i am really worried.

So since a couple of her obsessions have actually happened, is this going

to make her other obsessions worse? How can i help her?

I wish i could wrtie more, but ia m half sleeping from pain meds. Please

excuse typos.

Thanks

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[Guest guest]

I'm sorry you got hurt and I hope you'll be better soon. Perhaps your daughter

can get in to see a therapist ASAP to help her work through her anxiety over the

incident. Anxious people often think in catastrophic terms which would mean

death to someone who was afraid of an accident. You might be able to use this

to your advantage. Point out that the worst thing that can happen in an

accident is that someone would be killed and that didn't happen in your case

(fortunately). Let her know that you'll be home as soon as you find out that

you don't need anything more from the doctor.

Best wishes

BOnnie

>

> My 8 year old, with OCD is obsessed with us getting in a car accident. She

wont eat before we get in the car, because she is afraid of an accidnet. Well,

friday, we were rear ended on the freeway. She seems to be OK, i guess, but i

dont know what she might be thinking.

>

> Also, i have mentioned before, she has a huge fear of something happeneing to

me. Well, i was admitted to the hosptial last night, and i will be here a day or

2 more. They dont know what is wrong with me. Hubby is going to bring the kids

by tomorrow so they can see i am ok, but i am really worried.

>

> So since a couple of her obsessions have actually happened, is this going to

make her other obsessions worse? How can i help her?

>

> I wish i could wrtie more, but ia m half sleeping from pain meds. Please

excuse typos.

>

> Thanks

>

>

[Guest guest]

Wow, . I'm sorry this has happened! Yikes! My son's fear is that I

will die because he watched me go through cancer. The reality is, I probably

will die while he's still young. It's heartbreaking to see what the illness has

done to him. What's going to happen when it comes back? I'm going to have this

royally screwed up kid/adult! I wish I had some intelligent answers for you,

but I don't. I understand what you're saying, and I hope things don't worsen

for her.

Steffanie

To:

From: samigab@...

Date: Mon, 16 Aug 2010 03:16:18 +0000

Subject: when obsessions come true

My 8 year old, with OCD is obsessed with us getting in a car accident. She wont

eat before we get in the car, because she is afraid of an accidnet. Well,

friday, we were rear ended on the freeway. She seems to be OK, i guess, but i

dont know what she might be thinking.

Also, i have mentioned before, she has a huge fear of something happeneing to

me. Well, i was admitted to the hosptial last night, and i will be here a day or

2 more. They dont know what is wrong with me. Hubby is going to bring the kids

by tomorrow so they can see i am ok, but i am really worried.

So since a couple of her obsessions have actually happened, is this going to

make her other obsessions worse? How can i help her?

I wish i could wrtie more, but ia m half sleeping from pain meds. Please excuse

typos.

Thanks

[Guest guest]

You know, I can see OCD in me as a child, too. I'm not prisoner to it, so I

suppose I've worked through my stuff on my own. I remember being in H.S. and

being afraid of vomiting. I still am! I remember praying the same thing every

night, " Please don't let me throw up until I'm 18. " I still fight off vomiting

to this day. I had horrible morning sickness but didn't vomit once. When I get

anxious, I always have to know where a trash can is and where the restroom is in

case I have to throw up. After surgery, I got very sick and had to go to the ER

becuase I couldn't stop vomiting. My worse nightmare come true!! But I was

okay. It was awful because let's face it, no one likes vomiting!! But I'm

still afraid. Your comment about anxious people thinking in catastrophic terms

makes so much sense. I can remember the records I would play over and over

again in my head. Interesting.

Steffanie

To:

From: bhamelburg@...

Date: Mon, 16 Aug 2010 14:35:27 +0000

Subject: Re: when obsessions come true

I'm sorry you got hurt and I hope you'll be better soon. Perhaps your daughter

can get in to see a therapist ASAP to help her work through her anxiety over the

incident. Anxious people often think in catastrophic terms which would mean

death to someone who was afraid of an accident. You might be able to use this to

your advantage. Point out that the worst thing that can happen in an accident is

that someone would be killed and that didn't happen in your case (fortunately).

Let her know that you'll be home as soon as you find out that you don't need

anything more from the doctor.

Best wishes

BOnnie

[Guest guest]

Oh , so sorry you're in the hospital!! Glad it looks like you'll be home

in a day or two. Is it because of the accident you're there? (just yes/no,

don't have to say anything too personal)

Just from what I've read over the years, many times our children actually do

well with the " real life " events that OCD is bothering. It's that OCD

fear/obsession that it WILL happen that has them OCDing. Then *it* happens and

they handle it amazing well, more with typical responses/concerns. Hope that is

the case for you!!

Humor may help? Depends, some kids hate humor about OCD. But I'd probably try a

" well, you can quit worrying about it, finally happened! I'm fine. "

>

> My 8 year old, with OCD is obsessed with us getting in a car accident. She

wont eat before we get in the car, because she is afraid of an accidnet. Well,

friday, we were rear ended on the freeway. She seems to be OK, i guess, but i

dont know what she might be thinking.

>

[Guest guest]

Hi - hope you are feeling better! We found that " real life " could impact OCD,

but often those had little to do with the level of obsession. Hope you can

present it to her positively, and that she is doing ok. Let us know how you are

doing. in NC

>

> My 8 year old, with OCD is obsessed with us getting in a car accident. She

wont eat before we get in the car, because she is afraid of an accidnet. Well,

friday, we were rear ended on the freeway. She seems to be OK, i guess, but i

dont know what she might be thinking.

>

> Also, i have mentioned before, she has a huge fear of something happeneing to

me. Well, i was admitted to the hosptial last night, and i will be here a day or

2 more. They dont know what is wrong with me. Hubby is going to bring the kids

by tomorrow so they can see i am ok, but i am really worried.

>

> So since a couple of her obsessions have actually happened, is this going to

make her other obsessions worse? How can i help her?

>

> I wish i could wrtie more, but ia m half sleeping from pain meds. Please

excuse typos.

>

> Thanks

>

>

[Guest guest]

So true because Matt had the vomiting fear and when he actually had a bug and

was sick, he told me how weird it was that he wasn't afraid anymore. OCD fears

are not rational.

Bonnie

> >

> > My 8 year old, with OCD is obsessed with us getting in a car accident. She

wont eat before we get in the car, because she is afraid of an accidnet. Well,

friday, we were rear ended on the freeway. She seems to be OK, i guess, but i

dont know what she might be thinking.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I know i am crazy late on posting this, but i wound up being in the hospital for

6 days. i had surgery, was released, then after being home for 2 days, was back

in the hosptial for 1 more day, due to surgery complications.

Yes, i was in the hospital, because of the accident. We didnt know that at

first, but during surgery, they found some internal damage.

She really is struggling. I keep trying to get her in to be seen, but i cant get

an appt. I am getting really frustrated. I think i will call today, and just ask

if i can speak with her doc.

> >

> > My 8 year old, with OCD is obsessed with us getting in a car accident. She

wont eat before we get in the car, because she is afraid of an accidnet. Well,

friday, we were rear ended on the freeway. She seems to be OK, i guess, but i

dont know what she might be thinking.

> >

>