+Re:Hoarding....Shocked...

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As to not overwhelm the group, i thought i would post one big THANK YOU!.

today, after we found out we finally got approved for a house, ( not easy after

having a bankruptcy earlier this year) Gabby got excited. I told her we need to

start packing her room, and she asked me for a box. We went to the garage, and

she picked out her box. It was a BIG one, and i told her she can fill it with

the stuff under her bed, but, it would be best if she only takes one box from

under her bed. She went to her room, shut and locked her door, and she bagged up

2 trash bags of trash. She isnt ready to throw them away, but she knows it is

trash, and at least it is in bag. She put her boxes of stuff, inside the other

box. brought out the dishes she had under her bed, and put them in the

dishwasher, and put the clothes in the laundry.

It is far from perfect, but it is a start.

She seems excited by the move, because she will have her own room. We decided

her own room is a need, because she needs to have control over something.

I know it will be OK. I know after she starts meds, we will have a different

life with her.

i am working on her eating. I am most worried about that. I talked to her

general ped about it last week, and she blew it off. I guess she doesnt

understand how it truly is. I tried to elaborate, to tell her she is NOT a picky

eater, she is refusing to eat anything. And i am trying not to cater to her. I

dont want to just offer her what she wants to eat, because i dont know if she is

manipulating me to some degree, or what is going on. All i know is a couple

months ago, she ate very well, and now she is afraid of a lot of foods, because

she thinks they will make her sick.

I am still reading " talking back to OCD " like her psychologist recomended. i

just dont feel like i have read enough to start CBT/ERP on my own, without the

direction of her therapist.

Anyway, thank you all so much for all the emails. I appreciate your insight.

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> Hi,

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> Wow, sounds like you've been through so much lately. As others said, now may

not be possible for her to get rid of things. My daughter was a huge hoarder.

We would try to get rid of things and she could let go of just a small amount of

things. And lots of it was clearly trash. But as she has gotten better with

counseling and medication, she has been able to let things go--piles and piles

of things. Am throwing out hope that she will get better. And as you are able

to let her decide what she is ready and able to get rid of. I know with moving,

you may not be able to do that. The idea of giving things to specific people

also helped my daughter too.

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> Blessings,

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> Kelli

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