+Re:Hoarding....Shocked...

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Yay!!! That's so great about her putting all that stuff in the trash bags

! It is a very good sign that she was able to do this seemingly easily

enough.

I would be concerned about the eating too, and frankly I would cater to it for

now until you get into therapy and have assistance to work on this. It may be

that this is a ten on her scale of OCD stuff. It is not about manipulation, as

you say she is afraid and it is very real for them. I have known kids with OCD

who were hospitalized because they would not eat at all, so personally this is

one area I would do what you need to. Ours was not severe, but we did deal with

this too.

With food, they have to eat to survive. But you can't make someone eat, in the

same way you can work on reducing a compulsion. See if you can find out what

she needs to feel " safe " with food,while you can't reason with it, you might be

able to work with it better, find compromises.

Congratulations on the house too, I'm sure this is a very big relief!

Warmly,

Barb

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> As to not overwhelm the group, i thought i would post one big THANK YOU!.

> today, after we found out we finally got approved for a house, ( not easy

after having a bankruptcy earlier this year) Gabby got excited. I told her we

need to start packing her room, and she asked me for a box. We went to the

garage, and she picked out her box. It was a BIG one, and i told her she can

fill it with the stuff under her bed, but, it would be best if she only takes

one box from under her bed. She went to her room, shut and locked her door, and

she bagged up 2 trash bags of trash. She isnt ready to throw them away, but she

knows it is trash, and at least it is in bag. She put her boxes of stuff, inside

the other box. brought out the dishes she had under her bed, and put them in the

dishwasher, and put the clothes in the laundry.

> It is far from perfect, but it is a start.

> She seems excited by the move, because she will have her own room. We decided

her own room is a need, because she needs to have control over something.

> I know it will be OK. I know after she starts meds, we will have a different

life with her.

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> i am working on her eating. I am most worried about that. I talked to her

general ped about it last week, and she blew it off. I guess she doesnt

understand how it truly is. I tried to elaborate, to tell her she is NOT a picky

eater, she is refusing to eat anything. And i am trying not to cater to her. I

dont want to just offer her what she wants to eat, because i dont know if she is

manipulating me to some degree, or what is going on. All i know is a couple

months ago, she ate very well, and now she is afraid of a lot of foods, because

she thinks they will make her sick.

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> I am still reading " talking back to OCD " like her psychologist recomended. i

just dont feel like i have read enough to start CBT/ERP on my own, without the

direction of her therapist.

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> Anyway, thank you all so much for all the emails. I appreciate your insight.

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