Guest guest Posted March 31, 2010 Report Share Posted March 31, 2010 Hi, Angi. This is great news! They seem small because they are. . But, that is how you reach improvement, with baby steps in the right direction. ) Josh's OCD would morph like that too. We would just keep track of it and add it to the list. Eventually, he would lose more OCs than he was gaining. But, with OCD, new things will crop up at times. Learning how to use CBT/ERP will help them to figure out it is OCD when it happens, then hopefully address it immediately before it has a chance to grow. Onward! BJ > > After three increasingly " bad " days in a row (culminating in Monday night's meltdown I talked about here), dd had some positives yesterday. > > She went with me to my appointment, where she did her schoolwork in the locked (safe) outer office of my therapist, then we went to lunch, where she was able to eat about half of her rather large chicken/steamed veggies teriyaki bowl: Victory! Of course, she said she'd finish it later, but at dinner time, couldn't bring herself to eat the chicken. But she did compromise with my husband by eating some ground beef with her nachos instead: Victory. > > Back to the afternoon: After lunch we went to her appointment, which she had been DREADING. > > Once again, though, she came out saying it wasn't as bad as she had been fearing: Victory! (I'm going to get her a little bowl and a set of clear glass pebbles from the Dollar tree, and every time she has a session with the OCD gal, she draws a happy face, neutral face, or sad/angry face on the pebble, then drops it in the bowl. Over time she'll be able to see that things are getting better, and aren't as bad as she always fears). > > They began categorizing her 48 O/Cs (and we're still adding), then chose two of the least threatening for her homework this week. She can only turn her earrings once after she cleans her ears twice a day (recently got them pierced), and she can only brush her American Girls doll's hair until it's styled, not until her OCD tells her it's enough. > > So far, she's made it successfully through each exposure/prevention: Victory! The other side of the coin is that other OCD behaviors have taken the place of the earring turning – now she has to quickly stick her fingers in her ears or quickly touch her earrings without turning them. And the anxiety surrounding other OCD behaviors has increased when she's not distracted. > > We also have been able to get her in to see her OCD therapist every Tuesday and Saturday - almost weekly: Huge Thanks! When the gal saw all I had added to Maia's list, gone over it with her, and possibly added more (I wasn't too sure if they'd added more or she was just " impressed " with everything I'd added), she opened up a Saturday early evening appointment for her. > > I'm trying to hang in there, but I have to admit that we melted down together today for a little while. This is the hardest thing I've ever been through in my life, including my ongoing DID/PTSD counseling. But we're both calmer now, as she plays legos with her little brother and I sat and held kittens in my lap for awhile. Another Victory. > > Why do they seem so small in light of what we're facing? > > Thank you all for listening! > > -Angi > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2010 Report Share Posted April 1, 2010 Hi Angie, That is great news!! I'm so happy for you!! Embrace every victory you can!!!!!!!! It sounds like she is on the road to recovery. Hugs judy ________________________________ To: Sent: Wed, March 31, 2010 5:50:43 PM Subject: Small victories  After three increasingly " bad " days in a row (culminating in Monday night's meltdown I talked about here), dd had some positives yesterday. She went with me to my appointment, where she did her schoolwork in the locked (safe) outer office of my therapist, then we went to lunch, where she was able to eat about half of her rather large chicken/steamed veggies teriyaki bowl: Victory! Of course, she said she'd finish it later, but at dinner time, couldn't bring herself to eat the chicken. But she did compromise with my husband by eating some ground beef with her nachos instead: Victory. Back to the afternoon: After lunch we went to her appointment, which she had been DREADING. Once again, though, she came out saying it wasn't as bad as she had been fearing: Victory! (I'm going to get her a little bowl and a set of clear glass pebbles from the Dollar tree, and every time she has a session with the OCD gal, she draws a happy face, neutral face, or sad/angry face on the pebble, then drops it in the bowl. Over time she'll be able to see that things are getting better, and aren't as bad as she always fears). They began categorizing her 48 O/Cs (and we're still adding), then chose two of the least threatening for her homework this week. She can only turn her earrings once after she cleans her ears twice a day (recently got them pierced), and she can only brush her American Girls doll's hair until it's styled, not until her OCD tells her it's enough. So far, she's made it successfully through each exposure/prevention : Victory! The other side of the coin is that other OCD behaviors have taken the place of the earring turning – now she has to quickly stick her fingers in her ears or quickly touch her earrings without turning them. And the anxiety surrounding other OCD behaviors has increased when she's not distracted. We also have been able to get her in to see her OCD therapist every Tuesday and Saturday - almost weekly: Huge Thanks! When the gal saw all I had added to Maia's list, gone over it with her, and possibly added more (I wasn't too sure if they'd added more or she was just " impressed " with everything I'd added), she opened up a Saturday early evening appointment for her. I'm trying to hang in there, but I have to admit that we melted down together today for a little while. This is the hardest thing I've ever been through in my life, including my ongoing DID/PTSD counseling. But we're both calmer now, as she plays legos with her little brother and I sat and held kittens in my lap for awhile. Another Victory. Why do they seem so small in light of what we're facing? Thank you all for listening! -Angi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 8, 2012 Report Share Posted March 8, 2012 I'm feeling similar about food. I've eaten a few things that were " off my plan " but I haven't gone overboard at all. It feels good. Congrats to you! ________________________________ To: insideoutweightloss Sent: Wednesday, March 7, 2012 6:31 PM Subject: small victories  Hi All, Just thought I would share an fun little victory. I had to run an errand to Costco in the early afternoon and I didn't take time to eat my lunch before going, so I was a little worried that I would succumb the the siren song of Costco pizza or some other fast food. But I knew had a delicious lunch I had made for myself back a work, so I didn't get the pizza. I listened to what my body really wanted and went with that. The lunch here was a great as I thought it would be and even better was the feeling that I could say no to the thing that was only going to offer a short-time, greasy high. It's fun to see some progress in my evolving relationship with food. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 9, 2012 Report Share Posted March 9, 2012 Good for you! Who would've thought weight loss could be fun?! b. > Hi All, > Just thought I would share an fun little victory. I had to run an errand to Costco in the early afternoon and I didn't take time to eat my lunch before going, so I was a little worried that I would succumb the the siren song of Costco pizza or some other fast food. But I knew had a delicious lunch I had made for myself back a work, so I didn't get the pizza. I listened to what my body really wanted and went with that. The lunch here was a great as I thought it would be and even better was the feeling that I could say no to the thing that was only going to offer a short-time, greasy high. It's fun to see some progress in my evolving relationship with food. > > > > > TODAY(Beta) • Powered by Yahoo! > The surprising 'human age' of your pet > Forget the long-held belief that you should multiply your dog or cat's years by seven. > Privacy Policy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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