Re: question about development of girls

[Guest guest]

Is it happening in 100% cotton? Even poly blends burn my skin and one

of my daughter's too.

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> My oldest daughter, NT, is developing in her chest. The last few weeks

> she complains a lot of her nipples getting raw from clothing rubbing

> her. Could this be thrush? Just wondering if it's typical or if I

> should put some antifungal med on her.

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> TIA,

> Debi

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[Guest guest]

It's funny you ask, she blames it on cotton, but every thing we own

has a poly blend, even if small. I keep telling her cotton is the best

for her body. Do you know where 100% cotton bras can be got?

Debi

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> Is it happening in 100% cotton? Even poly blends burn my skin and one

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[Guest guest]

It's funny you ask, she blames it on cotton, but every thing we own

has a poly blend, even if small. I keep telling her cotton is the best

for her body. Do you know where 100% cotton bras can be got?

Debi

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[Guest guest]

This is exactly why I joined this group. My daughter doesn't have much

functional speech and she is also starting puberty. With your daughter being

more verbal, I appreciate your emails because it gives me a glimpse into what my

daughter is feeling.

About six months ago she was also complaining of her breasts hurting but the way

she did it was to touch her own breast and then the squeeze the breasts of her

aid. She also did some odd things such as hum the door frame and sexually

rubbing on the carpet. Unfortunately, the school took this behavior to indicate

sexual abuse and called Child Protection Services.

I encouraged the case manager to speak with a psychologist to confirm that this

is normal behavior. As well we had plenty of documentation that she has always

been inappropriate with touching and her own body. So, the investigation didn't

last long but it did open an opportunity for the state to pay for a behavior

specialist to help the school handle difficult behaviors.

Since she is also transitioning to middle school the addition of this specialist

to aid the school is ideal. She is helping with move and acclimation of my

daughter to the new school.

(the new school offered us ESY (summer school) so my daughter can get used to

her new teacher and new school while the middle school is empty and less

stimulating).

CHRISTY WILLIAMS

[Guest guest]

This is exactly why I joined this group. My daughter doesn't have much

functional speech and she is also starting puberty. With your daughter being

more verbal, I appreciate your emails because it gives me a glimpse into what my

daughter is feeling.

About six months ago she was also complaining of her breasts hurting but the way

she did it was to touch her own breast and then the squeeze the breasts of her

aid. She also did some odd things such as hum the door frame and sexually

rubbing on the carpet. Unfortunately, the school took this behavior to indicate

sexual abuse and called Child Protection Services.

I encouraged the case manager to speak with a psychologist to confirm that this

is normal behavior. As well we had plenty of documentation that she has always

been inappropriate with touching and her own body. So, the investigation didn't

last long but it did open an opportunity for the state to pay for a behavior

specialist to help the school handle difficult behaviors.

Since she is also transitioning to middle school the addition of this specialist

to aid the school is ideal. She is helping with move and acclimation of my

daughter to the new school.

(the new school offered us ESY (summer school) so my daughter can get used to

her new teacher and new school while the middle school is empty and less

stimulating).

CHRISTY WILLIAMS

[Guest guest]

This could not have come at the most proper time for us. I only write

occasionally, but I do read everyday. Usually, I just lurk, but my daughter,

age 10, must have gained I am going to guess 10-15 pounds over the course

of this past school year. She is just started to " bud " as well, everytime she

showers I try to get a look under her arms, waiting for the hair to begin. She

does have a " few " pubic hairs at this point. I have bought the book, " The Caring

and Keeping of You " for girls from the American Girl series, someone had

suggested it, I can't remember who. She and I have read just some parts of it, I

do let her look at the pictures, she giggles at some, and gets very quiet at

others. I do believe she does undesrtand that her body is going to change, but

she also keeps telling me, that she doesn't want to grow up either. I think she

is wise beyond her years for that comment. So, I just thought that I would chime

in here with my 2 cents.....Jodi and from NJ

[Guest guest]

This could not have come at the most proper time for us. I only write

occasionally, but I do read everyday. Usually, I just lurk, but my daughter,

age 10, must have gained I am going to guess 10-15 pounds over the course

of this past school year. She is just started to " bud " as well, everytime she

showers I try to get a look under her arms, waiting for the hair to begin. She

does have a " few " pubic hairs at this point. I have bought the book, " The Caring

and Keeping of You " for girls from the American Girl series, someone had

suggested it, I can't remember who. She and I have read just some parts of it, I

do let her look at the pictures, she giggles at some, and gets very quiet at

others. I do believe she does undesrtand that her body is going to change, but

she also keeps telling me, that she doesn't want to grow up either. I think she

is wise beyond her years for that comment. So, I just thought that I would chime

in here with my 2 cents.....Jodi and from NJ

[Guest guest]

Jockey has one that is mostly cotton (maybe 5 percent spandex) where the

elastic band is covered in fabric, so the latex or elastic does not

directly touch the skin.

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> > Is it happening in 100% cotton? Even poly blends burn my skin and

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[Guest guest]

Jockey has one that is mostly cotton (maybe 5 percent spandex) where the

elastic band is covered in fabric, so the latex or elastic does not

directly touch the skin.

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> > Is it happening in 100% cotton? Even poly blends burn my skin and

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[Guest guest]

Christy, this is unfortunately what happens way too many times with

our girls. For some reason, it's considered okay if a little boy rubs

his private area, but if a girl does it it's automatically sexual

abuse. As many of us have found out from this board, it's extremely

common in little girls, even toddlers, with ASD. Of course, it can be

from abuse, so it can be scary to witness it, but I really wish

educators would educate them in what " normal " behavior in autism

really is.

Debi

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[Guest guest]

Christy, this is unfortunately what happens way too many times with

our girls. For some reason, it's considered okay if a little boy rubs

his private area, but if a girl does it it's automatically sexual

abuse. As many of us have found out from this board, it's extremely

common in little girls, even toddlers, with ASD. Of course, it can be

from abuse, so it can be scary to witness it, but I really wish

educators would educate them in what " normal " behavior in autism

really is.

Debi

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[Guest guest]

In a message dated 6/1/07 12:26:24 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

fightingautism@... writes:

But I usually

find out she's not had on her bra, which I think is part of the

problem. Little girls don't understand the importance of reigning them

in now!!!

Debi

there are many women who dont like to wear them to my understanding. lol on

the reigning them in.

eric gutter boy

************************************** See what's free at http://www.aol.com.

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 6/1/07 12:26:24 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

fightingautism@... writes:

But I usually

find out she's not had on her bra, which I think is part of the

problem. Little girls don't understand the importance of reigning them

in now!!!

Debi

there are many women who dont like to wear them to my understanding. lol on

the reigning them in.

eric gutter boy

************************************** See what's free at http://www.aol.com.

[Guest guest]

What does " reigning " them mean? I to try to follow this but could not

understand it. Reigning to me means to rule as a queen or king so cant

understand how this relates to bras. Sondra

girls don't understand the importance of reigning them

And....

there are many women who dont like to wear them to my understanding.

lol on

> the reigning them in.

[Guest guest]

What does " reigning " them mean? I to try to follow this but could not

understand it. Reigning to me means to rule as a queen or king so cant

understand how this relates to bras. Sondra

girls don't understand the importance of reigning them

And....

there are many women who dont like to wear them to my understanding.

lol on

> the reigning them in.

[Guest guest]

reigning them also refers to horses or such when you control them using reigns.

so there is a figure of speech " reigning them in " means to keep whatever the

them is under tight control. it doesn't always refer to bras and boobs, it

could refer to people actually, I have most often heard this figure of speech

used about unruly or wound up children

sondra wrote:

What does " reigning " them mean? I to try to follow this but could not

understand it. Reigning to me means to rule as a queen or king so cant

understand how this relates to bras. Sondra

girls don't understand the importance of reigning them

And....

there are many women who dont like to wear them to my understanding.

lol on

> the reigning them in.

[Guest guest]

reigning them also refers to horses or such when you control them using reigns.

so there is a figure of speech " reigning them in " means to keep whatever the

them is under tight control. it doesn't always refer to bras and boobs, it

could refer to people actually, I have most often heard this figure of speech

used about unruly or wound up children

sondra wrote:

What does " reigning " them mean? I to try to follow this but could not

understand it. Reigning to me means to rule as a queen or king so cant

understand how this relates to bras. Sondra

girls don't understand the importance of reigning them

And....

there are many women who dont like to wear them to my understanding.

lol on

> the reigning them in.

[Guest guest]

You're on the right track Sondra, think of it like this, a queen or king rules

over people, and therefore have control over them. That's what she meant. When

you wear a bra you keep comtrol of them, if not, they kind of go where they want

to.

If I could I wouldn't wear a bra, but after a while I get sore from not

wearing it.

sondra wrote:

What does " reigning " them mean? I to try to follow this but could not

understand it. Reigning to me means to rule as a queen or king so cant

understand how this relates to bras. Sondra

girls don't understand the importance of reigning them

And....

there are many women who dont like to wear them to my understanding.

lol on

> the reigning them in.

Crystal B

http://www.myspace.com/breger3

http://bethpuzzle.blogspot.com/

http://www.youravon.com/cbreger

[Guest guest]

You're on the right track Sondra, think of it like this, a queen or king rules

over people, and therefore have control over them. That's what she meant. When

you wear a bra you keep comtrol of them, if not, they kind of go where they want

to.

If I could I wouldn't wear a bra, but after a while I get sore from not

wearing it.

sondra wrote:

What does " reigning " them mean? I to try to follow this but could not

understand it. Reigning to me means to rule as a queen or king so cant

understand how this relates to bras. Sondra

girls don't understand the importance of reigning them

And....

there are many women who dont like to wear them to my understanding.

lol on

> the reigning them in.

Crystal B

http://www.myspace.com/breger3

http://bethpuzzle.blogspot.com/

http://www.youravon.com/cbreger

[Guest guest]

Crystal thanks to share this to me. Now I to know why it is of

important for girls to wear of bras never understood of it but took

the rule rigidly and have worn of one much of the life of me except

to sleep which I to not wear one. So the bra contols the breast from

to get sore and be to not be to stay in place. One to tell me if one

does not wear tehm the breast will stretch and be to fall down to the

tummy much and this maked of me feared but then another telled me

that happens from age not bras. they to say once you become of a mom

it is of a natural process of aging, I to thinked it was of a bra for

keeping the breast to not fall down to the tummy for years. There are

many things in true I to lack awareness to and just do them because

was told too and never explained to me why. I to guess many just

assume we with autism will get it by observations but for me I to not

learn that way I to need to know the logic to understand it more

internally.

Sondra

In Autism_in_Girls , Crystal Breger

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> You're on the right track Sondra, think of it like this, a queen or

king rules over people, and therefore have control over them. That's

what she meant. When you wear a bra you keep comtrol of them, if

not, they kind of go where they want to.

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from not wearing it.

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> sondra wrote:

> What does " reigning " them mean? I to try to follow this

but could not

> understand it. Reigning to me means to rule as a queen or king so

cant

> understand how this relates to bras. Sondra

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understanding.

> lol on

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> http://www.myspace.com/breger3

> http://bethpuzzle.blogspot.com/

> http://www.youravon.com/cbreger

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Crystal thanks to share this to me. Now I to know why it is of

important for girls to wear of bras never understood of it but took

the rule rigidly and have worn of one much of the life of me except

to sleep which I to not wear one. So the bra contols the breast from

to get sore and be to not be to stay in place. One to tell me if one

does not wear tehm the breast will stretch and be to fall down to the

tummy much and this maked of me feared but then another telled me

that happens from age not bras. they to say once you become of a mom

it is of a natural process of aging, I to thinked it was of a bra for

keeping the breast to not fall down to the tummy for years. There are

many things in true I to lack awareness to and just do them because

was told too and never explained to me why. I to guess many just

assume we with autism will get it by observations but for me I to not

learn that way I to need to know the logic to understand it more

internally.

Sondra

In Autism_in_Girls , Crystal Breger

wrote:

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> You're on the right track Sondra, think of it like this, a queen or

king rules over people, and therefore have control over them. That's

what she meant. When you wear a bra you keep comtrol of them, if

not, they kind of go where they want to.

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> If I could I wouldn't wear a bra, but after a while I get sore

from not wearing it.

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> sondra wrote:

> What does " reigning " them mean? I to try to follow this

but could not

> understand it. Reigning to me means to rule as a queen or king so

cant

> understand how this relates to bras. Sondra

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> girls don't understand the importance of reigning them

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> there are many women who dont like to wear them to my

understanding.

> lol on

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> http://www.myspace.com/breger3

> http://bethpuzzle.blogspot.com/

> http://www.youravon.com/cbreger

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[Guest guest]

Yeah, I'm sure you NEVER notice when a woman doesn't have one on!!!

Lol,

Debi

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> there are many women who dont like to wear them to my understanding.

lol on

> the reigning them in.

> eric gutter boy

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> ************************************** See what's free at

http://www.aol.com.

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[Guest guest]

Yeah, I'm sure you NEVER notice when a woman doesn't have one on!!!

Lol,

Debi

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> there are many women who dont like to wear them to my understanding.

lol on

> the reigning them in.

> eric gutter boy

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> ************************************** See what's free at

http://www.aol.com.

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[Guest guest]

Sondra,

I don't wear a bra at night, and sometime if I'm staying around the house I

don't bother putting one on either.

The breasts sagging (stretching to the tummy) is from age, there is no bra out

there that will stop that. If there was one, they would be bought up faster

than they could make them!

sondra wrote:

Crystal thanks to share this to me. Now I to know why it is of

important for girls to wear of bras never understood of it but took

the rule rigidly and have worn of one much of the life of me except

to sleep which I to not wear one. So the bra contols the breast from

to get sore and be to not be to stay in place. One to tell me if one

does not wear tehm the breast will stretch and be to fall down to the

tummy much and this maked of me feared but then another telled me

that happens from age not bras. they to say once you become of a mom

it is of a natural process of aging, I to thinked it was of a bra for

keeping the breast to not fall down to the tummy for years. There are

many things in true I to lack awareness to and just do them because

was told too and never explained to me why. I to guess many just

assume we with autism will get it by observations but for me I to not

learn that way I to need to know the logic to understand it more

internally.

Sondra

In Autism_in_Girls , Crystal Breger

wrote:

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> You're on the right track Sondra, think of it like this, a queen or

king rules over people, and therefore have control over them. That's

what she meant. When you wear a bra you keep comtrol of them, if

not, they kind of go where they want to.

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> If I could I wouldn't wear a bra, but after a while I get sore

from not wearing it.

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> sondra wrote:

> What does " reigning " them mean? I to try to follow this

but could not

> understand it. Reigning to me means to rule as a queen or king so

cant

> understand how this relates to bras. Sondra

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> girls don't understand the importance of reigning them

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understanding.

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> http://www.myspace.com/breger3

> http://bethpuzzle.blogspot.com/

> http://www.youravon.com/cbreger

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[Guest guest]

Sondra,

I don't wear a bra at night, and sometime if I'm staying around the house I

don't bother putting one on either.

The breasts sagging (stretching to the tummy) is from age, there is no bra out

there that will stop that. If there was one, they would be bought up faster

than they could make them!

sondra wrote:

Crystal thanks to share this to me. Now I to know why it is of

important for girls to wear of bras never understood of it but took

the rule rigidly and have worn of one much of the life of me except

to sleep which I to not wear one. So the bra contols the breast from

to get sore and be to not be to stay in place. One to tell me if one

does not wear tehm the breast will stretch and be to fall down to the

tummy much and this maked of me feared but then another telled me

that happens from age not bras. they to say once you become of a mom

it is of a natural process of aging, I to thinked it was of a bra for

keeping the breast to not fall down to the tummy for years. There are

many things in true I to lack awareness to and just do them because

was told too and never explained to me why. I to guess many just

assume we with autism will get it by observations but for me I to not

learn that way I to need to know the logic to understand it more

internally.

Sondra

In Autism_in_Girls , Crystal Breger

wrote:

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> You're on the right track Sondra, think of it like this, a queen or

king rules over people, and therefore have control over them. That's

what she meant. When you wear a bra you keep comtrol of them, if

not, they kind of go where they want to.

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> If I could I wouldn't wear a bra, but after a while I get sore

from not wearing it.

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> sondra wrote:

> What does " reigning " them mean? I to try to follow this

but could not

> understand it. Reigning to me means to rule as a queen or king so

cant

> understand how this relates to bras. Sondra

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> girls don't understand the importance of reigning them

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> And....

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> there are many women who dont like to wear them to my

understanding.

> lol on

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> http://www.myspace.com/breger3

> http://bethpuzzle.blogspot.com/

> http://www.youravon.com/cbreger

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