Re: advice about consequences ps

May 28, 2010

Oh, consequences! For the OCD, generally I don't give consequences for things

out of their control. But, just me, I think you can set limits for what

behavior you will allow (no hitting, punching things, throwing etc.) and lighter

consequences for those things if nothing else is helping (discussion, they are

trying, and so on). I was lucky with not striking out - verbally or

other ways - with his OCD.

If you can distinguish what is OCD and what is " teen " , I would consequence/fuss

for the teen issues not related to OCD. However, things that calm them,

distract them, I'd let her keep those things.

Quick thoughts,

>

> Hi,

>

> I also wanted to add that for many years we did not watch tv or movies or

> have video games. We got a Wii in December and an ipod in march which I

> guess are soothing to my daughter when she is flipping out. I have such a

> struggle with all this technology (email and Facebook). Do I just let her

> do these things or restrict them. Yesterday, when we struggled so, i kept

> taking technology away. Right now, she is listening to a book on cd (which

> is good). I'm giving her space for her sake and mine. I was able to

> arrange a play date for my son. After i take him to their house, i'll come

> back and try again with her.

>

> Thanks,

>

> Kelli

>

June 4, 2010

What I do is to give one hour of technology to my daughter for

going to school. Then she can earn more for doing things

she doesn't want to do. I do not give anything to her or buy

anything for her unless she rehearses something with me. Yesterday

she wanted a few dollars I said I would give her 10 cents

for each thing she would rehearse as a positive opposite

to a problem area. She has school anxiety and locks into

it is all bad, so she can say any small thing she is proud of

herself at school, anything she thinks she does well. It is

a real struggle for her (I help her think of lots of things)

and she resists doing any kind of cognitive work with a therapist.

I use this for exposure work too when she is ready for that

step if she is not ready for exposure we work on rehearsing

exposures. She would not do any of this unless I motivated

her in this way.

I do not get into any battles or meltdowns. I make the

rehearsing easy to do. The biggest problem is that

I have to keep this up and not give in and let

her have priveleges without working at it.

She is free at all times to draw, read books, play with

toys it is the technology and spending of money that

I limit and use as a tool for therapy.

Pam