Shopping cart experience

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Hi everyone,I’ve helped 4 moms since I opened my business in June of this year. Three of them had TT issues. All three would not listen to me and get the tongue properly clipped (two did, but didn’t go where I said to and then would not get them re-clipped). I don’t get it. Why do parents think of parenting as a shopping cart experience? I know that have their own wills. I just don’t understand why they would hire a professional and then don’t take my advice OR pick and choose what they like to do. Another example is artificial nipples. Why would you choose things when it’s absolutely against basic lactation education? Here’s another – STS. I tell them all the wonderful things about it and then they promptly bundle them up in 3-4 layers. Many times, I have to show them and remove the clothes, and place them STS before they even consider it. Then as soon as I leave, they don’t do it much anymore if at all (I ask).I’m wondering if there is a clear, more direct approach that I’m missing. I like to respect mothering instincts and have always believed a mother knows what’s best for her child. I just don’t think many of them are keyed into that instinct and don’t know at what point to get more direct or back off.I’ve been working in a hospital setting the last 3 years in PP and as an IBCLC the last year. I’ve been a LLL Leader for 10 years. I’ve gotten more response there than in my business so far. Also, I feel more appreciated in those areas as well. If I had what I’m offering to people I would have been so grateful, but it seems like people don’t even understand what I have to offer or what the alternative is. Maybe it’s just me or it’s the culture hear up north. I’m so discouraged right now.June , RN, IBCLCPP doula too