snoring - val

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hi val-

your note on snoring made me smile- i notice that i sleep with a man

everynight who snores and i seem to do ok with it- occasionally nudging him

if it gets too loud.

i also notice that i spent one night at a quilt camp -dorm style sleeping-

and nearly lost my mind with a snorer. fortunately i took earplugs. i

suspect like other things-it becomes no big deal..... lovingly laurie

Re: Worthiness issues - Margaret

> Margaret wrote:

>

> Sweet , I'd love to hear your response to 'what's the worst

> that could happen if romantic love came into my life'? Only if you

> feel like responding, naturally.

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> Margaret - I truly appreciate your compassionate response. Please forgive

> me for not responding right away - I'm on digest mode.

>

> OK - what's the worst that could happen if romantic love came into my

life?

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> I could end up feeling hurt or hurting someone else (or being rejected or

> rejecting someone else). Even though intellectually I realize that if I

> feel hurt that's my business and if another feels hurt that's their

> business.

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> I remember having a lot of fear before my present partner appeared. I

> hadn't had sex in five years, I had put on lots of weight, my

> digestive system was poor and I had a lot of gas - I guess this

> sounds funny but you wouldn't believe the amount of shame and

> unworthiness I felt. It was difficult to imagine someone desiring me

> and what if we were having sex and I had smelly gas!!

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> Wow - I can identify with this!!!! Being 52, I'm done with menopause, and

> with it came 40 pounds and no waistline, not to mention whiskers! A few

> years ago, I shared a bedroom with a guy at the home of a friend - single

> beds. In the middle of the night I heard him get up, take his blanket and

> pillow and leave the room. I asked him what was wrong and he said that I

> had been snoring so loudly that he couldn't sleep. I was mortified! The

> next day we talked about it, and again, I was grateful that I was able to

> not blame him for my feelings, but I have to say that I've gone out of my

> way never to share a bedroom with anyone since then.

>

> Hmmmm - maybe if I found a guy who's hard of hearing???? LOL!

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> Now if I could just know that all my fears about marching into the

> world are just as unwarranted and unreal.

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> Well, what would be your answer to the same question that you asked me?

> What's the worst that could happen if I began financially supporting

myself?

>

> Best regards,

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