Re: Worthiness issues - Bob

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Bob wrote:

, Is it true , we need an intimate relationship in order to be happy?

How does it make you feel when you think this thought?

Who would you be without this thought?

Can you think of one stress free reason to keep that thought?

Can you see a reason to drop that thought? (and please don't try to drop it)

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1. Of course not.

2. No. It's just a thought I have sometimes.

3. Undesirable and needy because I don't have one. I feel like something

must be wrong with me. I keep to myself so others won't be able to see how

needy I really feel (and I must be doing a pretty good job of it, because my

friends tell me that I'm the least needy person they know!) LOL! I feel

cold and unloving - incapable of reaching out for fear of being rejected.

4. More open to reaching out to others.

5. Of course.

TA I don't need an intimate relationship with another in order to be

happy. (Which is true more than half the time).

I do need an intimate relationship with myself in order to be happy.

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I know there is nothing outside of me that will bring me abiding peace and

joy and yet like you I keep looking. My brief experience with the Work

convinces me that I can unchain myself from the old beliefs. Its working.

Keep doing the Work.

and

Something anne on said on a relationships tape has stuck with me

over the years. She said " Why would anyone want to be with you when you

don't want to be with you " . Ever since I heard that I've been working on

being someone I want to be with.

Do this Work and you will gently feel a shift in how you are being. You

don't have to understand it but you do have to do it. Ask the 4 questions.

Love

Bob

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A while back, I remember someone on this list talking about " baby steps "

with regard to doing the work. I think that you're saying something

similar.

Bob, your feedback is truly appreciated. I'll try not to get discouraged

and just keep at it.

Best regards,