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Mona,

I don't really think my inner child ran away.as far as stealing ideas?

I think the inner kid is void of them and I choose which ones to make it

" live and torment itself with " or I have done that. Not now.I really

don't see it. I think I am done with that.

So I have a separate " inner child " ? I don't think so. I think it is

just a stage of my development and like the before kids me and the after

kids me, it is all a part of the big package. Nothing is separate.

My daughter asked me to teach her how to throw a football. I can do

that. I am going to go buy one this evening and we will spend time on

the beach tossing a football. I am left handed so my right shoulder

will not be of matter. ( I had the surgery on it a few weeks ago) I

can do it because that time in my life is not compartmentalized. I can

still toss a mean football!

I am often light hearted in jest and I am sure no one can tell on the

screen! I say the inner kid ran away, I would have if I could have!

LOL. no one runs away, I pretended a lot but it was pretend. I mean

haven't you ever brushed your teeth and pretended it was a toothpaste

commercial? Or cleaned the house and then dusted and just for a moment

you are the lady in the Pledge commercial and the swipe of the cloth

looks just like hers.(yeah I can get that much dust!)..Or, as you put

away the tools in the tool chest you might as well be a mechanic? It is

all just fun. I love to get into my " secretarial mode " if I have to

file things or it is boring. It is just some silly mind games that I do

to amuse myself. I am totally aware. How about cooking! Child!

Oh yeah! Flour and stuff everywhere! LOL

It is play. I like to play. Life is full of play and stories do not

have to be about defense! They can be fun!

April

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Interesting, have a different opinion

RE: Inner child/Tim

Mona,

I don't really think my inner child ran away.as far as stealing ideas?

I think the inner kid is void of them and I choose which ones to make it

" live and torment itself with " or I have done that. Not now.I really

don't see it. I think I am done with that.

So I have a separate " inner child " ? I don't think so. I think it is

just a stage of my development and like the before kids me and the after

kids me, it is all a part of the big package. Nothing is separate.

My daughter asked me to teach her how to throw a football. I can do

that. I am going to go buy one this evening and we will spend time on

the beach tossing a football. I am left handed so my right shoulder

will not be of matter. ( I had the surgery on it a few weeks ago) I

can do it because that time in my life is not compartmentalized. I can

still toss a mean football!

I am often light hearted in jest and I am sure no one can tell on the

screen! I say the inner kid ran away, I would have if I could have!

LOL. no one runs away, I pretended a lot but it was pretend. I mean

haven't you ever brushed your teeth and pretended it was a toothpaste

commercial? Or cleaned the house and then dusted and just for a moment

you are the lady in the Pledge commercial and the swipe of the cloth

looks just like hers.(yeah I can get that much dust!)..Or, as you put

away the tools in the tool chest you might as well be a mechanic? It is

all just fun. I love to get into my " secretarial mode " if I have to

file things or it is boring. It is just some silly mind games that I do

to amuse myself. I am totally aware. How about cooking! Child!

Oh yeah! Flour and stuff everywhere! LOL

It is play. I like to play. Life is full of play and stories do not

have to be about defense! They can be fun!

April

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There are many parts of you. When you are 13, and become 14, the 13 year old is

still in there, the if you will, unenquired of beliefs of the 13 year old.

Perhaps beyond your conscious awareness.

Re: Inner child/Tim

What is your opinion, Tepet?

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> Interesting, have a different opinion

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Tepet,

You have a different opinion or I do?

Oh I think it is so hard to pin down thoughts on this screen when half

the time I am in jest! It is more irony than jest I suppose.

I say that my inner kid ran away .that was a full out lie! It was a

statement like " oh I just put my head in the sand " . I didn't really

put my head in the sand. I just was oblivious or thought I was. I use

terms like " run away " meaning avoidance.

And yes, there are some days when I feel certain about one thing and

others when I do not. I am not as firm in what I believe anymore. That

I think was part of the compartmentalizing of dissociation. It needed

to find a category. Hence one category became very specific and did not

always over lap another. (in fact this was important that it often did

not touch another) This is a great set up for thinking that there were

" separate me's " or an inner child me, a teen me an adult me, a molested

me, a good student, a naughty me, a brilliant me etc. Now I realize

there are days when I am down right brilliant and some when I am a slug!

LOL. I do not have to have a judgment one way or another. They are

all great. They are all me and moods are not separate personalities.

Moods are just moods. I can feel like going to a movie or staying home.

It is not the " lets go out on the town me " vs. the " introverted watch TV

and don't bug me, me " It is a genuine change in what I feel at any

certain time. It is relaxed and very uncalculated. It happens out of

how I feel.I can get talked out of it too! My kids can say. " Oh come

on! Don't you want to go to the show? There is that one you have been

wanting to see! We will get a big popcorn and some candy.come on " ..Ok,

I will go. No biggie. No problem with out of integrity. No switch

over to the yeee hawwww lets party at the movies. It is just " pick up

some bucks and the keys and lets get in line--nothing more. "

The " work " has helped me a lot! I feel good.

April

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Tepet,

Yes, there are nerve pathways that hold memories. I see the separations

as the 13 year old memory, not a separate self. I can remember how I

felt at a certain age. I can remember how exciting simple things were.

I don't necessarily go bonkers to feed a horse now, but I can remember

the smell, the sound of the bit in its mouth, the sound of the leather

of a saddle. Not a separate self but a memory. In fact, now I think

that horses are rude! They poop at eye level! LOL..Ok I am in jest!

April

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I buy inner personalties, but never blame them. Yes, a mood is just a mood, no

justification required.

RE: Inner child/Tim

Tepet,

You have a different opinion or I do?

Oh I think it is so hard to pin down thoughts on this screen when half

the time I am in jest! It is more irony than jest I suppose.

I say that my inner kid ran away .that was a full out lie! It was a

statement like " oh I just put my head in the sand " . I didn't really

put my head in the sand. I just was oblivious or thought I was. I use

terms like " run away " meaning avoidance.

And yes, there are some days when I feel certain about one thing and

others when I do not. I am not as firm in what I believe anymore. That

I think was part of the compartmentalizing of dissociation. It needed

to find a category. Hence one category became very specific and did not

always over lap another. (in fact this was important that it often did

not touch another) This is a great set up for thinking that there were

" separate me's " or an inner child me, a teen me an adult me, a molested

me, a good student, a naughty me, a brilliant me etc. Now I realize

there are days when I am down right brilliant and some when I am a slug!

LOL. I do not have to have a judgment one way or another. They are

all great. They are all me and moods are not separate personalities.

Moods are just moods. I can feel like going to a movie or staying home.

It is not the " lets go out on the town me " vs. the " introverted watch TV

and don't bug me, me " It is a genuine change in what I feel at any

certain time. It is relaxed and very uncalculated. It happens out of

how I feel.I can get talked out of it too! My kids can say. " Oh come

on! Don't you want to go to the show? There is that one you have been

wanting to see! We will get a big popcorn and some candy.come on " ..Ok,

I will go. No biggie. No problem with out of integrity. No switch

over to the yeee hawwww lets party at the movies. It is just " pick up

some bucks and the keys and lets get in line--nothing more. "

The " work " has helped me a lot! I feel good.

April

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Suggested to somone yesterday, find a #2 yellow pencil, put it in your mouth,

and see where that takes you. Smile.

RE: Inner child/Tim

Tepet,

Yes, there are nerve pathways that hold memories. I see the separations

as the 13 year old memory, not a separate self. I can remember how I

felt at a certain age. I can remember how exciting simple things were.

I don't necessarily go bonkers to feed a horse now, but I can remember

the smell, the sound of the bit in its mouth, the sound of the leather

of a saddle. Not a separate self but a memory. In fact, now I think

that horses are rude! They poop at eye level! LOL..Ok I am in jest!

April

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