Guest guest Posted January 2, 2007 Report Share Posted January 2, 2007 , Thank you, you put that very well. I for one am one of the people that look forward to the day that I will be at, or under 200 lbs. I have never once taken it as abusive or insensitive when someone comments on their situation. We all have to realize that what each person is talking about is THEIR situation...people on this message board are trying to bring up a point, express a view or an experience. They do not alway's spell everything correctly, or use the correct punctuation - some get on them about that...PLEASE...this is not an English class and although everyone should do their best to be correct, it is better to express the thought then be at the top of the class. Recently there was an e-mail when someone spelled one word and meant another. I am so glad that there were not 50 e-mails about that. Come on - We are here to help each other over hurdles and try to reassure the next person. If someone is going to take something so personally that they think that every e-mail is directed at them, then they should not be reading this message board. --- Elam <welam@...> wrote: > Miamiangel, I'm sorry you were unable to take > comfort from all the posts > that responded to your message. I'm sorry you feel > the way you do. It > sounds like a terrible burden and it's got you very > upset. I hope it gets > better for you. When somebody posts about them > selves, that is who they are > talking about, themselves. So I wont be changing > the way I word stuff just > in case you might be reading posts. It would be > impossible for everybody > here and unreasonable to expect them to try to word > their personal posts to > please somebody in particular. Take care of > yourself and I wish you luck on > your journey, because that's what it is, YOUR > journey. > > > > > > From: > [mailto: ] On > Behalf Of miamiangel888 > Sent: Friday, December 29, 2006 12:45 PM > > Subject: Re: Insensitive > Comments > > > > It's not about the who has more weight to lose to > begin with, how tall you > are in comparison to your weight or your self-esteem > issues that I was > referring to. It is the way in which it is worded. > To say, " I was a 200lb > whale! " is equivalent to a tall person saying, > " short people are so ugly. " > to a midget. I was wondering if the comments can be > tailored to the person. > You can say, " at 200lbs I felt like a whale. " " For > me that was too much > weight to carry. " The number itself is not what > makes a person fat or thin, > so the reference should be to yourself, not the > poundage. > > > > > > > > > I realize that this will probably kick up quite a > ruckus amongst many > > of you, but I feel it should be said anyway. > > For those of you who only went into this journey > with 50 or 60 lbs to > > lose, I think it's great that you stopped > yourselves before your > > weight became a larger hindrance in your lives, > but when you say > > things like, " I'm such a whale at 200lbs! " or " At > 180lbs, my life was > > a mess. " It doesn't bode well with those of us > with much more serious > > weight problems. Now I am aware that everyone's > issues are as great > > to them as the next guys, but those who started > this at 300 or more > > lbs might feel somewhat slighted at those remarks. > Many people would > > actually love to weigh ONLY 200lbs or less! > > The comments may make the larger bunch feel as > though they are STILL > > inferior. > > > > Just a thought. > > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2007 Report Share Posted January 2, 2007 . Thak good nobodi getz on mi aboot me spellin. That’s a whole other issue. LOL. From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of B. Sent: Tuesday, January 02, 2007 1:35 PM Subject: RE: Re: Insensitive Comments , Thank you, you put that very well. I for one am one of the people that look forward to the day that I will be at, or under 200 lbs. I have never once taken it as abusive or insensitive when someone comments on their situation. We all have to realize that what each person is talking about is THEIR situation...people on this message board are trying to bring up a point, express a view or an experience. They do not alway's spell everything correctly, or use the correct punctuation - some get on them about that...PLEASE...this is not an English class and although everyone should do their best to be correct, it is better to express the thought then be at the top of the class. Recently there was an e-mail when someone spelled one word and meant another. I am so glad that there were not 50 e-mails about that. Come on - We are here to help each other over hurdles and try to reassure the next person. If someone is going to take something so personally that they think that every e-mail is directed at them, then they should not be reading this message board. --- Elam <welamhobaica> wrote: > Miamiangel, I'm sorry you were unable to take > comfort from all the posts > that responded to your message. I'm sorry you feel > the way you do. It > sounds like a terrible burden and it's got you very > upset. I hope it gets > better for you. When somebody posts about them > selves, that is who they are > talking about, themselves. So I wont be changing > the way I word stuff just > in case you might be reading posts. It would be > impossible for everybody > here and unreasonable to expect them to try to word > their personal posts to > please somebody in particular. Take care of > yourself and I wish you luck on > your journey, because that's what it is, YOUR > journey. > > > > > > From: > [mailto: ] On > Behalf Of miamiangel888 > Sent: Friday, December 29, 2006 12:45 PM > > Subject: Re: Insensitive > Comments > > > > It's not about the who has more weight to lose to > begin with, how tall you > are in comparison to your weight or your self-esteem > issues that I was > referring to. It is the way in which it is worded. > To say, " I was a 200lb > whale! " is equivalent to a tall person saying, > " short people are so ugly. " > to a midget. I was wondering if the comments can be > tailored to the person. > You can say, " at 200lbs I felt like a whale. " " For > me that was too much > weight to carry. " The number itself is not what > makes a person fat or thin, > so the reference should be to yourself, not the > poundage. > > > > > > > > > I realize that this will probably kick up quite a > ruckus amongst many > > of you, but I feel it should be said anyway. > > For those of you who only went into this journey > with 50 or 60 lbs to > > lose, I think it's great that you stopped > yourselves before your > > weight became a larger hindrance in your lives, > but when you say > > things like, " I'm such a whale at 200lbs! " or " At > 180lbs, my life was > > a mess. " It doesn't bode well with those of us > with much more serious > > weight problems. Now I am aware that everyone's > issues are as great > > to them as the next guys, but those who started > this at 300 or more > > lbs might feel somewhat slighted at those remarks. > Many people would > > actually love to weigh ONLY 200lbs or less! > > The comments may make the larger bunch feel as > though they are STILL > > inferior. > > > > Just a thought. > > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2007 Report Share Posted January 2, 2007 If you guys would STOP trying to psycho-analyze everything I say on here you may actually read the posts and get the point! I am NOT taking the comments directed right at me, I mentioned that the way they are worded is not only insensitive, it is rude. I happen to think smoking is a loathsome, vile habit. However, I would not say SMOKERS are loathsome and vile people. I say that the habit itself it disgusting! Therefore I feel when someone says a 200lb woman is a whale, they are saying that anyone who weighs THAT MUCH is not human! Say YOU feel like a whale, don't say that EVERYONE at that weight is gross. Or better yet, just keep saying whatever you're going to say, in whatever way you want to, in the pitiful grammatical way that you guys do and I will just keep reading and laughing at your horrible Language skills. Have a great New Year everyone! > > > > > > > > I realize that this will probably kick up quite > > a > > > ruckus amongst many > > > > of you, but I feel it should be said anyway. > > > > For those of you who only went into this journey > > > with 50 or 60 lbs to > > > > lose, I think it's great that you stopped > > > yourselves before your > > > > weight became a larger hindrance in your lives, > > > but when you say > > > > things like, " I'm such a whale at 200lbs! " or > > " At > > > 180lbs, my life was > > > > a mess. " It doesn't bode well with those of us > > > with much more serious > > > > weight problems. Now I am aware that everyone's > > > issues are as great > > > > to them as the next guys, but those who started > > > this at 300 or more > > > > lbs might feel somewhat slighted at those > > remarks. > > > Many people would > > > > actually love to weigh ONLY 200lbs or less! > > > > The comments may make the larger bunch feel as > > > though they are STILL > > > > inferior. > > > > > > > > Just a thought. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2007 Report Share Posted January 3, 2007 WOW ! and double WOW Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2007 Report Share Posted January 3, 2007 I am in agreement. I think we've tried to be accomodating enough, and we've tried to be sensitive and apologize for something we really shouldn't apologize for, therefore the " ignore " button has been initiated. It's sad that people come in here to purposely upset others, and acted out maliciously when those have apologized and offered an olive leaf that they continue to bash others for the sake of bashing. Good luck with your journey, but I cannot offer any advice other than, " Seek Professional Therapy. " > > > > > > If you guys would STOP trying to psycho-analyze everything I say on > > here you may actually read the posts and get the point! > > I am NOT taking the comments directed right at me, I mentioned that > > the way they are worded is not only insensitive, it is rude. I > > happen to think smoking is a loathsome, vile habit. However, I would > > not say SMOKERS are loathsome and vile people. I say that the habit > > itself it disgusting! Therefore I feel when someone says a 200lb > > woman is a whale, they are saying that anyone who weighs THAT MUCH is > > not human! Say YOU feel like a whale, don't say that EVERYONE at > > that weight is gross. > > Or better yet, just keep saying whatever you're going to say, in > > whatever way you want to, in the pitiful grammatical way that you > > guys do and I will just keep reading and laughing at your horrible > > Language skills. > > Have a great New Year everyone! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2007 Report Share Posted January 3, 2007 If you are not taking them directed at you then why are you so upset over them? I haven't seen that anyone else is upset over comments on other people's weight. I dont see that people here are going to change the way they word things b/c those are their feelings at the time. This board is a great source of support and information. I hope you are able contribute something positive about your experiences. > > > > > > > > > > I realize that this will probably kick up quite > > > a > > > > ruckus amongst many > > > > > of you, but I feel it should be said anyway. > > > > > For those of you who only went into this journey > > > > with 50 or 60 lbs to > > > > > lose, I think it's great that you stopped > > > > yourselves before your > > > > > weight became a larger hindrance in your lives, > > > > but when you say > > > > > things like, " I'm such a whale at 200lbs! " or > > > " At > > > > 180lbs, my life was > > > > > a mess. " It doesn't bode well with those of us > > > > with much more serious > > > > > weight problems. Now I am aware that everyone's > > > > issues are as great > > > > > to them as the next guys, but those who started > > > > this at 300 or more > > > > > lbs might feel somewhat slighted at those > > > remarks. > > > > Many people would > > > > > actually love to weigh ONLY 200lbs or less! > > > > > The comments may make the larger bunch feel as > > > > though they are STILL > > > > > inferior. > > > > > > > > > > Just a thought. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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