Re: Marie thanks you all for your love & support....

[Guest guest]

From the bottom of my heart, I thank you for your replies and words of

wisdom. For sharing with me from your hearts. I have taken action and I

am doing what what suggested. I am going to forget about my daughter

for now which I have to do and take care of myself. She was due with

her first child on Oct. 7th. I think she had her baby but there is no

way I can find out. I tried calling the hospital and had no luck. I

am " letting go & letting God " when it comes to my one and only Anita.

For now anyway. Thank you Kathe! Also Joyce, I am sorry for the very

hard grief you went through. Lord have mercy! Time is a great healer,

you wrote. I believe you. I couldn't see that but after reading your

post, I believe it with all my heart. I will get through this very

difficult time in my life. Living alone and not knowing anyone in this

area is hard. In Alaska, I at least had a personal care attendent

everyday. Better Dr. care also. I am going to heed your suggestions and

I thank you all so much for your thoughts and prayers. I have began to

write and I made a call and I am going to take action and think positive

and find a 12 step support group to attend in the area so I won't be

isolating. I used to go to al-anon over 20 years ago. Plus do aquatic

exercises to help with my knee pain and all. I a going to get through

this. It will not be easy but I can do it with God's help. Thank you

for sharing your beliefs about God. It really helped me.

I would like to ask if anyone has been rejected by a loved one and

especially if you are back in touch. If the relationship was healed and

how long it took. Maybe I shouldn't ask. IF you do want to please send

it directly to my address if you want. God bless you all so very very

much! I'm so happy I didn't chop my hair. I'd really feel terrible had

I done that.

HEIDI & JULIEN I am so happy for you. You are truly blest and I pray

to God you are one of the lucky ones that will remain in remission for

the rest of your life and my prayer is that a cure will be found for

the rest of us. Kids are truly a gift from above. I loved having my son

and grandsons here but they had to go back with mom and I miss them

terribly. I am going to believe that God has something wonderful

planned for me and just have faith and keep doing my best each day to

ask him for wisdom and for guidance. Wisdom and strength for each and

everyone of you, also. Goodnight. With much love, always, Marie

[Guest guest]

From the bottom of my heart, I thank you for your replies and words of

wisdom. For sharing with me from your hearts. I have taken action and I

am doing what what suggested. I am going to forget about my daughter

for now which I have to do and take care of myself. She was due with

her first child on Oct. 7th. I think she had her baby but there is no

way I can find out. I tried calling the hospital and had no luck. I

am " letting go & letting God " when it comes to my one and only Anita.

For now anyway. Thank you Kathe! Also Joyce, I am sorry for the very

hard grief you went through. Lord have mercy! Time is a great healer,

you wrote. I believe you. I couldn't see that but after reading your

post, I believe it with all my heart. I will get through this very

difficult time in my life. Living alone and not knowing anyone in this

area is hard. In Alaska, I at least had a personal care attendent

everyday. Better Dr. care also. I am going to heed your suggestions and

I thank you all so much for your thoughts and prayers. I have began to

write and I made a call and I am going to take action and think positive

and find a 12 step support group to attend in the area so I won't be

isolating. I used to go to al-anon over 20 years ago. Plus do aquatic

exercises to help with my knee pain and all. I a going to get through

this. It will not be easy but I can do it with God's help. Thank you

for sharing your beliefs about God. It really helped me.

I would like to ask if anyone has been rejected by a loved one and

especially if you are back in touch. If the relationship was healed and

how long it took. Maybe I shouldn't ask. IF you do want to please send

it directly to my address if you want. God bless you all so very very

much! I'm so happy I didn't chop my hair. I'd really feel terrible had

I done that.

HEIDI & JULIEN I am so happy for you. You are truly blest and I pray

to God you are one of the lucky ones that will remain in remission for

the rest of your life and my prayer is that a cure will be found for

the rest of us. Kids are truly a gift from above. I loved having my son

and grandsons here but they had to go back with mom and I miss them

terribly. I am going to believe that God has something wonderful

planned for me and just have faith and keep doing my best each day to

ask him for wisdom and for guidance. Wisdom and strength for each and

everyone of you, also. Goodnight. With much love, always, Marie

[Guest guest]

Dear Marie,

I'm so glad you are feeling better and taking positive steps. I

really know how hard it is when your only child rejects you. We have

a daughter who is 27, and she moved out of our house when she was 18

to live with her boyfriend. He turned abusive, she moved home. Two

months later, she moved from Illinois to Indiana to live with a man

she met on line. He seemed really nice, and they were married, had 4

children (a little boy, and 3 years later triplets.) In December

2003, she announced that she was getting a divorce, that her husband

had become increasingly abusive. I wasn't surprised, as she had been

less and less involved with us as a family, and we had moved here to

Indiana to be near her. But in an abusive relationship, the woman

rarely is honest with herself let alone family about what's going

on. I'm not saying that is what's happening with your daughter, only

my daughter's experience.

She remarried a year and a half ago, and the change is astounding.

She sometimes slips back into old habits, but for the most part she

is very loving and concerned. It hurt for a long time to be rejected

by her, but Ron and I decided we had our own lives to live, and we

didn't have time to try to live them around her problems. We have

been supportive, but not " in her face. " When I was going through a

number of surgeries in the last 2 years, I never even saw her

afterward. Now I am having surgery tomorrow, and she told us last

night (when we were out at her house) that she is coming in Saturday

to clean house for us! She has began to explore her own feelings,

and as we have always found it easier to communicate our thoughts in

writing, we email every day.

So don't give up on Anita, just give her over to God, Who will always

take care of both of you.

Live your life for Marie now!

Judi

[Guest guest]

Dear Marie,

I'm so glad you are feeling better and taking positive steps. I

really know how hard it is when your only child rejects you. We have

a daughter who is 27, and she moved out of our house when she was 18

to live with her boyfriend. He turned abusive, she moved home. Two

months later, she moved from Illinois to Indiana to live with a man

she met on line. He seemed really nice, and they were married, had 4

children (a little boy, and 3 years later triplets.) In December

2003, she announced that she was getting a divorce, that her husband

had become increasingly abusive. I wasn't surprised, as she had been

less and less involved with us as a family, and we had moved here to

Indiana to be near her. But in an abusive relationship, the woman

rarely is honest with herself let alone family about what's going

on. I'm not saying that is what's happening with your daughter, only

my daughter's experience.

She remarried a year and a half ago, and the change is astounding.

She sometimes slips back into old habits, but for the most part she

is very loving and concerned. It hurt for a long time to be rejected

by her, but Ron and I decided we had our own lives to live, and we

didn't have time to try to live them around her problems. We have

been supportive, but not " in her face. " When I was going through a

number of surgeries in the last 2 years, I never even saw her

afterward. Now I am having surgery tomorrow, and she told us last

night (when we were out at her house) that she is coming in Saturday

to clean house for us! She has began to explore her own feelings,

and as we have always found it easier to communicate our thoughts in

writing, we email every day.

So don't give up on Anita, just give her over to God, Who will always

take care of both of you.

Live your life for Marie now!

Judi