The 5 Words That Are Ruining Your Life

[Guest guest]

The 5 Words That Are Ruining Your Life

by Sopan Greene, M.A.

http://www.InspiredEnoughToChange.com

How would you like to stop feeling like your life isn't

good enough? (I realize advertisers would go broke if

this happened, but it's better for you!) Imagine

feeling joyful, whole and complete when you look in

the mirror at the end of the day.

What if I showed you how you're consciously creating

circumstances and beliefs everyday that give you

results you aren't happy with? Would you like to

change it?

It's much simpler than you think. It all begins with

the words you choose to use. By changing what you do

and don't say, you'll start to create a much brighter

future and more peaceful present right now. I'm going

to reveal the 5 words to you that are bringing the

most stress and frustration into your life. Over time

using these words ruins your life by creating a ton

of unnecessary mental suffering.

The 5 words I invite you to eliminate from your

vocabulary right now are: want, need, can't,

should and good enough (okay, these are two words

but they're together so lets pretend they're one word

for counting's sake. Thanks.).

If you just stopped using the word 'want' you would

transform your life beyond belief. Do it for just

one day. You're going to be amazed at how many

times an hour you (and everyone else) says

" I want.... "

When you say " I want... " you instantly create a

feeling of lack within yourself. In reality you

aren't lacking anything, but when you want something

you subconsciously believe that you have a hole that

can only be filled by getting what you want. This

is the source of a lot of addictions that cause

people to consume too much food, sex, drugs, alcohol,

entertainment or whatever their personality has a

hankerin' for.

" Need " is an extreme version of 'want.' You don't

need anything beyond food, water, shelter, clothing

and love. Everything else is icing on the cake.

Along these lines it's helpful to remember that more

than half of the worlds' population goes to bed hungry

every night. So if you think you need a $3,000 HDTV,

realize that you would like it but you don't 'need' it.

'Can't' is a limiting belief based on past experience.

We all know the past doesn't determine how we create

the present or the future, but a lot of us live like

it's true. I invite you to re-examine what you think

you can't do.

I grew up being told that I couldn't do mechanical

things because my brother was labeled as the

" mechanical one " and I was labeled as the " studious "

one. In my twenties I finally challenged that belief

because I had to in order to take care of myself.

Guess what? When I challenged that theory I

discovered I could do a lot of things I never tried

because I was always told I wouldn't be able to do them.

Remember that you can be or do anything you commit to

being or doing. Some things will come more naturally

to yoiu than others, but you have the power to always

be and do your best.

You've probably heard the phrase " Stop shoulding all

over yourself. " 'Should' is a word we use to exert

power over ourselves and others through guilt.

The funny thing is that we tell ourselves what we

'should' do even more than we do it to other people.

If you catch yourself before you 'should' on yourself

you'll see that the 'should' that feels so important

is just another belief that you can choose to change.

Our minds can be our worst enemies. Our minds are

constantly making up stuff about whats good/bad,

right/wrong, important/irrelevant, etc. We are run

by these beliefs, many of which are arbitrary and

constantly changing.

Think about an issue that tends to worry you over

and over. Why is this worry imprisoning you by

creating a ton of stress when a lot of other people

aren't even aware of it?

We all pick different issues and beat ourselves up

about getting these issues done, getting them right,

takig care of them etc. They only feel important to

us because our minds made up that they're important

issues. At the same time we're totally unaware of

other issues that other people are constantly

worrying about. It's silly and it also causes

heart attacks.

The most problematic two words ever put together are

'good enough.' What exactly is good enough?

Nothing is. Is doesn't exist. It's a subjective

choice that's like a carrot on a stick that is

impossible to achieve. It moves farther away with

every new accomplishment.

'Good enough' is an American complex. It may exist

in other countries (though the Spanish language

doesn't even have words to describe it), but in

America it's in the air we breathe.

Most Americans feel like they're 'not good enough.'

But if you ask them (or yourself), " What would be

good enough? " they're dumbfounded. They don't have

an answer as to what signifies achieving 'good enough.'

All they know is that they can find millions of other

people who appear (key word) to have things they don't

have. They think that if they had all these things,

maybe they would be good enough ...until they see

something else they don't have that they think they

want, need, can't get or should have.

I invite you to choose one of these words a day

to stop using. Catch yourself before the word leaves

your lips. If the word gets out simply correct yourself

with a powerful positive statement.

If you're about to say, " I want to go to the movies, "

then instead simply say " I would like to go to the

movies. " or " I choose to go to the movies. " Now you're

using words that create possibility and express

responsibility. Doesn't it feel better when you speak

like this? Yes, it does. It's because your speaking

from a place of power.

It's your life. Choose to create it with words that

reflect the responsible, powerful masterful spirit

that you are.

[Guest guest]

Good stuff, thanks! Very similiar to the cognitive restructuring that

some therapists help you become of aware in counseling.

I'm on several groups and some individuals really stand out

as using very extreme and negative words to describe themselves

or their circumstances and it always strikes me if they could

learn to be aware of their own personal self-talk, that might

cure many of their problems!

Thanks for letting me gab.....

LeAnn

The 5 Words That Are Ruining Your Life

The 5 Words That Are Ruining Your Life

by Sopan Greene, M.A.

http://www.InspiredEnoughToChange.com

How would you like to stop feeling like your life isn't

good enough? (I realize advertisers would go broke if

this happened, but it's better for you!) Imagine

feeling joyful, whole and complete when you look in

the mirror at the end of the day.

What if I showed you how you're consciously creating

circumstances and beliefs everyday that give you

results you aren't happy with? Would you like to

change it?

It's much simpler than you think. It all begins with

the words you choose to use. By changing what you do

and don't say, you'll start to create a much brighter

future and more peaceful present right now. I'm going

to reveal the 5 words to you that are bringing the

most stress and frustration into your life. Over time

using these words ruins your life by creating a ton

of unnecessary mental suffering.

The 5 words I invite you to eliminate from your

vocabulary right now are: want, need, can't,

should and good enough (okay, these are two words

but they're together so lets pretend they're one word

for counting's sake. Thanks.).

If you just stopped using the word 'want' you would

transform your life beyond belief. Do it for just

one day. You're going to be amazed at how many

times an hour you (and everyone else) says

" I want.... "

When you say " I want... " you instantly create a

feeling of lack within yourself. In reality you

aren't lacking anything, but when you want something

you subconsciously believe that you have a hole that

can only be filled by getting what you want. This

is the source of a lot of addictions that cause

people to consume too much food, sex, drugs, alcohol,

entertainment or whatever their personality has a

hankerin' for.

" Need " is an extreme version of 'want.' You don't

need anything beyond food, water, shelter, clothing

and love. Everything else is icing on the cake.

Along these lines it's helpful to remember that more

than half of the worlds' population goes to bed hungry

every night. So if you think you need a $3,000 HDTV,

realize that you would like it but you don't 'need' it.

'Can't' is a limiting belief based on past experience.

We all know the past doesn't determine how we create

the present or the future, but a lot of us live like

it's true. I invite you to re-examine what you think

you can't do.

I grew up being told that I couldn't do mechanical

things because my brother was labeled as the

" mechanical one " and I was labeled as the " studious "

one. In my twenties I finally challenged that belief

because I had to in order to take care of myself.

Guess what? When I challenged that theory I

discovered I could do a lot of things I never tried

because I was always told I wouldn't be able to do them.

Remember that you can be or do anything you commit to

being or doing. Some things will come more naturally

to yoiu than others, but you have the power to always

be and do your best.

You've probably heard the phrase " Stop shoulding all

over yourself. " 'Should' is a word we use to exert

power over ourselves and others through guilt.

The funny thing is that we tell ourselves what we

'should' do even more than we do it to other people.

If you catch yourself before you 'should' on yourself

you'll see that the 'should' that feels so important

is just another belief that you can choose to change.

Our minds can be our worst enemies. Our minds are

constantly making up stuff about whats good/bad,

right/wrong, important/irrelevant, etc. We are run

by these beliefs, many of which are arbitrary and

constantly changing.

Think about an issue that tends to worry you over

and over. Why is this worry imprisoning you by

creating a ton of stress when a lot of other people

aren't even aware of it?

We all pick different issues and beat ourselves up

about getting these issues done, getting them right,

takig care of them etc. They only feel important to

us because our minds made up that they're important

issues. At the same time we're totally unaware of

other issues that other people are constantly

worrying about. It's silly and it also causes

heart attacks.

The most problematic two words ever put together are

'good enough.' What exactly is good enough?

Nothing is. Is doesn't exist. It's a subjective

choice that's like a carrot on a stick that is

impossible to achieve. It moves farther away with

every new accomplishment.

'Good enough' is an American complex. It may exist

in other countries (though the Spanish language

doesn't even have words to describe it), but in

America it's in the air we breathe.

Most Americans feel like they're 'not good enough.'

But if you ask them (or yourself), " What would be

good enough? " they're dumbfounded. They don't have

an answer as to what signifies achieving 'good enough.'

All they know is that they can find millions of other

people who appear (key word) to have things they don't

have. They think that if they had all these things,

maybe they would be good enough ...until they see

something else they don't have that they think they

want, need, can't get or should have.

I invite you to choose one of these words a day

to stop using. Catch yourself before the word leaves

your lips. If the word gets out simply correct yourself

with a powerful positive statement.

If you're about to say, " I want to go to the movies, "

then instead simply say " I would like to go to the

movies. " or " I choose to go to the movies. " Now you're

using words that create possibility and express

responsibility. Doesn't it feel better when you speak

like this? Yes, it does. It's because your speaking

from a place of power.

It's your life. Choose to create it with words that

reflect the responsible, powerful masterful spirit

that you are.

[Guest guest]

LeAnn,

So true....sometimes it is just as simple as changing one thing, one word

or one thought that gets us on that higher road. I guess we have to have

the choice though behind it, deeply given from our soul...but I have

found the simpler things to work the best )

Thanks for gabbing! I enjoy it...maybe b/c I do it so well LOL

*¸..· ´¨¨)) -:¦:- ~ @love, Jolene....

¸.·´ .·´¨¨)) ~a seeker... a finder...an encourager~

((¸¸.·´ ..·´ -:¦:-

-:¦:- ((¸¸.·´ * If it doesn't bring peace, make another

choice

LeAnn said:

Good stuff, thanks! Very similiar to the cognitive restructuring that

some therapists help you become of aware in counseling.

I'm on several groups and some individuals really stand out

as using very extreme and negative words to describe themselves

or their circumstances and it always strikes me if they could

learn to be aware of their own personal self-talk, that might

cure many of their problems!

Thanks for letting me gab.....

LeAnn

*¸..· ´¨¨)) -:¦:- ~ @love, Jolene....

¸.·´ .·´¨¨)) ~a seeker... a finder...an encourager~

((¸¸.·´ ..·´ -:¦:-

-:¦:- ((¸¸.·´ * If it doesn't bring peace, make another

choice

[Guest guest]

Jolene,

What an excellent article!!! This is an extremely important article

that will really affect your life.

Years ago when my kids were younger, and they didn't want to go to

school or help clean house, I started this thing of saying " I GET to clean

house! " Or " I GET to go to school " Or whatever the complaint was!! Even

though it sounds terribly silly, it was amazing how a change in the choice of

verb made all the difference in the world. Instead of " I HAVE to .... " change

it to " I GET to ... " Try it -- You never know until you give it a try! Love

& HUgs, PJ

atime2heal@... wrote:

The 5 Words That Are Ruining Your Life

by Sopan Greene, M.A.

http://www.InspiredEnoughToChange.com

How would you like to stop feeling like your life isn't

good enough? (I realize advertisers would go broke if

this happened, but it's better for you!) Imagine

feeling joyful, whole and complete when you look in

the mirror at the end of the day.

What if I showed you how you're consciously creating

circumstances and beliefs everyday that give you

results you aren't happy with? Would you like to

change it?

It's much simpler than you think. It all begins with

the words you choose to use. By changing what you do

and don't say, you'll start to create a much brighter

future and more peaceful present right now. I'm going

to reveal the 5 words to you that are bringing the

most stress and frustration into your life. Over time

using these words ruins your life by creating a ton

of unnecessary mental suffering.

The 5 words I invite you to eliminate from your

vocabulary right now are: want, need, can't,

should and good enough (okay, these are two words

but they're together so lets pretend they're one word

for counting's sake. Thanks.).

If you just stopped using the word 'want' you would

transform your life beyond belief. Do it for just

one day. You're going to be amazed at how many

times an hour you (and everyone else) says

" I want.... "

When you say " I want... " you instantly create a

feeling of lack within yourself. In reality you

aren't lacking anything, but when you want something

you subconsciously believe that you have a hole that

can only be filled by getting what you want. This

is the source of a lot of addictions that cause

people to consume too much food, sex, drugs, alcohol,

entertainment or whatever their personality has a

hankerin' for.

" Need " is an extreme version of 'want.' You don't

need anything beyond food, water, shelter, clothing

and love. Everything else is icing on the cake.

Along these lines it's helpful to remember that more

than half of the worlds' population goes to bed hungry

every night. So if you think you need a $3,000 HDTV,

realize that you would like it but you don't 'need' it.

'Can't' is a limiting belief based on past experience.

We all know the past doesn't determine how we create

the present or the future, but a lot of us live like

it's true. I invite you to re-examine what you think

you can't do.

I grew up being told that I couldn't do mechanical

things because my brother was labeled as the

" mechanical one " and I was labeled as the " studious "

one. In my twenties I finally challenged that belief

because I had to in order to take care of myself.

Guess what? When I challenged that theory I

discovered I could do a lot of things I never tried

because I was always told I wouldn't be able to do them.

Remember that you can be or do anything you commit to

being or doing. Some things will come more naturally

to yoiu than others, but you have the power to always

be and do your best.

You've probably heard the phrase " Stop shoulding all

over yourself. " 'Should' is a word we use to exert

power over ourselves and others through guilt.

The funny thing is that we tell ourselves what we

'should' do even more than we do it to other people.

If you catch yourself before you 'should' on yourself

you'll see that the 'should' that feels so important

is just another belief that you can choose to change.

Our minds can be our worst enemies. Our minds are

constantly making up stuff about whats good/bad,

right/wrong, important/irrelevant, etc. We are run

by these beliefs, many of which are arbitrary and

constantly changing.

Think about an issue that tends to worry you over

and over. Why is this worry imprisoning you by

creating a ton of stress when a lot of other people

aren't even aware of it?

We all pick different issues and beat ourselves up

about getting these issues done, getting them right,

takig care of them etc. They only feel important to

us because our minds made up that they're important

issues. At the same time we're totally unaware of

other issues that other people are constantly

worrying about. It's silly and it also causes

heart attacks.

The most problematic two words ever put together are

'good enough.' What exactly is good enough?

Nothing is. Is doesn't exist. It's a subjective

choice that's like a carrot on a stick that is

impossible to achieve. It moves farther away with

every new accomplishment.

'Good enough' is an American complex. It may exist

in other countries (though the Spanish language

doesn't even have words to describe it), but in

America it's in the air we breathe.

Most Americans feel like they're 'not good enough.'

But if you ask them (or yourself), " What would be

good enough? " they're dumbfounded. They don't have

an answer as to what signifies achieving 'good enough.'

All they know is that they can find millions of other

people who appear (key word) to have things they don't

have. They think that if they had all these things,

maybe they would be good enough ...until they see

something else they don't have that they think they

want, need, can't get or should have.

I invite you to choose one of these words a day

to stop using. Catch yourself before the word leaves

your lips. If the word gets out simply correct yourself

with a powerful positive statement.

If you're about to say, " I want to go to the movies, "

then instead simply say " I would like to go to the

movies. " or " I choose to go to the movies. " Now you're

using words that create possibility and express

responsibility. Doesn't it feel better when you speak

like this? Yes, it does. It's because your speaking

from a place of power.

It's your life. Choose to create it with words that

reflect the responsible, powerful masterful spirit

that you are.