You Are The Most Important Person In Your Life

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You Are The Most Important Person

In Your Life

by

Russ Stiffler

You are the most important person in your life. As the story of your life

unfolds, you are the screenwriter, as well as the producer and director.

You have complete control over the movie of your life.

How the story of your life turns out is dependent largely on how you feel

about yourself. If you feel like Mr. or Mrs. Studley, you write the

script of your life as an adventure. You invent obstacles that become

challenges that are fun to overcome.

As the victor, you get the spoils. You're the hero and as the movie fades

out to " The End " you've gotten the girl/guy, the glory and the money. It

all seems so easy when you are wearing the white hat.

If, however, you think of yourself as the wimp, you write your story as a

tragedy. The obstacles beat you down. Everything goes wrong, no matter

how hard you try. Even a major triumph like winning the lottery goes bad

as you lose all the money and end up deeper in debt.

The story fades into a black empty screen, just like your life's story.

Nothingness. Everyone walks out of the theater sadly shaking their heads,

thinking what a shame. What a tragedy and what a waste of a life.

The only real difference in these two stories is the point of view of the

author. Fun adventure or dreaded tragedy. When you really get down to it,

that is what determines most results in life. The point of view of the

author.

As the author of your life, your point of view of yourself will write

your life's story. All the things that you tell yourself you are end up

being true. All the stories you use to describe yourself end up being

true. All the ways you talk about yourself end up being true.

All these things together determine your level of self-esteem. The more

positive your self-esteem, the more comfortable you are with yourself.

The more comfortable you are with yourself, the more likely you are to

write your life as an adventure to be lived on your terms.

If you noticed at the beginning of this article I said that as writer,

producer and director you have complete control over your life's story.

In writing fiction that is true, but in real life that is not entirely

true.

You have little control over many situations that confront you. You

didn't consciously pick your parents, for instance. You didn't ask for

the teacher you had a personality conflict with. And you certainly did

not hope you would get cancer.

However, how you feel about yourself determines how you react to and view

whatever outside forces you confront. Your self-esteem is largely up to

you. Your self-esteem is developed mostly from your thoughts and you have

control of your thoughts. At least how you react to them.

If you would like to take more control over your life and build a

stronger self-esteem, start by taking control of how you talk about

yourself. Start directing your life from a positive point of view. Catch

yourself doing positive things, and pat yourself on the back. Direct your

life as an adventure.

Copyright © 2003 Russ Stiffler