Guest guest Posted January 12, 2004 Report Share Posted January 12, 2004 > This is a little OT but today I had my neighbor call me to take her to the > hospital because she was " backed " up and couldn't stand it anymore. I understand that it can be quite painful, but I'm wondering if she tried anything at home. I know when I worked in the nursing home they would make something the called " power pudding " it had Prune Juice, Milk of Mag and something else in it. I also know that heated Prune Juice works *wonders* much better then just plain old prune juice. I don't know what makes the difference, but it does! She was afraid to drive herself. Of > course, she couldn't go to the local hospital near us but had to go to the > one in the city. Again... why? Insurance reasons, or just preferance? >I suggested she call 911 and they would take her. Two minutes > later she got in her car and drove herself. I guess she was able to drive afterall >She lives with her daughter, a > very selfish daughter, who goes out or away and leaves her Mom alone and I > wouldn't be surprised if she tells her to call me but in any event, she > should give her an emergency number to reach someone. If this woman is that bad (and trust me I've seen em) I don't blame her for wanting to get away for a while to get away from her! I ended up having my MIL (mother in law) living with us for several months until she passed away from cancer. She got so bad it was horrible! She even told us at one point to get rid of our now 7.5 yr old daughter because she couldn't stand living with her any more. At this point she was only 5 yrs old. I told my husband *IF* anyone was going it would be MIL and he agreed! We were really having a hard time with her living here, she was a bitter old woman. She has family in the > area, so why doesn't she call them. She is a sour old lady and has no > friends. Am I supposed to feel guilty over this. NOT AT ALL!!!!! You couldn't even if you wanted to and *that* is *that*! DO not feel guilty at all! >I do feel bad but I don't > feel this is my problem since I am not in the best shape either. > Thanks for letting me vent. I don't know how bad I would feel.... I mean if this woman can't take the time to call her family or spend the money on a taxi I wouldn't worry about it at all. Who says you have to do things for her just because she lives next door? I've had neighbors in the past that I couldn't stand and I would never lift a finger to help them. They were not nice people at all, thank goodness they moved out after a few years and I didn't have to put up with them any more. Now I only have one neighbor and they live 1/2 mile away so I dont' have to deal with them too much a Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2004 Report Share Posted January 12, 2004 a, you've made me feel so much better with your answers. I saw her come home and she looked just fine to me. She's the type that if she can get you to do for her, then she doesn't have to cope. She drove herself and is none the worse for wear. I have learned to ignore her but she keeps after me for everything. She even thinks I am the " maintenance " for the apartment building. I'd get an unlisted phone but she would just knock on my door. As I said her daughter leaves her alone all the time. She goes away constantly. She has Monday's off, so on Sunday afternoon about 2pm she leaves and returns Monday night on every weekend. She doesn't even eat at home - just sleeps during the week. They must not get along at all and I can see why but she's not my responsibility. Marie Re: OT Marie > This is a little OT but today I had my neighbor call me to take her to the > hospital because she was " backed " up and couldn't stand it anymore. I understand that it can be quite painful, but I'm wondering if she tried anything at home. I know when I worked in the nursing home they would make something the called " power pudding " it had Prune Juice, Milk of Mag and something else in it. I also know that heated Prune Juice works *wonders* much better then just plain old prune juice. I don't know what makes the difference, but it does! She was afraid to drive herself. Of > course, she couldn't go to the local hospital near us but had to go to the > one in the city. Again... why? Insurance reasons, or just preferance? >I suggested she call 911 and they would take her. Two minutes > later she got in her car and drove herself. I guess she was able to drive afterall >She lives with her daughter, a > very selfish daughter, who goes out or away and leaves her Mom alone and I > wouldn't be surprised if she tells her to call me but in any event, she > should give her an emergency number to reach someone. If this woman is that bad (and trust me I've seen em) I don't blame her for wanting to get away for a while to get away from her! I ended up having my MIL (mother in law) living with us for several months until she passed away from cancer. She got so bad it was horrible! She even told us at one point to get rid of our now 7.5 yr old daughter because she couldn't stand living with her any more. At this point she was only 5 yrs old. I told my husband *IF* anyone was going it would be MIL and he agreed! We were really having a hard time with her living here, she was a bitter old woman. She has family in the > area, so why doesn't she call them. She is a sour old lady and has no > friends. Am I supposed to feel guilty over this. NOT AT ALL!!!!! You couldn't even if you wanted to and *that* is *that*! DO not feel guilty at all! >I do feel bad but I don't > feel this is my problem since I am not in the best shape either. > Thanks for letting me vent. I don't know how bad I would feel.... I mean if this woman can't take the time to call her family or spend the money on a taxi I wouldn't worry about it at all. Who says you have to do things for her just because she lives next door? I've had neighbors in the past that I couldn't stand and I would never lift a finger to help them. They were not nice people at all, thank goodness they moved out after a few years and I didn't have to put up with them any more. Now I only have one neighbor and they live 1/2 mile away so I dont' have to deal with them too much a To unsubscribe DO NOT send a message to the list.Please click on this link and unsubscribe: 100-plus/join Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2004 Report Share Posted January 14, 2004 > a, you've made me feel so much better with your answers. I saw her come > home and she looked just fine to me. Marie, Glad I could help! I'm sure she was, probablly just uncomfortable and wanting some attention. She > even thinks I am the " maintenance " for the apartment building. I'd get an > unlisted phone but she would just knock on my door. Maybe next time she gives you a call for a " maintenance " related problem just joke with her " must be that alzheimer's is getting worse, you keep thinking I'm the maintenance person, LOL..you need to call.... " Unless she really does have alzheimer's. My sort of grandmother had alzheimer's the last 10-15 years of her life and it is a dreadful disease. > They must not get along at all and I can see why but she's not my > responsibility. Yep! And keep telling yourself that as well! Maybe you could contact the daughter and let her know that her mother is contacting you while she is away and that *maybe* you could get a number to reach her (WITH OUT telling the daughter) so if there is a real emergency she can be reached. I would guess that the mother *actually* has a number, but just doesn't want to bother the daughter. Anyhow.. hope you had a great day! I see your swelling is down some and you see the Dr tomorrow, so best of luck! a Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2004 Report Share Posted January 14, 2004 You're right about the attention. She craves it. She and her daughter are an odd couple. Very strange relationship for a mother and daughter. I might try the Alzheimer's bit with her and see if she gets it. Probably not. My legs are doing well. I called the doctor today with my 6-1/2 pound loss and normal blood pressure only to find he's out of town (skiing????). I'm back to 40 mg of lasix now and hoping for the best. I'll need lots of support because I blew the diet today. Back on it tonight - won't wait for tomorrow. Talk later. Marie Re: OT Marie > a, you've made me feel so much better with your answers. I saw her come > home and she looked just fine to me. Marie, Glad I could help! I'm sure she was, probablly just uncomfortable and wanting some attention. She > even thinks I am the " maintenance " for the apartment building. I'd get an > unlisted phone but she would just knock on my door. Maybe next time she gives you a call for a " maintenance " related problem just joke with her " must be that alzheimer's is getting worse, you keep thinking I'm the maintenance person, LOL..you need to call.... " Unless she really does have alzheimer's. My sort of grandmother had alzheimer's the last 10-15 years of her life and it is a dreadful disease. > They must not get along at all and I can see why but she's not my > responsibility. Yep! And keep telling yourself that as well! Maybe you could contact the daughter and let her know that her mother is contacting you while she is away and that *maybe* you could get a number to reach her (WITH OUT telling the daughter) so if there is a real emergency she can be reached. I would guess that the mother *actually* has a number, but just doesn't want to bother the daughter. Anyhow.. hope you had a great day! I see your swelling is down some and you see the Dr tomorrow, so best of luck! a To unsubscribe DO NOT send a message to the list.Please click on this link and unsubscribe: 100-plus/join Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2004 Report Share Posted January 14, 2004 >I called the doctor today with my 6-1/2 pound loss > and normal blood pressure only to find he's out of town (skiing????). Don't you love it when docs make plans and even appointments then don't show up. Just yesterday my dad's oncologist's office called to tell him the appointment he made 2 months ago was cancelled because he's out with his horses doing some stuff. No big deal - this was an interim appointment just to see how my dad's doing with this round of chemo and to tell him when to get his next PET scan, but he and my step-mom planned the whole day around it. I'm > back to 40 mg of lasix now and hoping for the best. Keep the faith, baby! I'll need lots of > support because I blew the diet today. Back on it tonight - won't wait for > tomorrow. Fantastic attitude! Sue in NJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2004 Report Share Posted January 15, 2004 Marie - I love that you're starting right back and not waiting for tomorrow WTG! Fall seven times, stand up eight.- Japanese proverb Re: OT Marie> a, you've made me feel so much better with your answers. I sawher come> home and she looked just fine to me.Marie,Glad I could help! I'm sure she was, probablly just uncomfortableand wanting some attention.She> even thinks I am the "maintenance" for the apartment building. I'dget an> unlisted phone but she would just knock on my door.Maybe next time she gives you a call for a "maintenance" relatedproblem just joke with her "must be that alzheimer's is gettingworse, you keep thinking I'm the maintenance person, LOL..you need tocall...." Unless she really does have alzheimer's. My sort ofgrandmother had alzheimer's the last 10-15 years of her life and itis a dreadful disease.> They must not get along at all and I can see why but she's not my> responsibility.Yep! And keep telling yourself that as well! Maybe you couldcontact the daughter and let her know that her mother is contactingyou while she is away and that *maybe* you could get a number toreach her (WITH OUT telling the daughter) so if there is a realemergency she can be reached. I would guess that the mother*actually* has a number, but just doesn't want to bother the daughter.Anyhow.. hope you had a great day! I see your swelling is down someand you see the Dr tomorrow, so best of luck!aTo unsubscribe DO NOT send a message to the list.Please click on this linkand unsubscribe:100-plus/join Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 26, 2005 Report Share Posted October 26, 2005 Footprints Author Unknown One night a man had a dream. He dreamed he was walking along the beach with the Lord. Across the sky flashed scenes from his life. For each scene, he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand: one belonging to him, and the other to the Lord. When the last scene of his life flashed before him, he looked back at the footprints in the sand. He noticed that many times along the path of his life there was only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times in his life. This really bothered him and he questioned the Lord about it. " Lord, You said that once I decided to follow you, You'd walk with me all the way. But I have noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life, there is only one set of footprints. I don't understand why when I needed you most you would leave me. " The Lord replied, " My son, My precious child, I love you and I would never leave you. During your times of trial and suffering, when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I d You. " anne marie, sometimes its very hard to walk, to move one foot in front of the other, but remember now matter how hard it is to take each step, we never walk alone. --------------------------------- FareChase - Search multiple travel sites in one click. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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