Re: Notes to friends/Sharon

[Guest guest]

So I am considering letting the good doc carve

> on me again.

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Uhhhhh, me thinks you need to explain.

?????

Jo

[Guest guest]

Sharon, I know you have goals for your outward image, but please remind

yourself of how far you have come. There was a time when I am sure you never

thought you would ever be this small. Plus, you are now able to move those

rocks.

Bet you couldn't do that before. I know I couldn't have. Because we stretched

that skin out so far, it can only come back so much. Don't beat up on yourself.

Be thankful that you have a better life. I sometimes get upset with myself

because I am not losing as fast as others, but then I look at the pictures of

what I looked like and remember how I felt only a few months ago. I may be only

losing a few pounds, but being off oxygen, CPAP and a gajillion meds makes me

feel better.

I am almost 66 and for the first time in my life I am going to a tanning bed.

I WILL have tanned legs this summer. So what if the upper portion is cottage

cheese with large curds, I will just wear longer legged shorts, but I will

have tanned legs. I have a long way to go, but I have time. So do you.

Pearl

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>

> So I am considering letting the good doc carve

> > on me again.

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>

> Uhhhhh, me thinks you need to explain.

>

> ?????

> Jo

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If I get up enough courage....lol.....Dr K wants to correct the

problem on the outside of my left leg. Then he wants to remove the

excess skin from the insides of both legs. This being done with

extensive lipo from the back of my legs above the knee first, then

making darts from my inside knees to just below my groin. He doesnt

feel that I will " feel finished " until this is done. He is right,

but after the last one it is going to take some heavy duty praying

and saving up my allowances! Dr K did say that this could be done

out patient and save some bucks that way. So maybe next Jan.

The skin wont go away- I know that - and the fat is like concrete

there. I just keep losing from above my waist and I cant afford to

lose any more there! I am building muscle, by walking these thousand

hills, but alas, not losing weight, or getting smaller.

I have come to realize that I will never weigh the 157 I dreamed of

in the beginning. And I will never be a size 8/10, but maybe just

maybe, getting rid of this skin, I will be a size 12 pant which would

be my goal for there. My top is a med/lge, and I wear 12's in

dresses. But the bottom is still a 14/16.

I havent had the nerve to talk to Mike about it- I guess I am afraid

he will say Go for it! And then I would have to....dont want him

thinking I am a sissy or something- you know!

Well there it is- are you sorry you asked? lol

love you

Sharon in Onyx

who is sore from moving rocks last weekend. My grand opening is in 3

days and I have to work 2 of them! AAAhhhhh!

[Guest guest]

Sharon,

I think you have been patient and waited to see if your body would

change more on its own. There is a line that each of us must draw.

What is too little " work " and what is too much? It is individual

for each of us.

Even I am considering lipo due to the fact that my pants, every pair

of them, cut into my vulva area in an uncomfortable, sometimes even

painful way. I believe it is due to my left saddlebag being larger

than my right, pulling my pants off-center.

I am afraid of more work simply because I am not convinced that I

would be " better " , just different. Trade loose arm skin for scars

and contractures, for example.

We support you no matter what you beautiful girl, you!

Marta

> If I get up enough courage....lol.....snip snip He doesnt

> feel that I will " feel finished " until this is done.

[Guest guest]

> Well there it is- are you sorry you asked? lol

> love you

> Sharon in Onyx

> who is sore from moving rocks last weekend. My grand opening is in

3

> days and I have to work 2 of them! AAAhhhhh!

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Me??? Sorry I asked??? lol...NO WAY!

It will be a big decision for you...but for now it's a back burner

decision. Gotta get those boys married and your grand opening done!

What a busy year your having.

Hugs

Jo

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Okay, time to throw my two cents in:

I had my batwings removed and though my right arm looks good, the left has a

scar that keloided (sp?). I still wear sleeveless tops and dresses. I don't

care. I love that I no longer have a huge skin thing hanging off my arms

that make sleeves pinch or not fit right and scare small children when they flap

in the breeze.

I plan to get the mons and legs done within the next year or so. My waist

and tummy are smaller than the hips, butt and thighs. It is hard to find pants

that fit over what they need to without leaving a big gaping area at the waist

and in the front. And I certainly don't like looking like I've got a

" package " , so I have to be careful about how tight the pants fit, too.

Sometimes

they pinch or get caught in the inner thigh area. I want it gone. I know that I

will have scars, but will proudly wear shorts that don't come down to the

knee!

Go for it Sharon!

in WA

[Guest guest]

> Sharon, I know you have goals for your outward image, but please

remind yourself of how far you have come. There was a time when I am

sure you never thought you would ever be this small. Plus, you are

now able to move those rocks.

> Pearl

Pearl

Thank you for the kind words. I would have moved those rocks before

because no matter how big I got I had to prove to everyone else that

I could still do what they did- no matter what the payment was

afterward.

I dont have to prove anything now. I have always said that we have

to remember how far we have come, not how far we have to go. I just

need to practice what I preach...lol I am working on that. And I

didnt mean for my post to sound whiney - or whinging , like my aussie

friend says.... Just facts, with acceptance and a feeling that this

is okay. This is me. this isnt what I had planned, but it is okay.

Now I can take more action...if I choose to.

Thanks again Pearl. You are right, you do have more time. Huge

congrats on the tanning.. feels goood! huh?

Sharon in Onyx

[Guest guest]

> Sharon,

>

> I think you have been patient and waited to see if your body would

> change more on its own. There is a line that each of us must

draw. What is too little " work " and what is too much? It is

individual for each of us.

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True.

>

> Even I am considering lipo due to the fact that my pants, every

pair of them, cut into my vulva area in an uncomfortable, sometimes

even painful way. I believe it is due to my left saddlebag being

larger than my right, pulling my pants off-center.

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I believe you are right on this one, because my legs are seriously

out of kilter and my pants pull really tight across my left side and

cut into my inner leg area and it is painful.

> I am afraid of more work simply because I am not convinced that I

> would be " better " , just different. Trade loose arm skin for scars

> and contractures, for example.

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It is a matter of trade offs, and what is it worth to you. I know

some who would gladly trade the scar for no batwings, and some who

wouldnt. My legs are hideous as they are, and a scar doesnt scare me.

But the freedom of movement, no more rashes, pants that dont cut off

circulation, or twist around because they are to loose on one side

and to tight on the other,,,,,well surgery is looking better and

better....a good trade off....

>

> We support you no matter what you beautiful girl, you!

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thanks Marta, for the vote of support and the understanding. We all

need to do what is best for us. And then we have each other to cheer

or cry with. What a group!!!!

love you

Sharon in Onyx

[Guest guest]

> Me??? Sorry I asked??? lol...NO WAY!

>

> It will be a big decision for you...but for now it's a back burner

> decision. Gotta get those boys married and your grand opening

done!

> What a busy year your having.

>

> Hugs

> Jo

Yep, yep, yep!

Back burner stuff and a whole year to contemplate. I will be 4 years

out then and the rest will be a faint memory....lol

Grand opening, Boys married, Hawaii then Christmas then I will see Dr

K.

Whew, I am tired already! NOT! gotta go get busy!

love you, my friend,

Sharon in Onyx

[Guest guest]

> I plan to get the mons and legs done within the next year or so. My

waist and tummy are smaller than the hips, butt and thighs. It is

hard to find pants that fit over what they need to without leaving a

big gaping area at the waist and in the front. And I certainly don't

like looking like I've got a " package " , so I have to be careful

about how tight the pants fit, too. Sometimes they pinch or get

caught in the inner thigh area. I want it gone. I know that I will

have scars, but will proudly wear shorts that don't come down to

the knee!

> Go for it Sharon!

>

> in WA

Hi !

We definately are in the same boat....I have found that Gloria

Vanderbilt stretch jeans fit the waist and will go over the hips.

But they do pinch the inner thighs sometimes- but that is the hanging

skin. I do wear the jeans tighter than I would like, but it keeps

the loose skin, etc from jiggling and swinging when I walk. I will

definately have myself talked into it by next Jan.

And like you , I say scars be damned....who cares about scars when

you have had the skin issues we have...

love you and cant wait to see you this summer

Sharon in Onyx