Re: Help !!! clothing issues

[Guest guest]

My son went through a stage like this as well.  What helped me was very soft

organic cotton.  It did not seem to bother him like the other fabric did.  We

shopped alot through Hanna Andersson catalog during that time.  It was

expensive but worth it.

in TN

Subject: Help !!! clothing issues

To:

Date: Wednesday, March 24, 2010, 7:18 PM

 

Hi all

My daughter is 5 and has ocd, she also has spd. however we have been seeing an

OT for the sensory stuff for a while but just recently she has had a fit at the

appt and can not finish it. the OT finally said it was a waste of time and

money.

The biggest problem we are having right now is getting dressed in the morning.

It is HELL. She simply wants NO clothes on. She has always been sensitive and

particular but has always had a few clothes she likes. Now it seems NOTHING is

comfortable. She sleeps naked. So in the morning when I finally ask her to get

dressed she might put her undies and is ok, but she puts pants on next and flips

out in a rage. She will scream at me that she wants me to help but when i show

her all her other pants she screams that they are stupid and won't work. This

goes on for a long time. My only way of dealing is that i actually get in the

car and tell her I am leaving and will wait for her in the car. This eventually

works, but it is hell. This has been the last 4 weeks. I can not tell what has

changed.

I just took her to target to buy some clothes, she had a fit in the store.

Finally i got her to try on some shirts and she picked 3, once she ws done she

asked how many and i said 3 and she said i need FOUR. I have NO idea if she will

ever wear these but I had to try.

any tips/advice ??

josephine

[Guest guest]

http://www.hannaandersson.com/style.asp?from=SC|1|2|24|26|3|| & simg=35611_D35

something like this would have worked well for him.  they also have very soft

organic underwear that he liked.  good luck!

Subject: Help !!! clothing issues

To:

Date: Wednesday, March 24, 2010, 7:18 PM

 

Hi all

My daughter is 5 and has ocd, she also has spd. however we have been seeing an

OT for the sensory stuff for a while but just recently she has had a fit at the

appt and can not finish it. the OT finally said it was a waste of time and

money.

The biggest problem we are having right now is getting dressed in the morning.

It is HELL. She simply wants NO clothes on. She has always been sensitive and

particular but has always had a few clothes she likes. Now it seems NOTHING is

comfortable. She sleeps naked. So in the morning when I finally ask her to get

dressed she might put her undies and is ok, but she puts pants on next and flips

out in a rage. She will scream at me that she wants me to help but when i show

her all her other pants she screams that they are stupid and won't work. This

goes on for a long time. My only way of dealing is that i actually get in the

car and tell her I am leaving and will wait for her in the car. This eventually

works, but it is hell. This has been the last 4 weeks. I can not tell what has

changed.

I just took her to target to buy some clothes, she had a fit in the store.

Finally i got her to try on some shirts and she picked 3, once she ws done she

asked how many and i said 3 and she said i need FOUR. I have NO idea if she will

ever wear these but I had to try.

any tips/advice ??

josephine

[Guest guest]

Hi, phine. Welcome to the group.

Our son wasn't quite as sensitive as you described your daughter, but he used to

get pretty worked up at times.

We found tagless underwear, soft brushed cotton shirts that were also tagless,

and worked hard to find socks that had a very small seam so they didn't

interfere with his toes when his shoes were on. Our son lived in sweats too. .

Could NOT tolerate anything bunching at his waist. We did all we could to try

to minimize his reaction to the uncomfortable feelings.

I'm surprised the OT said it was a waste of time and money. That's a bit

shocking. She's only 5, and I'm sure she is very bothered by it, so obviously

needs the treatment. Our son also broke down in frustration while trying to

cope with sensitivity issues. We didn't know what to do about it (neither did

the docs we were dealing with at the time), so we coped the best we could. Can

you try a different OT who hopefully will have a more understanding and

optimistic attitude?

Do you think some sort of reward system might work with her? At least help her

to try. Some kids can be very motivated by rewards, especially when they are

young. Just a thought.

BJ

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> Hi all

>

> My daughter is 5 and has ocd, she also has spd. however we have been seeing an

OT for the sensory stuff for a while but just recently she has had a fit at the

appt and can not finish it. the OT finally said it was a waste of time and

money.

>

> The biggest problem we are having right now is getting dressed in the morning.

It is HELL. She simply wants NO clothes on. She has always been sensitive and

particular but has always had a few clothes she likes. Now it seems NOTHING is

comfortable. She sleeps naked. So in the morning when I finally ask her to get

dressed she might put her undies and is ok, but she puts pants on next and flips

out in a rage. She will scream at me that she wants me to help but when i show

her all her other pants she screams that they are stupid and won't work. This

goes on for a long time. My only way of dealing is that i actually get in the

car and tell her I am leaving and will wait for her in the car. This eventually

works, but it is hell. This has been the last 4 weeks. I can not tell what has

changed.

>

> I just took her to target to buy some clothes, she had a fit in the store.

Finally i got her to try on some shirts and she picked 3, once she ws done she

asked how many and i said 3 and she said i need FOUR. I have NO idea if she will

ever wear these but I had to try.

>

> any tips/advice ??

> josephine

>

[Guest guest]

Hi phine,

We have had similar experiences with my daughter now 7. When she was in

pre-school, she would only where one or two pairs of pants and one or two shirts

(even though we had several of each to choose from).

I'm going to try to make you laugh, because it helps sometimes. My husband and I

both work. He typically gets the kids to school in the a.m. and I pick them up.

Because he was always desparate to get out the house in the morning, he would

often give in to her demands for getting the dirty clothes that she liked to

wear out of the laundry. One day when I picked my daughter up from pre-school

the teacher handed me a plastic bag with my daughter's wet pants in it. When we

got home, I took them out of the bag and threw them on the floor in the basement

next to the washing machine. (You can see it coming, can't you...). The next

morning, I told my husband not to give in...(I must not have told him why). So

when we were driving home from school I could smell urine. I asked if she had an

accident again. " No, Mommy, I didn't. " When we were home on the floor doing a

puzzle together, I could really smell it again. I asked " are you sure you didn't

have an accident? " " No Mommy, I promise, I didn't. " Then, I finally noticed what

she was wearing....Yup, the pants she peed in the day before.

Getting back to ideas for you: Similar to some of the other responses, soft

cotten clothing seemed to work best. When we finally caught on to this, we

bought two or three of the same color/style clothes. This helped us manage a

little bit. We would get her stuff from Rugged Bear (they are a chain, so maybe

there is one in your area). RB is also relatively expensive, but they have great

sales on a pretty regular basis.

(Life is a little different now since her OCD/germ contamination erupted in

December. Now the style color doesn't matter as much, it just can't be

contaminated. If you want a visual and another chuckle, see my posts from last

week).

Good luck. I know how frustrating it is.

Kara

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> Hi all

>

> My daughter is 5 and has ocd, she also has spd. however we have been seeing an

OT for the sensory stuff for a while but just recently she has had a fit at the

appt and can not finish it. the OT finally said it was a waste of time and

money.

>

> The biggest problem we are having right now is getting dressed in the morning.

It is HELL. She simply wants NO clothes on. She has always been sensitive and

particular but has always had a few clothes she likes. Now it seems NOTHING is

comfortable. She sleeps naked. So in the morning when I finally ask her to get

dressed she might put her undies and is ok, but she puts pants on next and flips

out in a rage. She will scream at me that she wants me to help but when i show

her all her other pants she screams that they are stupid and won't work. This

goes on for a long time. My only way of dealing is that i actually get in the

car and tell her I am leaving and will wait for her in the car. This eventually

works, but it is hell. This has been the last 4 weeks. I can not tell what has

changed.

>

> I just took her to target to buy some clothes, she had a fit in the store.

Finally i got her to try on some shirts and she picked 3, once she ws done she

asked how many and i said 3 and she said i need FOUR. I have NO idea if she will

ever wear these but I had to try.

>

> any tips/advice ??

> josephine

>

[Guest guest]

Our CBT therapist from USF ped OCD group ( done over scype) said to treat

cloting sensativity just like an exposure. Do graded exposures trying on and

wearing " bad cloths " but not as a real part of the day but as an exposure- Ie 2

min then 3 min then 5 min etc until it does nt bother them to do that. Continue

on with the few things that do work to get on with your day but do intense

exposures several times daily around the bad stuff. If you are working with a

CBT/ERP specialist, you might want to set up an exposure thing around

clothing.Complete with rewards etc for doing the exposures.

Re finding stuff that works- I agree, for my OCD kid it was soft stuff.

I have a nearly naked non OCDer who is 7 now and is naked all the time at home,

and never wears socks or underware, and up until the age of 5 did not wear long

pants or a coat EVER ( we live in VT where it is often below zero in the

winter). I just let him go around in shorts and a t shirt all winter long. At

about 5 he started wearing long pants and a coat but still no socks and

underware- his teacher sends home notes all the time to get him to wear socks,

but it is not a battle I am willing to have.

[Guest guest]

Ewwwwwwwwww. . .lolol

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> > Hi all

> >

> > My daughter is 5 and has ocd, she also has spd. however we have been seeing

an OT for the sensory stuff for a while but just recently she has had a fit at

the appt and can not finish it. the OT finally said it was a waste of time and

money.

> >

> > The biggest problem we are having right now is getting dressed in the

morning. It is HELL. She simply wants NO clothes on. She has always been

sensitive and particular but has always had a few clothes she likes. Now it

seems NOTHING is comfortable. She sleeps naked. So in the morning when I finally

ask her to get dressed she might put her undies and is ok, but she puts pants on

next and flips out in a rage. She will scream at me that she wants me to help

but when i show her all her other pants she screams that they are stupid and

won't work. This goes on for a long time. My only way of dealing is that i

actually get in the car and tell her I am leaving and will wait for her in the

car. This eventually works, but it is hell. This has been the last 4 weeks. I

can not tell what has changed.

> >

> > I just took her to target to buy some clothes, she had a fit in the store.

Finally i got her to try on some shirts and she picked 3, once she ws done she

asked how many and i said 3 and she said i need FOUR. I have NO idea if she will

ever wear these but I had to try.

> >

> > any tips/advice ??

> > josephine

> >

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