Guest guest Posted March 7, 2010 Report Share Posted March 7, 2010 Hi - I know I am responding to this late but I have been meaning to find the time to sit down and reply - somehow it seems we have the time for everything else but the things we WANT to do for ourselves!! I have an 8 year old son who was diagnosed with OCD at age 5. He has always been very inquisitive and has always asked questions about where babies come from, etc... Up until recently I gave answers that were accurate but left out the full explanation of sex. I am a firm believer in answering the questions that children ask - I always want my kids to know that they can come to me with anything and talk to me about ANYTHING. so when my son recently discussed things he heard on the bus about sex...I knew we were headed to the same conversation you just had with yours! I tired to just tell him not to listen to other kids and that sometimes kids like to pretend they know everything, but he should not believe those things. In my naive thinking I thought that would be enough - but not with my son! He responded by saying - so tell be the truth then - WHAT IS SEX? ugh!!!! I was trapped! His OCD would not have let him forget this thought - I knew he would have persisted - so I sat him down and discussed sex. I emphasized that sex is an act that occurs between a MARRIED couple who love each other (also that the purpose was to make a baby) He handled it well, was a little bothered by some of the details and I had to end the conversation when he began asking too many details such as where people have sex and if I could draw him a picture (ugh no!!!! I don't think so!!!). Anyway - at this point I am rambling - but the point I wanted to make is that YOU ARE NOT ALONE AND YOU DID NOT DO THE WRONG THING! Talking openly with your son will only lay the groundwork for a open and trusting relationship that will be so important for you guys in the future. My son has since has some trouble being focused on the thoughts (like when he saw a pregnant friend of mine and made the connection that she had sex!!!)and I was worried about everything I told him, but in the end I would rather him hear accurate information from me than believing the disrespectful and inaccurate things he was hearing on the bus. Hope this helps - I know reading your story helped me to know I was not the only one!!! Take Care - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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