Guest guest Posted June 13, 2006 Report Share Posted June 13, 2006 Sondra, thanks for your post. I am so saddened that you and the others have had such terrible trauma in your lives. And I know I need to be vigilant to protect my daughter. She is so vulnerable. I hope you feel safe on this list. Melinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2006 Report Share Posted June 13, 2006 I to be to share that not all offenders are males, some are of females too. but in my case it was of the mothers father who not only be to molested 3 of hims 4 daughers but 17 of hims 21 grand daughers foster gilrs and neighbor girls and no one did anything about it even though it was an known issues among the family for year but none protected the next generations. i to found though that I was to be the only one acutally raped repeatedly because lacked ability to tell and not had words , was believed to be metnally ill so no one was to belive of me anyways. when finally was able to tell around the ate of 13 or so the mother to telled me that is just want old me do..... it caused me toe be fearful of all old men because it got imprinted as true fact of knowing for me. One can try to protect but often preditors are smarter and can play of the tricks to not ever be of suspect in the families at all this is why so many children fall prey to the sexual preditors and thos with disabilities are more at risk over all. this july will be speaking on a panel and my topic is sexuality and gender that leads to vulnerability.. it is the first time i to be to speak on this topic in a public view. How to protect i to lack but I to also know there can be signs one has to be of cautions too, they can be similar to typical girls in the reaction but more pervasively and odd such as like for me suddenly refusing to get out of the car when arriving at the offenders home. more pacing and more anxiety when they hear or see or smell the offender near the evirnoment. more constant checking to see where the offender is in relation to them in the setting./ sudden seeming to be paranoid of the person. acting out behaivors to get removed from the setting. wetting self even though past been of toileted, odd words of things that are being echoed but not understood in contexts but seems out of place and odd. Such as me the echoed word do not be to speak or god will kill of the grandma, was an echoed phrase but they felt it was because thier beleif that I was to be mentally ill and saying fearful words out of mental illness not understood as echoed words. Not understaning a sudden change in actions such as use to be of calm and play but now agitated often within the setting. touching or holding self much more. Now this was not the case for self but some may lack a fear and if at a certain age my find the sexual pleasure of it all not understsning a social barrier and actually be drawn to seek out sexual things from the preditor such as the case of some i to know from sexual abuse issues. For me I to be to ahve a strong aversion to sexuality and such even now as adult. which is the hardest challegne within the marriage of me. Sondra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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