How do you deal with this?

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For a very long time every time I lost it w my daughter, after she pushed my

buttons until I couldnt take it anymore, she always broke down and turned it

around so that I was having to comfort her etc. I always felt like she was

purposely manipulating me to get out of being in " trouble " so it was hard to

comfort her but I did my best because she seemd so fragile in the moment.

It happened yesterday for the first time in about 4-5 months (She has been

better and I have been trying really hard not to lose it)Anyway same thing

happened but the breakthrough was that when I lose it it makes her feel

worthless and the thoughts that she'd better off dead or suicide overwhelm her.

Great,now I understand and honestly feel that she is not trying to maniupluate

her way out getting punished but...how in the world do you discipline or

criticize or express your child's negative behaviors in any way when when you do

it makes them feel so bad about themselves they think they would be better off

dead???

Thanks

Melinda