Re:Agressive behavior

[Guest guest]

My son got very agressive on SSRI;s esp at high doses. Went away whe n we

stopped the meds or lowered the dose. Also, prednisone can make you agressive

[Guest guest]

Hi Anita,

My daughter was also aggressive and we had to answer her

questions " just right'. In theory I know that answering was enabling

but I couldn't have the police to my house every week over wrinkling

an assignment. So, when I saw she had escalated beyond rationale, I

would give her the answer she wanted. And, yes, it brought great

(temporary) relief to her. Once she was calmed I would issue her

consequence which was a behavioral point reward system. She would

loose 10 pts. for " bossy " but gain 20 pts if she used her own coping

skill. I had to get over the fact that this appeared to others as my

being the problem. Of course she is going to be demanding if it gets

her what she wants. The reality was that it wasn't what she wanted

but no one, including me, understood how hard it was for her to fight

the " need " for an answer. In her mind, if I wasn't able to answer a

simple question correctly, how could I parent her? If I couldn't, I

would abandon her just like her birth mother did.

With the right medications (antidepressant, mood stabilizer and

anti psychotic) she is doing so much better. No aggression in 21 days

but yesterday, she lost it. It didn't last long and she quickly got

to the point of being calm enough to talk about it. Again, fear of my

leaving her was at the bottom of her anxiety issue. Her rigid, black

and white thinking is all fight and flight. She fights and fears my

flight.

It does get better.

Dorelle

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