Re: Consensual parenting, where toddlers and adolescents...

[Guest guest]

Sounds like the failed theories from the 1960's all over again. All this is going to do is create a bunch of spoiled brats who are quite probably physically dangerous as well. Sorry, a 3 year old might know its immediate needs, but it can't understand the larger picture of things. Most kids will also very quickly learn how to game this system in their favor. That's what throwing tantrums is all about now, but under a system like this, they will know that it will work and will do it more often.

In a message dated 5/10/2009 12:49:19 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, no_reply writes:

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[Guest guest]

" Sounds like the failed theories from the 1960's all over again. All this is

going to do is create a bunch of spoiled brats who are quite probably physically

dangerous as well. Sorry, a 3 year old might know its immediate needs, but it

can't understand the larger picture of things. Most kids will also very quickly

learn how to game this system in their favor. That's what throwing tantrums is

all about now, but under a system like this, they will know that it will work

and will do it more often. "

It's also a system where morals are jettisoned. Whereas before mommy and daddy

could say: " You can't do that, it isn't right " , now the whole family has to make

concessions, otherwise, this method of parenting is a sham, because the kids

will realize they have a say in things only SOMETIMES, not ALL THE TIME.

With regular parenting, kids have a say too...but they do not know they have a

say.

Further, with the type of parenting we grew up with, we intrinsically knew that

our parents were smarter than we were and had better judgement, and so we

defaulted to them when we were at our wits end about what to do.

In this day and age, kids can either pester their parents into submission, or

now, they exercise partial control of the entire familial situation at all times

apparently.

I am sure kids who grow up in this atmosphere will be " happy " , but they will

make poor students, poor scholars, and poor workers because they will be

expecting the real world to make concessions to them.

Well, we all know the real world is quite different. Fortunately, I will be very

old before these kids assume any sort of political power as adults, and so

hopefully I will not be affected by this foolish new parenting invention.

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[Guest guest]

agreed. A young child cannot possibly have enough experience of the world to make these decisions. In adolescence the issues start to blur with some 14 year olds for example, demonstrating great maturity. However I think decision making for minors should be an increasingly consultative process. Sometimes the adults in a child's life are not the best people to be making decisions and in these cases, we need to pursue stronger child protection laws and youth justice processes.

Re: "Consensual" parenting, where toddlers and adolescents...

Sounds like the failed theories from the 1960's all over again. All this is going to do is create a bunch of spoiled brats who are quite probably physically dangerous as well. Sorry, a 3 year old might know its immediate needs, but it can't understand the larger picture of things. Most kids will also very quickly learn how to game this system in their favor. That's what throwing tantrums is all about now, but under a system like this, they will know that it will work and will do it more often.

In a message dated 5/10/2009 12:49:19 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, no_reply writes:

"Consensual" parenting, where toddlers and adolescents have the same powers as mom and dad

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> Sounds like the failed theories from the 1960's all over again. All this is

going to do is create a bunch of spoiled brats who are quite probably physically

dangerous as well. Sorry, a 3 year old might know its immediate needs, but it

can't understand the larger picture of things. Most kids will also very quickly

learn how to game this system in their favor. That's what throwing tantrums is

all about now, but under?a system like this, they will know that it will work

and will do it more often.

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if we were still cave dwellers that would just mean less children. Morbid but

true