Re: Intimacy and Asperger Syndrome – Can They Coexist?

[Guest guest]

There is much truth in what you say. When we see a woman with black eyes go into

emergency, we may ask ourselves how she let it get that bad.

Most people do not realize that abuse is not like a cold bucket of water dumped

on one's head. It seeps in slowly, like if you stood on the edge of the ocean

while the tide came in during a calm day.

By the time people are enmeshed in this trap, they are well beyond the limits

external observers would set for themselves.

Yet a person has to ask themselves what their own self-worth is. They may have

invested much monetarily and emotionally speaking, but if it's at the expense of

their own soul, what good is that.

Administrator

" I have had friends who had left abusive situations, and I have read about

abusive churches. Part of the reason for staying may be that things gradually

get more abusive. A person must decide 'how much is too much?' and " at what

point do I decide to leave? "

Or they may decide ' I have invested some years into this situation, and things

can improve "

" That is why I stayed as long as I did in a church that was abusive, not

specifically to me but to others.

" Nowadays, people are more aware of the need to teach children about dealing

with abuse.

" Hopefully as these people grow up they will be adults who also refuse to accept

abuse. "