Re: Intimacy and Asperger Syndrome: Can They Coexist?

[Guest guest]

Isn't Dr. Marshak the psychologist who was married to a man with AS and who is a

professor in the Department of Counseling at Indiana University of Pennsylvania

and NAA Advisory Board Member? I may be mistaken but I vaguely remember this

quote from her website:

" Many describe living with an Aspie as 'water torture.' It is the

constant drip, drip, drip of small thoughtless behaviors that destroys

the relationship. The lack of eye contact, the obsessive/compulsive

behaviors, the adherence to rigid routines, the self absorption, the

social anxiety, all lead to family members feeling like they just

cannot connect with their Asperger family members. But it isn’t so

much the unusual behaviors that make the connecting difficult, but the

inconsistency. Never knowing what is coming next, makes a loving

connection very difficult. "

I would think that someone with that viewpoint already has a negative opinion of

AS based on her own personal experiences.

Raven