Re: have no idea what is going on with my 6 yr old-help?-could this be ODD/CD???

[Guest guest]

Just doing some reading and wondring if anyone has achild with these diagnosis

and if maybe this is what it going on? I hope it isn't but sometimes it seems

like it might be but I just know what theDSM says about it.

Thanks,

> >

> > Hi ,

> >

> > Mine are always worse during the school year also because of the stress,

anxiety, and trying to hold it together in the classroom in front of  their

peers.

> > When they come home they feel safe. They can let go with you. Of course

being sick can add to his behaviors.

> > My daughter used to do that behavior in the car, kick the seat, throw things

at me,unbuckle, scream ,etc. What I did was pull over and tell her we would sit

there all day until she stopped because it was dangerous to drive like that.

> > Do you think maybe the zoloft could be making him hyper manic? That happens

with my 8yr old. He can't take any SSRI'S for that reason. Is his diagnosis ocd

only? I'm sorry, I'm sure it was posted before.

> > Just some quick thoughts here.

> >

> > Hang in there!!!!

> >

> > Hugs

> > judy

> >

> >

> >

> > ________________________________

> > From: shellspace71 <shellspace71@>

> > To:

> > Sent: Wednesday, October 21, 2009 10:00:50 PM

> > Subject: have no idea what is going on with my 6 yr

old-help?

> >

> >  

> > My 6 yr old, OCD, Anxiety and PDD-NOS/sendory interation disorder son is

getting worse. Since school started he has come home and meltedown almost every

day.I have no idea if his behavior is him trying to be a brat, or anxiety or

something else. He hits, kicks, throws thing, has ALOT of anger. Of course it is

saved only for me. Today, he was sitting at supper saying he was going to wet

his pants, on purpose, I ignored this thinking it was attention getting, he was

saying it on purpose, then he actually did it-right in the chair-on purpose!

Never done that before. I took him in his room, told him to change then stay in

his room. Yesterday was full of him attacking me, hitting me while driving,

tearing my car roof, etc. I swear this has to be caused by school. I can't think

of anything else that has changed. It is wearing me down emotionally and I spent

a good part of last night and today crying. I have begged his home based

therpaist (who I like more now)

> > for suggestions and help, thinking it is something I am doing or maybe

something I need to do. I am burned out. I get no help from my husband. He just

gets mad if he get awakened by his son's tantrums. No help though. he works

third shift and his sleep is of ultimate importance. The therapist is going to

the school next week to observe. I am burned out. I see my therapist when I can

but the co pay is sooo high I can afford about once a month. I am going to be

starting an ASD group when they get a meeting time.

> > My son has been sick this past month but is getting over it and I just don't

understand his behavior. Any thoughts? He is on Zoloft, 50mg, risperdal.25 mg in

th eAm and .25mg after school and meletonin at bedtime. I am beside myself. I

have no idea how to help him. There is no residential treatment for him I was

told tonight-state funding cuts.

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

Yes, I do. Feel free to ask away!!!!

Hugs

judy

Subject: Re: have no idea what is going on with my 6 yr

old-help?-could this be ODD/CD???

To:

Date: Friday, October 23, 2009, 8:41 PM

 

Just doing some reading and wondring if anyone has achild with these diagnosis

and if maybe this is what it going on? I hope it isn't but sometimes it seems

like it might be but I just know what theDSM says about it.

Thanks,

> >

> > Hi ,

> >

> > Mine are always worse during the school year also because of the stress,

anxiety, and trying to hold it together in the classroom in front of  their

peers.

> > When they come home they feel safe. They can let go with you. Of course

being sick can add to his behaviors.

> > My daughter used to do that behavior in the car, kick the seat, throw things

at me,unbuckle, scream ,etc. What I did was pull over and tell her we would sit

there all day until she stopped because it was dangerous to drive like that.

> > Do you think maybe the zoloft could be making him hyper manic? That happens

with my 8yr old. He can't take any SSRI'S for that reason. Is his diagnosis ocd

only? I'm sorry, I'm sure it was posted before.

> > Just some quick thoughts here.

> >

> > Hang in there!!!!

> >

> > Hugs

> > judy

> >

> >

> >

> > ____________ _________ _________ __

> > From: shellspace71 <shellspace71@ >

> > To: @ yahoogroups. com

> > Sent: Wednesday, October 21, 2009 10:00:50 PM

> > Subject: have no idea what is going on with my 6 yr

old-help?

> >

> >  

> > My 6 yr old, OCD, Anxiety and PDD-NOS/sendory interation disorder son is

getting worse. Since school started he has come home and meltedown almost every

day.I have no idea if his behavior is him trying to be a brat, or anxiety or

something else. He hits, kicks, throws thing, has ALOT of anger. Of course it is

saved only for me. Today, he was sitting at supper saying he was going to wet

his pants, on purpose, I ignored this thinking it was attention getting, he was

saying it on purpose, then he actually did it-right in the chair-on purpose!

Never done that before. I took him in his room, told him to change then stay in

his room. Yesterday was full of him attacking me, hitting me while driving,

tearing my car roof, etc. I swear this has to be caused by school. I can't think

of anything else that has changed. It is wearing me down emotionally and I spent

a good part of last night and today crying. I have begged his home based

therpaist (who I like more

now)

> > for suggestions and help, thinking it is something I am doing or maybe

something I need to do. I am burned out. I get no help from my husband. He just

gets mad if he get awakened by his son's tantrums. No help though. he works

third shift and his sleep is of ultimate importance. The therapist is going to

the school next week to observe. I am burned out. I see my therapist when I can

but the co pay is sooo high I can afford about once a month. I am going to be

starting an ASD group when they get a meeting time.

> > My son has been sick this past month but is getting over it and I just don't

understand his behavior. Any thoughts? He is on Zoloft, 50mg, risperdal.25 mg in

th eAm and .25mg after school and meletonin at bedtime. I am beside myself. I

have no idea how to help him. There is no residential treatment for him I was

told tonight-state funding cuts.

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Well, how do you know your child has this and A. it is not caused by some other

disorder already there and B. your kid isn't just being naughty? What is the

difference? I am in tears daily with this child. He is mean ( he used to at

least have loving moments with me, they are getting fewer)physically agressive,

negative to the extreme, seems to of course always want his way (although

nothing ever seems to make him happy even if he does get his way). He is tearful

but it doesn't last. He is SO angry so much. Everything is stupid, ugly bad,

etc. There is nothing you can do to prevent a meltdown. I can't explain it other

than he is just mean and never content. I can see some OCD in what he does but

this right now is larger. I don't know what is fueling this-he won't talk. I am

ready to leave. Even my mother said I need a vacation (like that is even

possible-who would watch him?). Of course I get the brunt of this behavior.

Nothing has changed in the way I relate to him (that I know of) but boy, dealing

with this will quickly errode any sense of peace or calmness in a parents life.

> > >

> > > Hi ,

> > >

> > > Mine are always worse during the school year also because of the stress,

anxiety, and trying to hold it together in the classroom in front of  their

peers.

> > > When they come home they feel safe. They can let go with you. Of course

being sick can add to his behaviors.

> > > My daughter used to do that behavior in the car, kick the seat, throw

things at me,unbuckle, scream ,etc. What I did was pull over and tell her we

would sit there all day until she stopped because it was dangerous to drive like

that.

> > > Do you think maybe the zoloft could be making him hyper manic? That

happens with my 8yr old. He can't take any SSRI'S for that reason. Is his

diagnosis ocd only? I'm sorry, I'm sure it was posted before.

> > > Just some quick thoughts here.

> > >

> > > Hang in there!!!!

> > >

> > > Hugs

> > > judy

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > ____________ _________ _________ __

> > > From: shellspace71 <shellspace71@ >

> > > To: @ yahoogroups. com

> > > Sent: Wednesday, October 21, 2009 10:00:50 PM

> > > Subject: have no idea what is going on with my 6 yr

old-help?

> > >

> > >  

> > > My 6 yr old, OCD, Anxiety and PDD-NOS/sendory interation disorder son is

getting worse. Since school started he has come home and meltedown almost every

day.I have no idea if his behavior is him trying to be a brat, or anxiety or

something else. He hits, kicks, throws thing, has ALOT of anger. Of course it is

saved only for me. Today, he was sitting at supper saying he was going to wet

his pants, on purpose, I ignored this thinking it was attention getting, he was

saying it on purpose, then he actually did it-right in the chair-on purpose!

Never done that before. I took him in his room, told him to change then stay in

his room. Yesterday was full of him attacking me, hitting me while driving,

tearing my car roof, etc. I swear this has to be caused by school. I can't think

of anything else that has changed. It is wearing me down emotionally and I spent

a good part of last night and today crying. I have begged his home based

therpaist (who I like more

> now)

> > > for suggestions and help, thinking it is something I am doing or maybe

something I need to do. I am burned out. I get no help from my husband. He just

gets mad if he get awakened by his son's tantrums. No help though. he works

third shift and his sleep is of ultimate importance. The therapist is going to

the school next week to observe. I am burned out. I see my therapist when I can

but the co pay is sooo high I can afford about once a month. I am going to be

starting an ASD group when they get a meeting time.

> > > My son has been sick this past month but is getting over it and I just

don't understand his behavior. Any thoughts? He is on Zoloft, 50mg, risperdal.25

mg in th eAm and .25mg after school and meletonin at bedtime. I am beside

myself. I have no idea how to help him. There is no residential treatment for

him I was told tonight-state funding cuts.

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

My daughter is now almost 13 and was diagnosed with this from different doctors

on and off since age 6.

It is very difficult to differentiate between this and many other disorders as I

have noted that several doctors have given my dd this diangosis as well as PDD,

OCD, ADHD, Bipolar, etc, etc

It is usually given when the " normal " diagnosis of say, for instance, ADHD, goes

way beyond the behaviors.

 Kids with ADHD display with behaviors like,obstinacy, arguing with

adults,stubborness, deliberately annoying others. touchy, and easily annoyed by

others,blaming others for there behvaior, spiteful, vindictive,negativism,temper

outbursts,hostile, defiance, lack of response to discipline and so forth .

lasting at least  6 months.However if the quality of these characteristics is

more striking than in similar ADHD, ODD would be given instead. It all depends

on the degree of behavior,

The behaviors have to occur more frequently than is typically observed in a

child of a comparable age and developmental level.

 

Hope this helps a little

hugs

Judy

Subject: Re: have no idea what is going on with my 6 yr

old-help?-could this be ODD/CD???

To:

Date: Saturday, October 24, 2009, 11:55 AM

 

Well, how do you know your child has this and A. it is not caused by some other

disorder already there and B. your kid isn't just being naughty? What is the

difference? I am in tears daily with this child. He is mean ( he used to at

least have loving moments with me, they are getting fewer)physically agressive,

negative to the extreme, seems to of course always want his way (although

nothing ever seems to make him happy even if he does get his way). He is tearful

but it doesn't last. He is SO angry so much. Everything is stupid, ugly bad,

etc. There is nothing you can do to prevent a meltdown. I can't explain it other

than he is just mean and never content. I can see some OCD in what he does but

this right now is larger. I don't know what is fueling this-he won't talk. I am

ready to leave. Even my mother said I need a vacation (like that is even

possible-who would watch him?). Of course I get the brunt of this behavior.

Nothing has changed in the way I

relate to him (that I know of) but boy, dealing with this will quickly errode

any sense of peace or calmness in a parents life.

> > >

> > > Hi ,

> > >

> > > Mine are always worse during the school year also because of the stress,

anxiety, and trying to hold it together in the classroom in front of  their

peers.

> > > When they come home they feel safe. They can let go with you. Of course

being sick can add to his behaviors.

> > > My daughter used to do that behavior in the car, kick the seat, throw

things at me,unbuckle, scream ,etc. What I did was pull over and tell her we

would sit there all day until she stopped because it was dangerous to drive like

that.

> > > Do you think maybe the zoloft could be making him hyper manic? That

happens with my 8yr old. He can't take any SSRI'S for that reason. Is his

diagnosis ocd only? I'm sorry, I'm sure it was posted before.

> > > Just some quick thoughts here.

> > >

> > > Hang in there!!!!

> > >

> > > Hugs

> > > judy

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > ____________ _________ _________ __

> > > From: shellspace71 <shellspace71@ >

> > > To: @ yahoogroups. com

> > > Sent: Wednesday, October 21, 2009 10:00:50 PM

> > > Subject: have no idea what is going on with my 6 yr

old-help?

> > >

> > >  

> > > My 6 yr old, OCD, Anxiety and PDD-NOS/sendory interation disorder son is

getting worse. Since school started he has come home and meltedown almost every

day.I have no idea if his behavior is him trying to be a brat, or anxiety or

something else. He hits, kicks, throws thing, has ALOT of anger. Of course it is

saved only for me. Today, he was sitting at supper saying he was going to wet

his pants, on purpose, I ignored this thinking it was attention getting, he was

saying it on purpose, then he actually did it-right in the chair-on purpose!

Never done that before. I took him in his room, told him to change then stay in

his room. Yesterday was full of him attacking me, hitting me while driving,

tearing my car roof, etc. I swear this has to be caused by school. I can't think

of anything else that has changed. It is wearing me down emotionally and I spent

a good part of last night and today crying. I have begged his home based

therpaist (who I like

more

> now)

> > > for suggestions and help, thinking it is something I am doing or maybe

something I need to do. I am burned out. I get no help from my husband. He just

gets mad if he get awakened by his son's tantrums. No help though. he works

third shift and his sleep is of ultimate importance. The therapist is going to

the school next week to observe. I am burned out. I see my therapist when I can

but the co pay is sooo high I can afford about once a month. I am going to be

starting an ASD group when they get a meeting time.

> > > My son has been sick this past month but is getting over it and I just

don't understand his behavior. Any thoughts? He is on Zoloft, 50mg, risperdal.25

mg in th eAm and .25mg after school and meletonin at bedtime. I am beside

myself. I have no idea how to help him. There is no residential treatment for

him I was told tonight-state funding cuts.

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

obstinacy, arguing with

adults,stubborness, deliberately annoying others. touchy, and easily annoyed by

others,blaming others for there behvaior, spiteful, vindictive,negativism,temper

outbursts,hostile, defiance, lack of response to discipline and so forth -yes

this is him right now-but wasn't him before school strated. But he is way off

the charts-with me anyway. 6months?? I will have lost my mind or have run away

by then!

> > > >

> > > > Hi ,

> > > >

> > > > Mine are always worse during the school year also because of the stress,

anxiety, and trying to hold it together in the classroom in front of  their

peers.

> > > > When they come home they feel safe. They can let go with you. Of course

being sick can add to his behaviors.

> > > > My daughter used to do that behavior in the car, kick the seat, throw

things at me,unbuckle, scream ,etc. What I did was pull over and tell her we

would sit there all day until she stopped because it was dangerous to drive like

that.

> > > > Do you think maybe the zoloft could be making him hyper manic? That

happens with my 8yr old. He can't take any SSRI'S for that reason. Is his

diagnosis ocd only? I'm sorry, I'm sure it was posted before.

> > > > Just some quick thoughts here.

> > > >

> > > > Hang in there!!!!

> > > >

> > > > Hugs

> > > > judy

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > ____________ _________ _________ __

> > > > From: shellspace71 <shellspace71@ >

> > > > To: @ yahoogroups. com

> > > > Sent: Wednesday, October 21, 2009 10:00:50 PM

> > > > Subject: have no idea what is going on with my 6 yr

old-help?

> > > >

> > > >  

> > > > My 6 yr old, OCD, Anxiety and PDD-NOS/sendory interation disorder son is

getting worse. Since school started he has come home and meltedown almost every

day.I have no idea if his behavior is him trying to be a brat, or anxiety or

something else. He hits, kicks, throws thing, has ALOT of anger. Of course it is

saved only for me. Today, he was sitting at supper saying he was going to wet

his pants, on purpose, I ignored this thinking it was attention getting, he was

saying it on purpose, then he actually did it-right in the chair-on purpose!

Never done that before. I took him in his room, told him to change then stay in

his room. Yesterday was full of him attacking me, hitting me while driving,

tearing my car roof, etc. I swear this has to be caused by school. I can't think

of anything else that has changed. It is wearing me down emotionally and I spent

a good part of last night and today crying. I have begged his home based

therpaist (who I like

> more

> > now)

> > > > for suggestions and help, thinking it is something I am doing or maybe

something I need to do. I am burned out. I get no help from my husband. He just

gets mad if he get awakened by his son's tantrums. No help though. he works

third shift and his sleep is of ultimate importance. The therapist is going to

the school next week to observe. I am burned out. I see my therapist when I can

but the co pay is sooo high I can afford about once a month. I am going to be

starting an ASD group when they get a meeting time.

> > > > My son has been sick this past month but is getting over it and I just

don't understand his behavior. Any thoughts? He is on Zoloft, 50mg, risperdal.25

mg in th eAm and .25mg after school and meletonin at bedtime. I am beside

myself. I have no idea how to help him. There is no residential treatment for

him I was told tonight-state funding cuts.

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

[Guest guest]

,

Have you read " The Explosive Child " by Ross Greene? I found that somewhat helpful

when my daughter was younger. She seemed to be born with this behavior, and I

went through my worse with her from ages 6-9 , than she started to " get a little

better " if you will.

 

We are all here for you!!

Hang in there!!!

Hugs

judy

Subject: Re: have no idea what is going on with my 6 yr

old-help?-could this be ODD/CD???

To:

Date: Saturday, October 24, 2009, 2:47 PM

 

obstinacy, arguing with

adults,stubborness, deliberately annoying others. touchy, and easily annoyed by

others,blaming others for there behvaior, spiteful, vindictive,negativi

sm,temper

outbursts,hostile, defiance, lack of response to discipline and so forth -yes

this is him right now-but wasn't him before school strated. But he is way off

the charts-with me anyway. 6months?? I will have lost my mind or have run away

by then!

> > > >

> > > > Hi ,

> > > >

> > > > Mine are always worse during the school year also because of the stress,

anxiety, and trying to hold it together in the classroom in front of  their

peers.

> > > > When they come home they feel safe. They can let go with you. Of course

being sick can add to his behaviors.

> > > > My daughter used to do that behavior in the car, kick the seat, throw

things at me,unbuckle, scream ,etc. What I did was pull over and tell her we

would sit there all day until she stopped because it was dangerous to drive like

that.

> > > > Do you think maybe the zoloft could be making him hyper manic? That

happens with my 8yr old. He can't take any SSRI'S for that reason. Is his

diagnosis ocd only? I'm sorry, I'm sure it was posted before.

> > > > Just some quick thoughts here.

> > > >

> > > > Hang in there!!!!

> > > >

> > > > Hugs

> > > > judy

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > ____________ _________ _________ __

> > > > From: shellspace71 <shellspace71@ >

> > > > To: @ yahoogroups. com

> > > > Sent: Wednesday, October 21, 2009 10:00:50 PM

> > > > Subject: have no idea what is going on with my 6 yr

old-help?

> > > >

> > > >  

> > > > My 6 yr old, OCD, Anxiety and PDD-NOS/sendory interation disorder son is

getting worse. Since school started he has come home and meltedown almost every

day.I have no idea if his behavior is him trying to be a brat, or anxiety or

something else. He hits, kicks, throws thing, has ALOT of anger. Of course it is

saved only for me. Today, he was sitting at supper saying he was going to wet

his pants, on purpose, I ignored this thinking it was attention getting, he was

saying it on purpose, then he actually did it-right in the chair-on purpose!

Never done that before. I took him in his room, told him to change then stay in

his room. Yesterday was full of him attacking me, hitting me while driving,

tearing my car roof, etc. I swear this has to be caused by school. I can't think

of anything else that has changed. It is wearing me down emotionally and I spent

a good part of last night and today crying. I have begged his home based

therpaist (who I like

> more

> > now)

> > > > for suggestions and help, thinking it is something I am doing or maybe

something I need to do. I am burned out. I get no help from my husband. He just

gets mad if he get awakened by his son's tantrums. No help though. he works

third shift and his sleep is of ultimate importance. The therapist is going to

the school next week to observe. I am burned out. I see my therapist when I can

but the co pay is sooo high I can afford about once a month. I am going to be

starting an ASD group when they get a meeting time.

> > > > My son has been sick this past month but is getting over it and I just

don't understand his behavior. Any thoughts? He is on Zoloft, 50mg, risperdal.25

mg in th eAm and .25mg after school and meletonin at bedtime. I am beside

myself. I have no idea how to help him. There is no residential treatment for

him I was told tonight-state funding cuts.

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

[Guest guest]

I guess I better reread it. I did read it this past spring. Ugh! Thanks:)

> > > > >

> > > > > Hi ,

> > > > >

> > > > > Mine are always worse during the school year also because of the

stress, anxiety, and trying to hold it together in the classroom in front of 

their peers.

> > > > > When they come home they feel safe. They can let go with you. Of

course being sick can add to his behaviors.

> > > > > My daughter used to do that behavior in the car, kick the seat, throw

things at me,unbuckle, scream ,etc. What I did was pull over and tell her we

would sit there all day until she stopped because it was dangerous to drive like

that.

> > > > > Do you think maybe the zoloft could be making him hyper manic? That

happens with my 8yr old. He can't take any SSRI'S for that reason. Is his

diagnosis ocd only? I'm sorry, I'm sure it was posted before.

> > > > > Just some quick thoughts here.

> > > > >

> > > > > Hang in there!!!!

> > > > >

> > > > > Hugs

> > > > > judy

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > ____________ _________ _________ __

> > > > > From: shellspace71 <shellspace71@ >

> > > > > To: @ yahoogroups. com

> > > > > Sent: Wednesday, October 21, 2009 10:00:50 PM

> > > > > Subject: have no idea what is going on with my 6 yr

old-help?

> > > > >

> > > > >  

> > > > > My 6 yr old, OCD, Anxiety and PDD-NOS/sendory interation disorder son

is getting worse. Since school started he has come home and meltedown almost

every day.I have no idea if his behavior is him trying to be a brat, or anxiety

or something else. He hits, kicks, throws thing, has ALOT of anger. Of course it

is saved only for me. Today, he was sitting at supper saying he was going to wet

his pants, on purpose, I ignored this thinking it was attention getting, he was

saying it on purpose, then he actually did it-right in the chair-on purpose!

Never done that before. I took him in his room, told him to change then stay in

his room. Yesterday was full of him attacking me, hitting me while driving,

tearing my car roof, etc. I swear this has to be caused by school. I can't think

of anything else that has changed. It is wearing me down emotionally and I spent

a good part of last night and today crying. I have begged his home based

therpaist (who I like

> > more

> > > now)

> > > > > for suggestions and help, thinking it is something I am doing or maybe

something I need to do. I am burned out. I get no help from my husband. He just

gets mad if he get awakened by his son's tantrums. No help though. he works

third shift and his sleep is of ultimate importance. The therapist is going to

the school next week to observe. I am burned out. I see my therapist when I can

but the co pay is sooo high I can afford about once a month. I am going to be

starting an ASD group when they get a meeting time.

> > > > > My son has been sick this past month but is getting over it and I just

don't understand his behavior. Any thoughts? He is on Zoloft, 50mg, risperdal.25

mg in th eAm and .25mg after school and meletonin at bedtime. I am beside

myself. I have no idea how to help him. There is no residential treatment for

him I was told tonight-state funding cuts.

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

 

I know that sometimes it seems hard to apply the rules, but I did like the way

the book concentrated on " pretty much only dealing with the big things " , like no

injuring themselves or others, no hitting, destroying property,etc, etc (which

my Jessie did on a daily basis)

 

It helped me with the day to day constant bad behavior. At one point with my

girl, she would rage for 6 hours a day. I had HAD it before I read the book ,and

I took everything out of her room, bed, curtains, posters, and all, and made her

earn back every single item one by one. That was her reward for behaving,

earning back what she had lost.

 She used to be horrendous, and whether or not it was the ODD, OCD, bipolar,

ADHD, or whatever she was diagnosed with I had a huge behavioral problem with

her on my hands.

 

She is almost 13 and still has her issues, but I never thought she would be as

good as she is now. I thought I was going to have to put her in a residential

program, she was so difficult.There was't a day that went by where I didn'y want

to leave and never come back.

I have read your posts and your son sounds like my dd.

 

My 8 yr old son has behavior issues similar to that also but she was massively

extreme. She didn't respond to punishments unless they were huge.He is nothing

like her. She just never gave up. where he will stop after a while.

 

Don't let anyone tell you  this is due to your parenting, especially the school.

 I have a 14 yr old who has always been like an angel.Go figure~

 

Hugs

Judy

 

I wish you luck and remember you are not alone.

[Guest guest]

Thank you! I told my mom that my son had been tryin gto improve and do the

things his therapist suggests and that he had only kicked me twice that day and

she said " ONLY?? " . But for him, I saw him start to kick then stop so it WAS an

improvement-something was going on in his head. He is trying but it just gets so

draining and hard to see the silver lining and small steps when you are

constantly at war (and I try to pick my battles but living in a constant state

of negativity from him where NOTHING is ever right drains you). Yesterday he

started marching instead of kciking (though he did lsoe it twice). This is

better than an hour of me restraining him. But he also had on the floor tantrums

at the art museum, etc and I just left instead of playing into them (o.k. I

didn't leave him, but he didn't know I didn't go). I will look at hte book again

monday and try really hard to gain some perspective on this. Thanks you so

much-you have given me a little hope-and boy do I need it right now.

>

> Hi ,

>  

> I know that sometimes it seems hard to apply the rules, but I did like the way

the book concentrated on " pretty much only dealing with the big things " , like no

injuring themselves or others, no hitting, destroying property,etc, etc (which

my Jessie did on a daily basis)

>  

> It helped me with the day to day constant bad behavior. At one point with my

girl, she would rage for 6 hours a day. I had HAD it before I read the book ,and

I took everything out of her room, bed, curtains, posters, and all, and made her

earn back every single item one by one. That was her reward for behaving,

earning back what she had lost.

>  She used to be horrendous, and whether or not it was the ODD, OCD, bipolar,

ADHD, or whatever she was diagnosed with I had a huge behavioral problem with

her on my hands.

>  

> She is almost 13 and still has her issues, but I never thought she would be as

good as she is now. I thought I was going to have to put her in a residential

program, she was so difficult.There was't a day that went by where I didn'y want

to leave and never come back.

> I have read your posts and your son sounds like my dd.

>  

> My 8 yr old son has behavior issues similar to that also but she was massively

extreme. She didn't respond to punishments unless they were huge.He is nothing

like her. She just never gave up. where he will stop after a while.

>  

> Don't let anyone tell you  this is due to your parenting, especially the

school.

>  I have a 14 yr old who has always been like an angel.Go figure~

>  

> Hugs

> Judy

>  

> I wish you luck and remember you are not alone.

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

The Ross Greene methodology has been helpful for me too.

Bonnie

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> > > > > Hi ,

> > > > >

> > > > > Mine are always worse during the school year also because of the

stress, anxiety, and trying to hold it together in the classroom in front of�

their peers.

> > > > > When they come home they feel safe. They can let go with you. Of

course being sick can add to his behaviors.

> > > > > My daughter used to do that behavior in the car, kick the seat, throw

things at me,unbuckle, scream ,etc. What I did was pull over and tell her we

would sit there all day until she stopped because it was dangerous to drive like

that.

> > > > > Do you think maybe the zoloft could be making him hyper manic? That

happens with my 8yr old. He can't take any SSRI'S for that reason. Is his

diagnosis ocd only? I'm sorry, I'm sure it was posted before.

> > > > > Just some quick thoughts here.

> > > > >

> > > > > Hang in there!!!!

> > > > >

> > > > > Hugs

> > > > > judy

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> > > > > From: shellspace71 <shellspace71@ >

> > > > > To: @ yahoogroups. com

> > > > > Sent: Wednesday, October 21, 2009 10:00:50 PM

> > > > > Subject: have no idea what is going on with my 6 yr

old-help?

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> > > > > My 6 yr old, OCD, Anxiety and PDD-NOS/sendory interation disorder son

is getting worse. Since school started he has come home and meltedown almost

every day.I have no idea if his behavior is him trying to be a brat, or anxiety

or something else. He hits, kicks, throws thing, has ALOT of anger. Of course it

is saved only for me. Today, he was sitting at supper saying he was going to wet

his pants, on purpose, I ignored this thinking it was attention getting, he was

saying it on purpose, then he actually did it-right in the chair-on purpose!

Never done that before. I took him in his room, told him to change then stay in

his room. Yesterday was full of him attacking me, hitting me while driving,

tearing my car roof, etc. I swear this has to be caused by school. I can't think

of anything else that has changed. It is wearing me down emotionally and I spent

a good part of last night and today crying. I have begged his home based

therpaist (who I like

> > more

> > > now)

> > > > > for suggestions and help, thinking it is something I am doing or maybe

something I need to do. I am burned out. I get no help from my husband. He just

gets mad if he get awakened by his son's tantrums. No help though. he works

third shift and his sleep is of ultimate importance. The therapist is going to

the school next week to observe. I am burned out. I see my therapist when I can

but the co pay is sooo high I can afford about once a month. I am going to be

starting an ASD group when they get a meeting time.

> > > > > My son has been sick this past month but is getting over it and I just

don't understand his behavior. Any thoughts? He is on Zoloft, 50mg, risperdal.25

mg in th eAm and .25mg after school and meletonin at bedtime. I am beside

myself. I have no idea how to help him. There is no residential treatment for

him I was told tonight-state funding cuts.

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