Abuse and Bullying RE: Intimacy and Asperger Syndrome

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gprobertson wrote: "well if what you are saying is true, i hope all the other people with disabilities stop choosing to use their wheelchairs, hearing aids, guide dogs, breathing apparatus, glasses, asthma puffers etc etc and choose to function without them. Just walk away guys. Its your choice"

You are trying to compare physical ailments with social problems.

In other words you are comparing apples to oranges and shouting, "But they're all fruit!"

How one chooses to react to bullying or abuse is not a physical impairment. It is a choice.

Now, let's look at your suggestions.

If a person who needs a wheelchair in order to be mobile chooses to lie in bed all his or her life and bemoan the fact that the world does not come to him or her, that is his or her choice. He or she COULD be in that wheelchair experiencing the world in keeping with his or her disability but has chosen to make the world responsible for his or her disability and has chosen to be a victim instead.

If a person who needs hearing aids to hear or glasses to see chooses to refuse to wear the hearing aids or the glasses and then complains that the world is cruel because he or she is unable to hear what is being said or to see what is before his or her eyes, that is his or her choice. He or she COULD be hearing or seeing in keeping with his or her disability but has chosen to make the world responsible for his or her disability and has chosen to be a victim instead.

The same can be said about all the examples you provided.

Not once have I said that someone with an impairment should function without appropriate aids with which to experience life.

In fact, I have stated clearly that the appropriate aid for a person who is being bullied or abused is to walk away and, if need be, to take stronger action if walking away does not resolve the situation.

You, gproberston, would have all people with social problems and physical ailments make the world responsible for all that befalls them whenever they refuse to shoulder the responsibility of what they CAN do in favour of playing the victim role to the hilt.

No one can abuse you unless you give them permission to abuse you and in cases of bullying and abuse, silence is giving permission for that abuse to happen and/or to continue.

Raven