Re: 1st days of s1st grade and meeting tomorrow

[Guest guest]

I would try to find an advocate or special education lawyer

to help you get him classifed. There is no reason with a

DX not to give you a 504. And these kids need IEP's I think

to keep the services in place. They benefit from having a

relationship with a school counselor and they benefit from

social skill classes.

I had to have a lawyer attend meetings with me.

She was friendly and matter of fact about what they

needed to provide. She also knew the county level

school lawyer and instructed our district on what is

allowed.

It opened doors.

Good luck,

Pam

communictt took me 4 years to it took meoll tasseeis

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> My son did great the first day, not so great yesterday and who knows today. He

says now that he hates 1st grade, the days are too long, etc He acts out at home

but i give him his melatonin a little early and so far it has helped ( haven't

increased the risperdal yet).

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> Tomorrow I have a meeting with the school. They refuse to do a 504 or IEP. His

therapist is on vacation and I didn't know when the meeting was till yesterday.

So I will be tackling this alone. One thing that needs to be changed is my son

needs lots of bathroom breaks and drinks due to meds plus his sensory

integration disorder ( he doesn't know he needs to go until he REALLY needs to

go). Yesterday he said the teacher wouldn't let him go when he needed to( I have

no idea what really happened). I will get a docs statement if it comes to that

htough. any suggestions for going into this meeting alone and not knowing what

to do?

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[Guest guest]

By law, you have a right to have notice of meetings ahead of time. You can go

to the meeting or you can call them and tell them that you need more time to

prepare yourself and that you'd like to bring some professional opinion and info

for them. Tell them you can't possibly do this with a day's notice. Meanwhile,

you can ask them for a copy of the parental rights brochure (or look it up

online) as well as the procedural guidelines for special education. That will

let them know that you mean business and you intend for things to be conducted

properly. Don't let them try to push it under the rug. Sorry - I just get so

uptight about these things after what I've dealt with and what I've heard other

parents dealing with.

Ceckout www.wrightslaw.com and ldonline.org to help you prepare. Remember that

you can call a meeting as much as you feel is necessary, but the time and date

must be mutually agreed upon.

Best,

Bonnie

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> My son did great the first day, not so great yesterday and who knows today. He

says now that he hates 1st grade, the days are too long, etc He acts out at home

but i give him his melatonin a little early and so far it has helped ( haven't

increased the risperdal yet).

>

> Tomorrow I have a meeting with the school. They refuse to do a 504 or IEP. His

therapist is on vacation and I didn't know when the meeting was till yesterday.

So I will be tackling this alone. One thing that needs to be changed is my son

needs lots of bathroom breaks and drinks due to meds plus his sensory

integration disorder ( he doesn't know he needs to go until he REALLY needs to

go). Yesterday he said the teacher wouldn't let him go when he needed to( I have

no idea what really happened). I will get a docs statement if it comes to that

htough. any suggestions for going into this meeting alone and not knowing what

to do?

>

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[Guest guest]

Hi , I hope today went better for your son.

So I assume the school feels he's doing okay there and that's why they feel he

doesn't need either Plan. From that perspective, at the meeting I would explain

to them about his OCD, how it affects him at home and that you're concerned his

OC behaviors will interfere with school, for them to watch out for those

behaviors and to let you know ANYthing they notice; and also tell them how you

feel it would be best for them to respond to keep his anxiety/behavior calm if

his OCD does bother him at school.

Let them know he said he hates 1st grade, that the days are long.

Do get that doctor's statement regarding bathroom breaks and drinks; mention his

need for them and that you plan to get the statement to give to them.

Who diagnosed the SID? Tell them about his sensory issues, how they might

affect him in class, at lunch, recess, his behavior, ability to do his work....

Ask about possible occupational therapy at the school to help with the sensory

issues. If they seem to brush off the SID, tell them you would like the school

to do an OT evaluation. (if the school wasn't the place that tested him in the

past)

Ask the teacher(s) if she has any thoughts, noticed anything these first few

days. Always ask them at the meeting for any suggestions too. You might ask

them first, before you make any of your own. Like when talking about his OC

behaviors and concerns they will bother him at school, ask them how they feel it

should be handled, then add your thoughts on the best way; or regarding sensory

issues, ask if they have any other students that are similar and how do they

handle it, then add your thoughts. I just found it went better at my meetings

if I solicited their ideas first. (And then sometimes I had no clue as to what

I felt they should do and really needed some ideas!)

Well, just some very quick thoughts. Good luck at the meeting and do update us.

They may deny a Plan right now but give it more time for them to see how he

does. Oh - anything from last year you can bring up with problems he had?

Mention those and suggest talking to last year's teacher for ideas/thoughts on

how to support your son this year.

-- In , " shellspace71 " wrote:

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> My son did great the first day, not so great yesterday and who knows today. He

says now that he hates 1st grade, the days are too long, etc He acts out at home

but i give him his melatonin a little