Update - I lost

[Guest guest]

I was unrepresented today when I went to a hearing to maintain the

TPO I had in place on behalf of my children. My ex had a lawyer who

completly ran me over. The judge would not let me speak when I

attempted to defend myself over allegation my ex's lawyer kept

throwing up. His lawyer attepmted to defend my ex by stating I have

not kept the father " involved or informed " and I am still baffeled

to why this was relevant.

As I tried to make a motion for continuance the judge told me to

hush and wait a moment. She had her clerk pull information, from

where I am not sure, and then called us up to the bench. I soon

became the bad parent putting things in my childrens head in order

to cut out the father. She took my ex's side all the while

interrupting me anytime I tried to speak. She told me when the

allegation os sexual molestation and child abuse were made by my

daughter I should have called the father and discussed it. What she

wouldn't let me explain is that in the past I had tried and it ends

up a belitting session of me.

THe judge then excused everyone from the courtroom except my ex, his

lawyer and myslef. The judge then threatened me. She told me to

watch what I say about my ex or she will sanction me. I wasn't even

sure what that meant and I had to look it up when I got home. She

told me what I was to say to my children was that there is no reason

to fear their father and they are going to see him this weekend. I

was then subject to a lecture lasting 20 minutes or so about how I

am to act as a parent. We never had an actual hearing...we did this

all " in private " at her bench.

I tried to explain I was only following the instructions of DEFCS as

they said I would have my children taken away of I did not get the

TPO and they found the abuse allegatins to be true. THe judge then

proceeded tp ask me what level of education I had achieved. Once I

told her " high school " she replied that I had an education and

should therefore have common sense. She said I was wrong to listen

to a social worker.

She then told me I had 20 minutes to leave the courtroom ahead of my

ex because she didn't want a fight in the courtroom. I feel today

as if I was battered by the judge and the lawyer. I was not allowed

to speak in my defence, I was threatened and I was humiliated.

I have called a lawyer for help and I will try to come up with the

money. I do know that I am confused now. I feel worthless. I have

spent the afternoon crying.

Thank you for your prayers. I hope this was part of the plan.