Changed my son's therapist-now having regrets

October 11, 2009

My 6yr old oCD, anxiety , sensory integration disorder and possible PDD-NOS son

has been escalating since school started with meltdowns. Monday it got to the

point that I HAD to take him to community mental health for an eval-he was

aggressive almost since he walked inthe door and after an hour it wasn't

stopping. I took this kid in sock feet ( couldn't get shoes on him) in the cold

to this place. When we started to go down the road he was opening the car door

and I had to keep my finger on my lock button and finally threatened to call the

police. We went and he saw someone who basically just asked his history and what

had been happening then decided home based therapy might be better. By this

point I was willing to try anything. It was through the same agency but had to

be a different therapist as some only do home based.

Well wed was his regular appt his his outpatient therapist. He then briefly met

the guy who would be coming over. No time to trasition out of seeing one to the

other.

When I was talking to the new therapist I mentioned that I too had anxiety

(controlled) and he asked if I needed a therapist as he did therapy privately as

well for $40- $80 a session (why would I be bring my son so CMH if I had

money?). I thought this was inappropriate but let it go.

Friday evening he came over. My son was highly anxious. He went through the

standard forms with me and they ask about sprituality (never an issue but they

want to know what the family believes). I told him I wasn't a church person and

he seemed to want to talk about this (inappropriate again I feel). Then he asked

my son if I would be acting differently if he ( the therapist) wasn't there.

Umm, don't we all act diffrent alone? Of course! But I wouldn't be beating my

child. DOn't know where he was going with that.

Then I told him I was trying to practice mindfulness in my parenting and he

asked me where I had learned about that and I started to tell him about this

wonderful book " Buddhism for Mothers " that has made me waaay more calm with my

son and helped me in so many ways. But I couldn't. He didn't seem to want to

hear anything about it once he heard the buddhism title (it's for all faiths

anyway). Also without having met me or my son really he said meds aren't alway

the way to go and behavior modification is better most times-yeah, well, it took

me over a year to even start him on a med-not like I just jumped on it.

So my son is really, really grieving about his old therapist, I have this guy

that I am not at all sure about and just feel like I made a huge mistake. I

don't want to keep yanking my son around to different people as that isn't good

either. I sure don't need someone tearing down what little confidence i have as

a parent though.

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