Guest guest Posted February 13, 2006 Report Share Posted February 13, 2006 I'm so sorry, . The same exact thing happened to my sister. Her Ex-husband molested both of her sons but bought off lawyers and judges with money he STOLE from her and got full custody and she was made to look like the " bad " parent. She also got the " badmouthing " speech complete with threats. I don't know what is going on in this world, but I don't like it. My sister is still fighting and I'm glad you are too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2006 Report Share Posted February 13, 2006 I am just disgusted at this miscarriage of justice. The judge should be debenched IMHO. And any scumbag lawyer who will work for a child molester...well...it isn't good to say what I believe should happen to them (or to child abusers themselves). This just SUCKS. I'm so sorry. Kassiane > > I was unrepresented today when I went to a hearing to maintain the > TPO I had in place on behalf of my children. My ex had a lawyer who > completly ran me over. The judge would not let me speak when I > attempted to defend myself over allegation my ex's lawyer kept > throwing up. His lawyer attepmted to defend my ex by stating I have > not kept the father " involved or informed " and I am still baffeled > to why this was relevant. > > As I tried to make a motion for continuance the judge told me to > hush and wait a moment. She had her clerk pull information, from > where I am not sure, and then called us up to the bench. I soon > became the bad parent putting things in my childrens head in order > to cut out the father. She took my ex's side all the while > interrupting me anytime I tried to speak. She told me when the > allegation os sexual molestation and child abuse were made by my > daughter I should have called the father and discussed it. What she > wouldn't let me explain is that in the past I had tried and it ends > up a belitting session of me. > > THe judge then excused everyone from the courtroom except my ex, his > lawyer and myslef. The judge then threatened me. She told me to > watch what I say about my ex or she will sanction me. I wasn't even > sure what that meant and I had to look it up when I got home. She > told me what I was to say to my children was that there is no reason > to fear their father and they are going to see him this weekend. I > was then subject to a lecture lasting 20 minutes or so about how I > am to act as a parent. We never had an actual hearing...we did this > all " in private " at her bench. > > I tried to explain I was only following the instructions of DEFCS as > they said I would have my children taken away of I did not get the > TPO and they found the abuse allegatins to be true. THe judge then > proceeded tp ask me what level of education I had achieved. Once I > told her " high school " she replied that I had an education and > should therefore have common sense. She said I was wrong to listen > to a social worker. > > She then told me I had 20 minutes to leave the courtroom ahead of my > ex because she didn't want a fight in the courtroom. I feel today > as if I was battered by the judge and the lawyer. I was not allowed > to speak in my defence, I was threatened and I was humiliated. > > I have called a lawyer for help and I will try to come up with the > money. I do know that I am confused now. I feel worthless. I have > spent the afternoon crying. > > Thank you for your prayers. I hope this was part of the plan. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2006 Report Share Posted February 13, 2006 I've never had to go thru something like what you've been thru but I do send my good wishes and prayers out to you. It really is awful when the people with power make such utterly bad decisions. Its a crime if you ask me. Keep your head up and keep fighting Jennie in RI kassihatestwistin wrote: I am just disgusted at this miscarriage of justice. The judge should be debenched IMHO. And any scumbag lawyer who will work for a child molester...well...it isn't good to say what I believe should happen to them (or to child abusers themselves). This just SUCKS. I'm so sorry. Kassiane > > I was unrepresented today when I went to a hearing to maintain the > TPO I had in place on behalf of my children. My ex had a lawyer who > completly ran me over. The judge would not let me speak when I > attempted to defend myself over allegation my ex's lawyer kept > throwing up. His lawyer attepmted to defend my ex by stating I have > not kept the father " involved or informed " and I am still baffeled > to why this was relevant. > > As I tried to make a motion for continuance the judge told me to > hush and wait a moment. She had her clerk pull information, from > where I am not sure, and then called us up to the bench. I soon > became the bad parent putting things in my childrens head in order > to cut out the father. She took my ex's side all the while > interrupting me anytime I tried to speak. She told me when the > allegation os sexual molestation and child abuse were made by my > daughter I should have called the father and discussed it. What she > wouldn't let me explain is that in the past I had tried and it ends > up a belitting session of me. > > THe judge then excused everyone from the courtroom except my ex, his > lawyer and myslef. The judge then threatened me. She told me to > watch what I say about my ex or she will sanction me. I wasn't even > sure what that meant and I had to look it up when I got home. She > told me what I was to say to my children was that there is no reason > to fear their father and they are going to see him this weekend. I > was then subject to a lecture lasting 20 minutes or so about how I > am to act as a parent. We never had an actual hearing...we did this > all " in private " at her bench. > > I tried to explain I was only following the instructions of DEFCS as > they said I would have my children taken away of I did not get the > TPO and they found the abuse allegatins to be true. THe judge then > proceeded tp ask me what level of education I had achieved. Once I > told her " high school " she replied that I had an education and > should therefore have common sense. She said I was wrong to listen > to a social worker. > > She then told me I had 20 minutes to leave the courtroom ahead of my > ex because she didn't want a fight in the courtroom. I feel today > as if I was battered by the judge and the lawyer. I was not allowed > to speak in my defence, I was threatened and I was humiliated. > > I have called a lawyer for help and I will try to come up with the > money. I do know that I am confused now. I feel worthless. I have > spent the afternoon crying. > > Thank you for your prayers. I hope this was part of the plan. > > > Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------ Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2006 Report Share Posted February 13, 2006 I am so sorry that it went this way. I cannot understand a lawyer that would knowingly defend a person like your ex. It makes me so angry to hear. Hang in there and don't give up your children deserve it. liquidc2 wrote: I was unrepresented today when I went to a hearing to maintain the TPO I had in place on behalf of my children. My ex had a lawyer who completly ran me over. The judge would not let me speak when I attempted to defend myself over allegation my ex's lawyer kept throwing up. His lawyer attepmted to defend my ex by stating I have not kept the father " involved or informed " and I am still baffeled to why this was relevant. As I tried to make a motion for continuance the judge told me to hush and wait a moment. She had her clerk pull information, from where I am not sure, and then called us up to the bench. I soon became the bad parent putting things in my childrens head in order to cut out the father. She took my ex's side all the while interrupting me anytime I tried to speak. She told me when the allegation os sexual molestation and child abuse were made by my daughter I should have called the father and discussed it. What she wouldn't let me explain is that in the past I had tried and it ends up a belitting session of me. THe judge then excused everyone from the courtroom except my ex, his lawyer and myslef. The judge then threatened me. She told me to watch what I say about my ex or she will sanction me. I wasn't even sure what that meant and I had to look it up when I got home. She told me what I was to say to my children was that there is no reason to fear their father and they are going to see him this weekend. I was then subject to a lecture lasting 20 minutes or so about how I am to act as a parent. We never had an actual hearing...we did this all " in private " at her bench. I tried to explain I was only following the instructions of DEFCS as they said I would have my children taken away of I did not get the TPO and they found the abuse allegatins to be true. THe judge then proceeded tp ask me what level of education I had achieved. Once I told her " high school " she replied that I had an education and should therefore have common sense. She said I was wrong to listen to a social worker. She then told me I had 20 minutes to leave the courtroom ahead of my ex because she didn't want a fight in the courtroom. I feel today as if I was battered by the judge and the lawyer. I was not allowed to speak in my defence, I was threatened and I was humiliated. I have called a lawyer for help and I will try to come up with the money. I do know that I am confused now. I feel worthless. I have spent the afternoon crying. Thank you for your prayers. I hope this was part of the plan. Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------ Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2006 Report Share Posted February 13, 2006 Of course you did the right thing in listening to the social worker. You and she were acting in the best interest of your kids, and that is NEVER the wrong thing. It is ALWAYS better to err on the side of caution, even if you didn't think he was abusing the kids. And since you know he is, you are even more validated in trying to keep them away from him! Try looking for a lawyer who will do pro bono work, a lot of lawyers will take cases for little or no money when their is child abuse, especially sexual abuse. Write a letter explaining your situation and send it to some local law firms and appeal to their better sides. I come from a family of lawyers, and I know they do occasionally do things like this. Unfortunately, none of them are in your area! You need a lawyer to make sure that you are not being taken advantage of. Make sure your daughter knows to call someone if anythign happens this weekend. I don't know how you can stop them from going if it is court ordered, but make sure she has numbers for child protection services and the police to call AS SOON AS POSSIBLE if anything happens. This is better than having her call you, because the more you involve the authorities, the better your case looks, especially if your daughter is the one calling them. Good luck, and best wishes, Amnesty > > I was unrepresented today when I went to a hearing to maintain the > TPO I had in place on behalf of my children. My ex had a lawyer who > completly ran me over. The judge would not let me speak when I > attempted to defend myself over allegation my ex's lawyer kept > throwing up. His lawyer attepmted to defend my ex by stating I have > not kept the father " involved or informed " and I am still baffeled > to why this was relevant. > > As I tried to make a motion for continuance the judge told me to > hush and wait a moment. She had her clerk pull information, from > where I am not sure, and then called us up to the bench. I soon > became the bad parent putting things in my childrens head in order > to cut out the father. She took my ex's side all the while > interrupting me anytime I tried to speak. She told me when the > allegation os sexual molestation and child abuse were made by my > daughter I should have called the father and discussed it. What she > wouldn't let me explain is that in the past I had tried and it ends > up a belitting session of me. > > THe judge then excused everyone from the courtroom except my ex, his > lawyer and myslef. The judge then threatened me. She told me to > watch what I say about my ex or she will sanction me. I wasn't even > sure what that meant and I had to look it up when I got home. She > told me what I was to say to my children was that there is no reason > to fear their father and they are going to see him this weekend. I > was then subject to a lecture lasting 20 minutes or so about how I > am to act as a parent. We never had an actual hearing...we did this > all " in private " at her bench. > > I tried to explain I was only following the instructions of DEFCS as > they said I would have my children taken away of I did not get the > TPO and they found the abuse allegatins to be true. THe judge then > proceeded tp ask me what level of education I had achieved. Once I > told her " high school " she replied that I had an education and > should therefore have common sense. She said I was wrong to listen > to a social worker. > > She then told me I had 20 minutes to leave the courtroom ahead of my > ex because she didn't want a fight in the courtroom. I feel today > as if I was battered by the judge and the lawyer. I was not allowed > to speak in my defence, I was threatened and I was humiliated. > > I have called a lawyer for help and I will try to come up with the > money. I do know that I am confused now. I feel worthless. I have > spent the afternoon crying. > > Thank you for your prayers. I hope this was part of the plan. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2006 Report Share Posted February 13, 2006 One more thing...your kids know that you are on their side, and that you are fighting for them and with them, and that makes a BIG difference to kids who are being abused. Knowing that SOMEONE believes them and is trying to help is very important. Amnesty > > > > I was unrepresented today when I went to a hearing to maintain the > > TPO I had in place on behalf of my children. My ex had a lawyer > who > > completly ran me over. The judge would not let me speak when I > > attempted to defend myself over allegation my ex's lawyer kept > > throwing up. His lawyer attepmted to defend my ex by stating I > have > > not kept the father " involved or informed " and I am still baffeled > > to why this was relevant. > > > > As I tried to make a motion for continuance the judge told me to > > hush and wait a moment. She had her clerk pull information, from > > where I am not sure, and then called us up to the bench. I soon > > became the bad parent putting things in my childrens head in order > > to cut out the father. She took my ex's side all the while > > interrupting me anytime I tried to speak. She told me when the > > allegation os sexual molestation and child abuse were made by my > > daughter I should have called the father and discussed it. What > she > > wouldn't let me explain is that in the past I had tried and it > ends > > up a belitting session of me. > > > > THe judge then excused everyone from the courtroom except my ex, > his > > lawyer and myslef. The judge then threatened me. She told me to > > watch what I say about my ex or she will sanction me. I wasn't > even > > sure what that meant and I had to look it up when I got home. She > > told me what I was to say to my children was that there is no > reason > > to fear their father and they are going to see him this weekend. > I > > was then subject to a lecture lasting 20 minutes or so about how I > > am to act as a parent. We never had an actual hearing...we did > this > > all " in private " at her bench. > > > > I tried to explain I was only following the instructions of DEFCS > as > > they said I would have my children taken away of I did not get the > > TPO and they found the abuse allegatins to be true. THe judge > then > > proceeded tp ask me what level of education I had achieved. Once > I > > told her " high school " she replied that I had an education and > > should therefore have common sense. She said I was wrong to > listen > > to a social worker. > > > > She then told me I had 20 minutes to leave the courtroom ahead of > my > > ex because she didn't want a fight in the courtroom. I feel today > > as if I was battered by the judge and the lawyer. I was not > allowed > > to speak in my defence, I was threatened and I was humiliated. > > > > I have called a lawyer for help and I will try to come up with the > > money. I do know that I am confused now. I feel worthless. I > have > > spent the afternoon crying. > > > > Thank you for your prayers. I hope this was part of the plan. > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2006 Report Share Posted February 13, 2006 , I am so sorry things went this way. Agree with Amnesty's advice to try to find a lawyer to do pro bono and also to try to arm your kids with phone numbers. I cannot imagine what you must be feeling. Can guidance people at school also step in to help? My prayers join with all the others sent your way. Please keep us informed. Melinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 13, 2006 Report Share Posted February 13, 2006 HI , My family will continue to pray for you. God only gives us what he knows we can handle. liquidc2 wrote: I was unrepresented today when I went to a hearing to maintain the TPO I had in place on behalf of my children. My ex had a lawyer who completly ran me over. The judge would not let me speak when I attempted to defend myself over allegation my ex's lawyer kept throwing up. His lawyer attepmted to defend my ex by stating I have not kept the father " involved or informed " and I am still baffeled to why this was relevant. As I tried to make a motion for continuance the judge told me to hush and wait a moment. She had her clerk pull information, from where I am not sure, and then called us up to the bench. I soon became the bad parent putting things in my childrens head in order to cut out the father. She took my ex's side all the while interrupting me anytime I tried to speak. She told me when the allegation os sexual molestation and child abuse were made by my daughter I should have called the father and discussed it. What she wouldn't let me explain is that in the past I had tried and it ends up a belitting session of me. THe judge then excused everyone from the courtroom except my ex, his lawyer and myslef. The judge then threatened me. She told me to watch what I say about my ex or she will sanction me. I wasn't even sure what that meant and I had to look it up when I got home. She told me what I was to say to my children was that there is no reason to fear their father and they are going to see him this weekend. I was then subject to a lecture lasting 20 minutes or so about how I am to act as a parent. We never had an actual hearing...we did this all " in private " at her bench. I tried to explain I was only following the instructions of DEFCS as they said I would have my children taken away of I did not get the TPO and they found the abuse allegatins to be true. THe judge then proceeded tp ask me what level of education I had achieved. Once I told her " high school " she replied that I had an education and should therefore have common sense. She said I was wrong to listen to a social worker. She then told me I had 20 minutes to leave the courtroom ahead of my ex because she didn't want a fight in the courtroom. I feel today as if I was battered by the judge and the lawyer. I was not allowed to speak in my defence, I was threatened and I was humiliated. I have called a lawyer for help and I will try to come up with the money. I do know that I am confused now. I feel worthless. I have spent the afternoon crying. Thank you for your prayers. I hope this was part of the plan. Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------ Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2006 Report Share Posted February 14, 2006 The school counselors already said they " frown upon " getting involved in litigation. Thanks for the prayers. Re: Update - I lost , I am so sorry things went this way. Agree with Amnesty's advice to try to find a lawyer to do pro bono and also to try to arm your kids with phone numbers. I cannot imagine what you must be feeling. Can guidance people at school also step in to help? My prayers join with all the others sent your way. Please keep us informed. Melinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2006 Report Share Posted February 14, 2006 The lawyer I can understand - in all fairness - everyone has the right to counsel to protect their rights, but what about the judge? Doesn't sound like justice was served in that courtroom. In my opinion, going to court is always a gamble - right or wrong - with or with out a lawyer. That's why during my divorce, when my ex asked for $25,000 and she would not fight me in court for the custody of the children, I accepted. For not putting the family through that battle and $12,500 per child to have my kids with me, I think I got the bargain of a lifetime. Loren Re: Update - I lost Date: Tue, 14 Feb 2006 00:10:35 -0000 I am just disgusted at this miscarriage of justice. The judge should be debenched IMHO. And any scumbag lawyer who will work for a child molester...well...it isn't good to say what I believe should happen to them (or to child abusers themselves). This just SUCKS. I'm so sorry. Kassiane > > I was unrepresented today when I went to a hearing to maintain > the TPO I had in place on behalf of my children. My ex had a > lawyer who completly ran me over. The judge would not let me > speak when I attempted to defend myself over allegation my ex's > lawyer kept throwing up. His lawyer attepmted to defend my ex by > stating I have not kept the father " involved or informed " and I > am still baffeled to why this was relevant. As I tried to make a > motion for continuance the judge told me to hush and wait a > moment. She had her clerk pull information, from where I am not > sure, and then called us up to the bench. I soon became the bad > parent putting things in my childrens head in order to cut out > the father. She took my ex's side all the while interrupting me > anytime I tried to speak. She told me when the allegation os > sexual molestation and child abuse were made by my daughter I > should have called the father and discussed it. What she > wouldn't let me explain is that in the past I had tried and it > ends up a belitting session of me. > > THe judge then excused everyone from the courtroom except my ex, > his lawyer and myslef. The judge then threatened me. She told > me to watch what I say about my ex or she will sanction me. I > wasn't even sure what that meant and I had to look it up when I > got home. She told me what I was to say to my children was that > there is no reason to fear their father and they are going to see > him this weekend. I was then subject to a lecture lasting 20 > minutes or so about how I am to act as a parent. We never had an > actual hearing...we did this all " in private " at her bench. > > I tried to explain I was only following the instructions of DEFCS > as they said I would have my children taken away of I did not get > the TPO and they found the abuse allegatins to be true. THe > judge then proceeded tp ask me what level of education I had > achieved. Once I told her " high school " she replied that I had > an education and should therefore have common sense. She said I > was wrong to listen to a social worker. > > She then told me I had 20 minutes to leave the courtroom ahead of > my ex because she didn't want a fight in the courtroom. I feel > today as if I was battered by the judge and the lawyer. I was > not allowed to speak in my defence, I was threatened and I was > humiliated. > > I have called a lawyer for help and I will try to come up with > the money. I do know that I am confused now. I feel worthless. > I have spent the afternoon crying. > > Thank you for your prayers. I hope this was part of the plan. > > > Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------ Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2006 Report Share Posted February 15, 2006 Gee, what a shock. More bureaucrats frown upon helping children. Debi, whose somewhat bitter! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2006 Report Share Posted February 27, 2006 Oh I too am so glad to hear this. Thank you for keeping us posted. Prayers from here too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2006 Report Share Posted February 27, 2006 My children saw a forensic psychologist Friday. I cannot give details, but it looks as if the judge has very poor judgment. When it is over I will give more, but for now.the children are protected from visiting their father. Pray this is the beginning of the end. Nadine (new signature to help confusion) Re: Update - I lost One more thing...your kids know that you are on their side, and that you are fighting for them and with them, and that makes a BIG difference to kids who are being abused. Knowing that SOMEONE believes them and is trying to help is very important. Amnesty > > > > I was unrepresented today when I went to a hearing to maintain the > > TPO I had in place on behalf of my children. My ex had a lawyer > who > > completly ran me over. The judge would not let me speak when I > > attempted to defend myself over allegation my ex's lawyer kept > > throwing up. His lawyer attepmted to defend my ex by stating I > have > > not kept the father " involved or informed " and I am still baffeled > > to why this was relevant. > > > > As I tried to make a motion for continuance the judge told me to > > hush and wait a moment. She had her clerk pull information, from > > where I am not sure, and then called us up to the bench. I soon > > became the bad parent putting things in my childrens head in order > > to cut out the father. She took my ex's side all the while > > interrupting me anytime I tried to speak. She told me when the > > allegation os sexual molestation and child abuse were made by my > > daughter I should have called the father and discussed it. What > she > > wouldn't let me explain is that in the past I had tried and it > ends > > up a belitting session of me. > > > > THe judge then excused everyone from the courtroom except my ex, > his > > lawyer and myslef. The judge then threatened me. She told me to > > watch what I say about my ex or she will sanction me. I wasn't > even > > sure what that meant and I had to look it up when I got home. She > > told me what I was to say to my children was that there is no > reason > > to fear their father and they are going to see him this weekend. > I > > was then subject to a lecture lasting 20 minutes or so about how I > > am to act as a parent. We never had an actual hearing...we did > this > > all " in private " at her bench. > > > > I tried to explain I was only following the instructions of DEFCS > as > > they said I would have my children taken away of I did not get the > > TPO and they found the abuse allegatins to be true. THe judge > then > > proceeded tp ask me what level of education I had achieved. Once > I > > told her " high school " she replied that I had an education and > > should therefore have common sense. She said I was wrong to > listen > > to a social worker. > > > > She then told me I had 20 minutes to leave the courtroom ahead of > my > > ex because she didn't want a fight in the courtroom. I feel today > > as if I was battered by the judge and the lawyer. I was not > allowed > > to speak in my defence, I was threatened and I was humiliated. > > > > I have called a lawyer for help and I will try to come up with the > > money. I do know that I am confused now. I feel worthless. I > have > > spent the afternoon crying. > > > > Thank you for your prayers. I hope this was part of the plan. > > > > > > > Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------ Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2006 Report Share Posted February 27, 2006 Thank God. Good luck. Amnesty > > > > > > I was unrepresented today when I went to a hearing to maintain > the > > > TPO I had in place on behalf of my children. My ex had a lawyer > > who > > > completly ran me over. The judge would not let me speak when I > > > attempted to defend myself over allegation my ex's lawyer kept > > > throwing up. His lawyer attepmted to defend my ex by stating I > > have > > > not kept the father " involved or informed " and I am still > baffeled > > > to why this was relevant. > > > > > > As I tried to make a motion for continuance the judge told me to > > > hush and wait a moment. She had her clerk pull information, > from > > > where I am not sure, and then called us up to the bench. I soon > > > became the bad parent putting things in my childrens head in > order > > > to cut out the father. She took my ex's side all the while > > > interrupting me anytime I tried to speak. She told me when the > > > allegation os sexual molestation and child abuse were made by my > > > daughter I should have called the father and discussed it. What > > she > > > wouldn't let me explain is that in the past I had tried and it > > ends > > > up a belitting session of me. > > > > > > THe judge then excused everyone from the courtroom except my ex, > > his > > > lawyer and myslef. The judge then threatened me. She told me > to > > > watch what I say about my ex or she will sanction me. I wasn't > > even > > > sure what that meant and I had to look it up when I got home. > She > > > told me what I was to say to my children was that there is no > > reason > > > to fear their father and they are going to see him this > weekend. > > I > > > was then subject to a lecture lasting 20 minutes or so about how > I > > > am to act as a parent. We never had an actual hearing...we did > > this > > > all " in private " at her bench. > > > > > > I tried to explain I was only following the instructions of > DEFCS > > as > > > they said I would have my children taken away of I did not get > the > > > TPO and they found the abuse allegatins to be true. THe judge > > then > > > proceeded tp ask me what level of education I had achieved. > Once > > I > > > told her " high school " she replied that I had an education and > > > should therefore have common sense. She said I was wrong to > > listen > > > to a social worker. > > > > > > She then told me I had 20 minutes to leave the courtroom ahead > of > > my > > > ex because she didn't want a fight in the courtroom. I feel > today > > > as if I was battered by the judge and the lawyer. I was not > > allowed > > > to speak in my defence, I was threatened and I was humiliated. > > > > > > I have called a lawyer for help and I will try to come up with > the > > > money. I do know that I am confused now. I feel worthless. I > > have > > > spent the afternoon crying. > > > > > > Thank you for your prayers. I hope this was part of the plan. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Autism_in_Girls-subscribe > ------------------------ > Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2006 Report Share Posted February 27, 2006 , we're praying. Diane ('s Mom) Re: Update - I lost One more thing...your kids know that you are on their side, and that you are fighting for them and with them, and that makes a BIG difference to kids who are being abused. Knowing that SOMEONE believes them and is trying to help is very important. Amnesty > > > > I was unrepresented today when I went to a hearing to maintain the > > TPO I had in place on behalf of my children. My ex had a lawyer > who > > completly ran me over. The judge would not let me speak when I > > attempted to defend myself over allegation my ex's lawyer kept > > throwing up. His lawyer attepmted to defend my ex by stating I > have > > not kept the father " involved or informed " and I am still baffeled > > to why this was relevant. > > > > As I tried to make a motion for continuance the judge told me to > > hush and wait a moment. She had her clerk pull information, from > > where I am not sure, and then called us up to the bench. I soon > > became the bad parent putting things in my childrens head in order > > to cut out the father. She took my ex's side all the while > > interrupting me anytime I tried to speak. She told me when the > > allegation os sexual molestation and child abuse were made by my > > daughter I should have called the father and discussed it. What > she > > wouldn't let me explain is that in the past I had tried and it > ends > > up a belitting session of me. > > > > THe judge then excused everyone from the courtroom except my ex, > his > > lawyer and myslef. The judge then threatened me. She told me to > > watch what I say about my ex or she will sanction me. I wasn't > even > > sure what that meant and I had to look it up when I got home. She > > told me what I was to say to my children was that there is no > reason > > to fear their father and they are going to see him this weekend. > I > > was then subject to a lecture lasting 20 minutes or so about how I > > am to act as a parent. We never had an actual hearing...we did > this > > all " in private " at her bench. > > > > I tried to explain I was only following the instructions of DEFCS > as > > they said I would have my children taken away of I did not get the > > TPO and they found the abuse allegatins to be true. THe judge > then > > proceeded tp ask me what level of education I had achieved. Once > I > > told her " high school " she replied that I had an education and > > should therefore have common sense. She said I was wrong to > listen > > to a social worker. > > > > She then told me I had 20 minutes to leave the courtroom ahead of > my > > ex because she didn't want a fight in the courtroom. I feel today > > as if I was battered by the judge and the lawyer. I was not > allowed > > to speak in my defence, I was threatened and I was humiliated. > > > > I have called a lawyer for help and I will try to come up with the > > money. I do know that I am confused now. I feel worthless. I > have > > spent the afternoon crying. > > > > Thank you for your prayers. I hope this was part of the plan. > > > > > > > Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------ Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2006 Report Share Posted March 1, 2006 This is already an answer to more prayers than you may realize! Stay focused and hopeful and we will all continue to pray for the right outcome for your children and you, ! .... > > My children saw a forensic psychologist Friday. I cannot give details, > but > it looks as if the judge has very poor judgment. When it is over I will > give more, but for now.the children are protected from visiting their > father. > > > > Pray this is the beginning of the end. > > > > Nadine (new signature to help confusion) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2006 Report Share Posted March 2, 2006 laura I to be reading but not know of any words to say for this as lack really gaining of what it all means but do sense of you stress in all this and so for that am oc concerned to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2006 Report Share Posted March 2, 2006 Thank you for your care. You are a good friend. Nadine Re: Update - I lost laura I to be reading but not know of any words to say for this as lack really gaining of what it all means but do sense of you stress in all this and so for that am oc concerned to you. Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------ Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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