Re: Literal thinking squared..

[Guest guest]

She may need to know of this through the american girls series

of " my body and me " i to think it is of called.

I to also share to her if you to think she will be okay to this

thinking, that some day when she grows of much big like you as a

mommy person this is how her baby will come out of her tummy when

she is of grown up and ready to have of babies. Sometimes truth

logic works of best for children on spectrum. She may also need

reassured that none of her body parts will fall off and out of that

hole because it is of a special one that does not allow body parts

to fall out of them. But that once she grows of a mommy age she can

have of a baby and only babies can come out from there.

She may need to know that also the holes allow of urine /body waste

to come out. And if you close it off the body will get much sick.

these are all suggestions but she is of 6 and you will be as mom to

know which ones she is of ready to know. I to not be to understand

of my own body much until i to be in my late 30s. As a young child

was told that body part had teeth and would bite of me and so it

terrified me of it. I to not learned until much grown up that it

does not have teeth or bite.

Sondra

In Autism_in_Girls , deester_s <no_reply@y...> wrote:

>

> Okay I have a good one for all you literal thinkers.

>

> My daughter wanted to look at her *** with a mirror so I let

her….no

> hiding things here.

>

> She was very distressed to the point of tears when she discovered

she

> had a `hole'. She said she needed to get it fixed that she wanted

a

> big band-aid and she needed to go to the doctors..actually she

said

> vet but I clearified the difference.

>

> I said this is normal that all girl/ladies have this hole and that

I

> have one too. It is suppose to be there and that's what makes us

> girls. Boys don't have one. She still was quite distressed, and

this

> hole to her had to be fixed.

>

> Anyone come across such a thing?

>

> I guess I need to get out the books with pictures. She's only 6 I

> thought it would be a while before such issues came up.

>

[Guest guest]

It ain't funny but I had to laugh!

My GYN has one of those anatomy models that has the different organs

in different colors where they fit like a 3-d puzzle. I've seen

" pro-child " groups have them too, so maybe they're out there for the

buying? I wonder if a 3-d image would help?

Hey, a vet would probably do a better job than a doc, as stupid as

most of them are. <g> I've heard of kids calling their mom's femine

supplies " mom's bandaids " .

HTH,

Debi

[Guest guest]

--

I know I too snickered to myself. But in reality it just goes to

show you how deep the disability could be. Sometimes I forget. But

their thinking is so different.

- In Autism_in_Girls , " Debi " <fightingautism@y...>

wrote:

>

> It ain't funny but I had to laugh!

>

> My GYN has one of those anatomy models that has the different

organs

> in different colors where they fit like a 3-d puzzle. I've seen

> " pro-child " groups have them too, so maybe they're out there for

the

> buying? I wonder if a 3-d image would help?

>

> Hey, a vet would probably do a better job than a doc, as stupid as

> most of them are. <g> I've heard of kids calling their mom's femine

> supplies " mom's bandaids " .

>

> HTH,

> Debi

>

[Guest guest]

perhaps it would help to (along with sondras idea) to piont out that the

mouth is like a hole for things to go in (just food and drink) and that we need

a hole for the pea to go out. technicly boys do have a hole for pee but it

is much smaller cause we dont birth children. hope she learns to be

comforitalble with her body.

eric abbys dad

[Guest guest]

This is actually pretty normal stuff. NT kids have exactly these kinds of

mistaken literalities, too. Especially with human biology. You have to admit

the design is not only divine but quite ridiculous, as well... It's just

that with our girls it pays to anticipate and understand the potential

(il)logical conclusions that our girls might draw; fears that might develop;

conclusions which might not turn out to be useful or accurate. Like Sondra

figuring out that a little girl who is worried about new-found holes in her

body, might worry that parts of her might fall out.

I love this list. And you are a great mom to be helping you DD

understand her world and her self. There are many moms who might

not show the loving compassionate response that you have, that will

ultimately help your sweet girl learn and grow with confidence.

....

>

[Guest guest]

Sondra,

Thank you so much for sharing your perspective. It is so helpful. And, I

feel sad for you that you had that negative experience when you were younger.

Melinda

[Guest guest]

Yes when I to be of little girl and was on potty before bath time i

to remember even before to really have words was of touching self

there on the potty must be of age 4 or so. The mother to comed and

smacked of the hand hard and to say that bites do not ever touch

that again. I to never did and was fearful to wipe and it caused me

great fears almost like a psychosis of it. It took a long time for

me to gain enough safe to wipe but it maybe maked of the mother of

me crazy for along time due to my reaction but her words triggered

my reaction . Children should not be feared about their body or

their parts, uses and designs.

Now as growed up I to read this is normal childhood explorations to

touch self and understand of our own bodies and yet this is often

denied to us as autistics. The sad it we sometimes go through this

developmental stage much later and so is seen as a taboo of behavior

when we explore at age of 8 or older and get stuck there. Some to

assume this behaivor is sexuality driven and it is not it is of part

of typical development. i to remember when did discover self body

awareness I to be in my 30s and it was not that I to went around

touching but the awarenss often causes me tickling feelings in my

tummy and it caused me great embarrass because worried everyone will

notice and so did not know what to do with the feelings and even now

feel need to push hard to the pelvic bone to make the feeling go

away. I to know this is of personal but how can the parents learn of

this areas if no one speaks of it. I to later discovered what was

going in my body through my pschologist and we had many words over

this he to estimated my sexual development to be near a 10-12 year

old even though I to had of childrens, my own self awareness of body

is lagging way behind. But I to ahd maked gains because before the

tickle feelings I to had of less awareness of self and so was maybe

more of 7-8 in years. Parents need to be very direct and logical and

teach truth no matter how embarassing it is of to you if you do not

teach we lag way behind and not gain.

Sondra

[Guest guest]

Tell her it is a gift not a defect. It is because of this that grown up

girls can give birth to new people.

Literal thinking squared..

Okay I have a good one for all you literal thinkers.

My daughter wanted to look at her *** with a mirror so I let her..no

hiding things here.

She was very distressed to the point of tears when she discovered she

had a `hole'. She said she needed to get it fixed that she wanted a

big band-aid and she needed to go to the doctors..actually she said

vet but I clearified the difference.

I said this is normal that all girl/ladies have this hole and that I

have one too. It is suppose to be there and that's what makes us

girls. Boys don't have one. She still was quite distressed, and this

hole to her had to be fixed.

Anyone come across such a thing?

I guess I need to get out the books with pictures. She's only 6 I

thought it would be a while before such issues came up.

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[Guest guest]

>

>

Simply, thank you .

This is actually pretty normal stuff. NT kids have exactly these

kinds of

> mistaken literalities, too. Especially with human biology. You

have to admit

> the design is not only divine but quite ridiculous, as well...

It's just

> that with our girls it pays to anticipate and understand the

potential

> (il)logical conclusions that our girls might draw; fears that

might develop;

> conclusions which might not turn out to be useful or accurate.

Like Sondra

> figuring out that a little girl who is worried about new-found

holes in her

> body, might worry that parts of her might fall out.

>

> I love this list. And you are a great mom to be helping you

DD

> understand her world and her self. There are many moms who might

> not show the loving compassionate response that you have, that will

> ultimately help your sweet girl learn and grow with confidence.

>

> ...

>

>

>

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks for your wisdom Sondra. It is always cherrished as to look

from different perspecitives can be tough for us N/T's.

In Autism_in_Girls , " sondra " <hfa2@c...> wrote:

>

> Yes when I to be of little girl and was on potty before bath time

i

> to remember even before to really have words was of touching self

> there on the potty must be of age 4 or so. The mother to comed and

> smacked of the hand hard and to say that bites do not ever touch

> that again. I to never did and was fearful to wipe and it caused

me

> great fears almost like a psychosis of it. It took a long time for

> me to gain enough safe to wipe but it maybe maked of the mother of

> me crazy for along time due to my reaction but her words triggered

> my reaction . Children should not be feared about their body or

> their parts, uses and designs.

>

> Now as growed up I to read this is normal childhood explorations

to

> touch self and understand of our own bodies and yet this is often

> denied to us as autistics. The sad it we sometimes go through this

> developmental stage much later and so is seen as a taboo of

behavior

> when we explore at age of 8 or older and get stuck there. Some to

> assume this behaivor is sexuality driven and it is not it is of

part

> of typical development. i to remember when did discover self body

> awareness I to be in my 30s and it was not that I to went around

> touching but the awarenss often causes me tickling feelings in my

> tummy and it caused me great embarrass because worried everyone

will

> notice and so did not know what to do with the feelings and even

now

> feel need to push hard to the pelvic bone to make the feeling go

> away. I to know this is of personal but how can the parents learn

of

> this areas if no one speaks of it. I to later discovered what was

> going in my body through my pschologist and we had many words over

> this he to estimated my sexual development to be near a 10-12 year

> old even though I to had of childrens, my own self awareness of

body

> is lagging way behind. But I to ahd maked gains because before the

> tickle feelings I to had of less awareness of self and so was

maybe

> more of 7-8 in years. Parents need to be very direct and logical

and

> teach truth no matter how embarassing it is of to you if you do

not

> teach we lag way behind and not gain.

>

> Sondra

>