Why, why why....is my son only bad for me?-going to try new tactics-advice?

[Guest guest]

I know that part of this may be from me being mom but something said in an

email also made sense. Maybe I get more upset at his behaviors. Maybe the way I

interact is different and trigering. So today when I got up and saw he and dad

had put electrical tape all over the carpet to make a " road " I didn't freak I

just thought " my that's creative " . I didn't freak over all his cars being left

out, I am trying to be more creative-like dad ( very hard for me) and also to

let things go. I thought I was doing this but maybe I can do more. One problem

only I have is that dad sleeps during the day so he has to be quiet (not scream,

etc) and he knows it so will do it on purpose. Also some of you mention escaping

to the bathroom-well, my son will follow me into the bathroom or try to beat

down the door to get in which then wakes the sleeping bear (my hubby). But I am

determined to get though this with him. I hope I can stay determined-that's the

hard part!

We live in a small apt and it makes it hard to overlook the clutter too-plus he

can't damage things as if they were ours.

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> Sorry I know I have posted this question before but it is so upsetting when he

has a great day with dad and with grandma then all week long, even this morning

(see my earlier post) he is awful, horrible for me. I just don't get it.It MUST

be me-or something I do. And no one wants to hear about it, even my hubby

because he sees the good kid only.

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[Guest guest]

I think what you wrote is a great start. There has to be consistency on what is

allowed and what isn't or else I can see that being a huge trigger. It would

also be confusing for the child. It is also difficult when he has to be quiet

because his dad is sleeping during the day. I had that same situation when my dd

was young and I hated it. I felt like I had to be quiet, and so did my dd and it

drove me nuts. It isn't a natural situation, especially for a young child. I

think you are off to a great start by changing how you respond to certain

situations and being willing to be more flexible. I hope it works! Great job.

Stormy

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Sent: Sunday, September 20, 2009 10:25:59 AM

Subject: Why, why why....is my son only bad for me?-going to

try new tactics-advice?

 

I know that part of this may be from me being mom but something said in an

email also made sense. Maybe I get more upset at his behaviors. Maybe the way I

interact is different and trigering. So today when I got up and saw he and dad

had put electrical tape all over the carpet to make a " road " I didn't freak I

just thought " my that's creative " . I didn't freak over all his cars being left

out, I am trying to be more creative-like dad ( very hard for me) and also to

let things go. I thought I was doing this but maybe I can do more. One problem

only I have is that dad sleeps during the day so he has to be quiet (not scream,

etc) and he knows it so will do it on purpose. Also some of you mention escaping

to the bathroom-well, my son will follow me into the bathroom or try to beat

down the door to get in which then wakes the sleeping bear (my hubby). But I am

determined to get though this with him. I hope I can stay determined-that' s the

hard part!

We live in a small apt and it makes it hard to overlook the clutter too-plus he

can't damage things as if they were ours.

>

> Sorry I know I have posted this question before but it is so upsetting when he

has a great day with dad and with grandma then all week long, even this morning

(see my earlier post) he is awful, horrible for me. I just don't get it.It MUST

be me-or something I do. And no one wants to hear about it, even my hubby

because he sees the good kid only.

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