Re: Re: Intimacy and Asperger Syndrome Can They Coexist?

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Hi raven and grobertson;

--- regarding the example of assault and motive, context is important, pertaining to which component of the criminal justice system is dealing with the person who committed the assault.

Raven spoke of being charged by the police, where motive would NOT come into account.

Grobertson seems to be speaking of a different aspect of the criminal justice system, that of the courts. In the courts, motive could come into consideration.

renaissanzelady

"Hi Raven; People have tried to tell me 'they meantwell' when I have objected to how I am being treated. IF they genuinely meantwell, then I would think they would stop what they are doing when I asked themto very plainly. (this is for those who think motive is important)."Perhaps but then again, you are assuming things not in evidence when you saythat if they genuinely meant well that they would stop what they are doing.You are attempting to read the other person's mind and attempting to attributemotive(s) that may not be there in guessing that the behaviour would cease

ifthe person was being sincere.The comment of 'meaning well' may be another ploy which means there is a motivefor making use of that ploy.The motive does not matter as the unwelcome behaviour continues ergo motive isimmaterial when making a decision as to whether one will continue to accept theabuse or walk away.For example, if I punch my neighbour in the arm because I am grieving the lossof my pet cat who was very close to me for a number of years, the motive behindpunching my neighbour in the arm is immaterial when the police come over to myhouse to charge me with assault.The police don't care what my motive might have been at the time of the incidentand my neighbour won't care what my motive might have been at the time of theincident. What the police and the neighbour will focus on is the incident andwhat transpired.This is why motive

is not important when dealing with abuse.What is important is making good choices and best choices that are respectful ofthe individual's right to personal safety ... emotional, mental, physical andspiritually speaking.Raven------------ --------- --------- ------Fellowship of the Aspergian Miracle is the last series of message boards foundedby an original Aspergia member to carry the Aspergia name with thewww.aspergia. com website owner's permission. To contact the FAM forumadministrator, use this e-mail address: FAMSecretSociety- owner@yahoogroup s.comCheck the Links section for more FAM forums.