Re: Not falling asleep due to bedtime anxiety--BOOK SUGGESTIONS?

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Hi ,

Thanks, and I would love the name of that story. We parents were just talking

this morning about finding some appropriate books (unlike Harry Potter or books

with dragons, lol).

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Not falling asleep due to bedtime anxiety

> To: " OCD " < >

> Date: Sunday, September 20, 2009, 12:24 AM

> Another night, another bedtime,

> another 1-2 hours trying to help my dd9 move past her

> bedtime anxiety and fall asleep. Those of you who have

> written about meds that help your kids sleep, is this why

> they need them? Do they have the worst anxiety at bedtime

> when the rituals have to stop and there is no doistraction

> to mask all the bad thoughts?

>

> She peels her nails and cuticles all day, so at night we

> put bandaids on many fingers, sometimes even soft gloves to

> help her stop hurting herself. She seems to be in SO much

> pain when her world goes quiet and still at night. She has

> to do her routine--potty, blow nose, apply chapstick, take

> drink of water--over and over. After a while, she's a

> nervous wreck, us parents are frustrated because nothing is

> working--not logic, not suggestions, not threats of

> punishment, not anger, not begging--so tonight I simply

> stroked her face and talked quietly about the beautiful

> white snow that will make it's way to Wisconsin once again

> this winter. Within 10 minites she was out, asleep...last

> few nights it's been hours before she just passes out from

> mere exhaustion...and us along with her.

>

> She admits she wants us near and will up her frantic

> disposition to make us stay...but I do believe she is so

> afraid to be alone. Tonight rather than lay in bed with her,

> which we try to avoid so it doesn't become habit, I pulled

> up a little chair and just stayed close, stroking and

> talking. I am to the point where I would rather feel pity or

> empathy for her than feel anger towards her...as hard as it

> is to be us parents, it's got to be SO much worse to be

> them.

>

> Sleepless kids? Rough nights? High anxiety? Is this why

> some of your kids take meds for sleep? We see a psychiatrist

> for the first time in two weeks, to finally try meds for

> confirmed OCD and GAD, and likely Aspergers.

>

> Thanks in advance for your insight. I have learned so much

> from sharing your journeys.

>

>

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,

The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook for Kids by Lawrence E. Shapiro and

Robin K. Sprague. I got it in-store at Borders for $16.95. It talks about

being a Stress Detective and has techniques and stories for guided imagery,

mindfulness, yoga for kids, and a variety of other relaxation techniques. So

far, all we have used is the guided imagery. It has kid friendly images and

stories.

Good luck,

>

> > From: katherinedobbs@...

>

> > Subject: Not falling asleep due to

> bedtime anxiety

> > To: " OCD " < >

> > Date: Sunday, September 20, 2009, 12:24 AM

> > Another night, another bedtime,

> > another 1-2 hours trying to help my dd9 move past her

> > bedtime anxiety and fall asleep. Those of you who

> have

> > written about meds that help your kids sleep, is this

> why

> > they need them? Do they have the worst anxiety at

> bedtime

> > when the rituals have to stop and there is no

> doistraction

> > to mask all the bad thoughts?

> >

> > She peels her nails and cuticles all day, so at night

> we

> > put bandaids on many fingers, sometimes even soft

> gloves to

> > help her stop hurting herself. She seems to be in SO

> much

> > pain when her world goes quiet and still at night. She

> has

> > to do her routine--potty, blow nose, apply chapstick,

> take

> > drink of water--over and over. After a while, she's a

> > nervous wreck, us parents are frustrated because

> nothing is

> > working--not logic, not suggestions, not threats of

> > punishment, not anger, not begging--so tonight I

> simply

> > stroked her face and talked quietly about the

> beautiful

> > white snow that will make it's way to Wisconsin once

> again

> > this winter. Within 10 minites she was out,

> asleep...last

> > few nights it's been hours before she just passes out

> from

> > mere exhaustion...and us along with her.

> >

> > She admits she wants us near and will up her frantic

> > disposition to make us stay...but I do believe she is

> so

> > afraid to be alone. Tonight rather than lay in bed

> with her,

> > which we try to avoid so it doesn't become habit, I

> pulled

> > up a little chair and just stayed close, stroking and

> > talking. I am to the point where I would rather feel

> pity or

> > empathy for her than feel anger towards her...as hard

> as it

> > is to be us parents, it's got to be SO much worse to

> be

> > them.

> >

> > Sleepless kids? Rough nights? High anxiety? Is this

> why

> > some of your kids take meds for sleep? We see a

> psychiatrist

> > for the first time in two weeks, to finally try meds

> for

> > confirmed OCD and GAD, and likely Aspergers.

> >

> > Thanks in advance for your insight. I have learned so

> much

> > from sharing your journeys.

> >

> >

> > Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T

> >

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http://druginfo.nlm.nih.gov/drugportal/drugportal.jsp?APPLICATION_NAME=drugporta\

l

> > .  OCF recommended reading list may be viewed at

http://www.ocfoundation.org/ocd-oc-spectrum-disorders-book-list.html

> > .

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